It’s normal to hear a woman saying she doesn’t trust a man in general. Trust is not easy and it does not come naturally. It is earned not just after a single action but a series of actions. It also takes more than just being a good and honest person. Girls are notorious over-thinkers, so it is really tough to please them to trust guys. Behind every great man is a woman rolling her eyes. Sometimes, or should I say most of the time, their instincts about something is always right. That is why, once you break the bridge, you will never have a chance to cross to her life ever again.
Most women are having a hard time trusting men because of various reasons. After a heartbreak, they became cynical about love and thought as if it is something worthless. They came to think that love is like gravity, which causes things to drop erratically that the more you toss it away, the more it falls. And despite the pleasure it gives, it is a canister filled with blissful and excruciating memories stuck in a place where nobody wants to dredge up those throbbing past.
Easy as it may sound but it is not that quick to gain a woman’s trust. It takes consistency in honesty and sincerity. Thus, throughout this article, allow me to share some ideas about why girls don’t easily trust boys.
1. Because of past experiences
We all have a past – it is what makes up who we are now. However, there are some instances when after an intense heartbreak you become afraid to love again. You totally freaked out at the possibility of being left again. You have a hard time trusting men because you still think that, probably, your ex cheated with other women. Your stories of trauma and pain are part of life. To those who have been seriously hurt, it is possible to be so damaged emotionally that is why they’re in doubt to trust again.
2. Because of what we hear from our guy friends
Having a male friend is one of life’s simplest pleasures because you get to talk and hang out with people without drama and bitching but just plain honesty. Another perk of having them is it allows you to obtain a guy’s perspective when you need advice. However, the more you spend time around them, the more you realize those things why men would intentionally hurt women.
3. Because of what they did to our girlfriends
I have witnessed my friend’s heartbreak, not just once, twice, but a hundred times. I can’t help but just comfort them whenever they’re in the midst of heartache. I’ve watched them cried over and over again for a stupid man who hurt them so bad. I’ve seen a woman shamelessly throw herself at a taken man. There are times when I just want to slap them to be awakened from what’s keeping them foolish in love. I may not have experienced it but based on their experiences, it just made me feel scared of trusting men. Can’t help but think and wonder if there are still trustworthy men living on this earth.
4. Because guys are generally a flirty type
Well, based on my observation most men are flirty type and dishonest in different ways. I often receive chat and texts from random guys so I know how they flirt. You can’t keep flirting around and expect a woman to trust you. Even if you don’t get caught, if you are dishonest then you definitely won’t make a woman trust you.
5. Because most boys are just sweet in words but not by action
Words are just words. It would just easily vanish into thin air. However, actions will tell you everything you need to know. Trust is earned when actions meet words. I have to admit that in this generation, most of men are just sweet in words especially if they are still on the dating or courtship stage. First would always be superb but endings would often be heart-rending. This has been the cycle of love in many stories. Thus, how would a woman trust a man if their words didn’t even match with their actions?
6. Because we can’t see the sincerity in their eyes
The most sincere feelings are the hardest to be expressed by words. You need to put some effort in showing it. It is not about how well you say those three words and eight letters or how often you say them. But rather, how sincere and true are you with what you are saying.
7. Because many men are womanizer – it’s their nature
It’s like we can’t do anything about their naughtiness because it is a man’s nature. Even if they just see sexy women walking along the road, it is quite natural that most of them would pay attention to the face and body. This is why women are having a hard time trusting men.
8. Because most of them, if not all, are fond of watching adult videos
Men cannot deny the fact that they spend a lot of time visiting adult sites and watching adult movies. They probably have a lot of fantasies, and that’s why we cannot trust them to only think of one woman all the time.
9. Because they tend to take our love, respect, and affection for granted
In this generation, it is no longer possible to ignore a woman’s love, respect, and affection for so long. If men get into a habit of turning her off and doing things that make her lose respect, they can hardly expect a woman’s trust and stay with them forever.
10. Because most of them think that men should be superior to women
Degrading or belittling a woman makes her lose respect for a man. A lot of guys think that they are stronger and more capable than women. They tend to undervalue the skills and abilities of a woman. When men doubt what women can do, then how can we also eradicate the doubts we have in them? As you know – trust is a mutual feeling.
Trust is built and maintained by many small actions over time. It is built with consistency. However, learning to trust is such a difficult task to do, yet it is the most precious thing in this world. It can take years to earn it but only a matter of seconds to lose it. Thus, it is important to keep trust at the forefront of everything you do.