6 Common Long Distance Relationship Problems and their Solutions

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Every person at one point in their lives will be able to experience a long-distance relationship, but if you are one of the few people who won’t, you are lucky! Of course, it is not easy being in a relationship, let alone a long-distance one where you and your partner are a thousand miles apart, but if you are with the right person, then chances are it will not be difficult.

Every relationship has its ups and downs; it is not all rainbows and butterflies. It is especially difficult to mend relationship problems if you and your boyfriend or girlfriend have distance in between, but never fret! As you read below, you will know that these “downs” in your relationships are very common, and there are solutions to them.

Here are six common problems in long-distance relationships and their solutions:

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6 Common Long Distance Relationship Problems and their Solutions

1. Miscommunication
The number one breaker of long-distance relationships: miscommunication. You cannot have less of it, nor you can have more of it. Communication must be balanced and without it, your relationship is destined to doom. Sometimes, you will feel like you and your partner are not talking enough or the opposite of that, with your partner hitting your phone up every minute – both are not good indicators of a healthy relationship.

Your partner is your confidante, so you should tell him or her the way you feel. Do not be afraid and do not bottle up your feelings because if he or she really loves you, then he or she will understand. If you are not comfortable with your partner hanging out with a particular person, do not hesitate to relate that to him or her. If your partner is now willing to share his or her problems with you because he or she doesn’t want to bother you, then make your partner feel that you are open to helping.

Balance is critical; that is why to avoid miscommunication, you and your partner should properly talk with each other. You need not talk with each other every minute of every day because the most important thing is that when you talk, you can relay your feelings and problems and talk about them in the open instead of keeping them to yourself. Remember, it is important to have said it than not have said it and regret it later.

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2. Jealousy
The green-eyed monster is present in every relationship. It resides in the heart and sees the world through the person’s eyes. It is entirely normal to feel the green-eyed monster, also known as jealousy, inside you. Jealousy is also a pretty common problem in any relationship, whether long-distance or not.

The green-eyed monster spares no one, whether the cute secretary your boyfriend works with or the nerdy classmate your girlfriend is in partnership with, for a project. It is irrational, clingy, and more importantly, it can take over your whole body. If you keep feeding your jealousy, then there is a very high chance that it will take over your thinking and make you do irrational things like calling your partner every hour or forbidding him or her to go out with anyone at all.

Never give in to the green-eyed monster. If there is no reason for you to be jealous, then do not be jealous! Trust your partner enough to not think about made-up issues in your mind. If you pick at every detail like “Why did she text him if he has the reports?” or “Why is he doing that project with her?” then you will never be able to rest. Do not give motives to people who don’t have them. The important thing to do to ward off the green-eyed monster is not to feed it.

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3. Loneliness
Loneliness is a dear old friend who comes by every once in a while, but loneliness is sometimes not very welcome in long-distance relationships. There will be times when loneliness will visit you, but this is a very common thing to feel. Loneliness is there because your partner is not with you. If you look at the positive side, you may feel lonely because you long for the love you feel when your partner is there with you.

Common Long Distance Relationship Problems and their Solutions
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There can be many causes of loneliness. It may be because you and your partner live in different time zones; therefore, when he or she is asleep, you are wide awake and having breakfast. It may also be because of busy work schedules because even if you two are in a relationship, you are still two different people, or it can even be one of the most straightforward reasons – you miss your partner.

The cure for loneliness is to place daily reminders around the house of your partner. For example, you can hang picture frames of special occasions; you can display the quilt blanket he or she gave to you last Christmas, or you can reread the love letters your partner sent you! Keep in mind that even if your partner is not physically there, you can feel his or her love through the souvenirs and gifts you have together.

4. Drifting apart
Some relationships have broken because the two people who used to be in love have “drifted apart”. The process of drifting apart is like a snowball rolling down the hill. At first, it starts small, and then it rolls down into one giant snowball ready to trash any relationship in its way.

It can something as small as returning your messages very late or not returning your messages at all, then progressing to canceled date plans or video chats, not picking up calls, and then suddenly your partner will just contact you and tell you about one of the most overused cliches in romance history: “It’s not you, it’s me” or “I think the distance between us made us drift apart.”

To avoid drifting apart, make sure that the foundation of your relationship is strong, meaning it was not built upon lies and mistrust, but the most important thing of all is to make sure that you know yourself. Most people in a relationship drift away because they have finally discovered who they are, and sometimes you are not part of their plans. So, before you dive into any relationship make sure that you and your partner are confident in your identity. Never look for a person who makes you feel complete because you should be complete before that person comes.

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5. Time
Time is sometimes an unfair rival because it is something that you cannot fight against. Sometimes people in a long-distance relationship are so caught up in their own lives that they forget to spend time with their partners. Other people are so worked with their careers that they forget to make time in their busy schedules for their loved ones. This does not only happen to couples but also to families and friends, unfortunately.

Time is even a more difficult opponent if your partner lives continents away and you two are divided by different time zones. It can be quite a problem to keep up with communicating especially if you are at work the whole day and when you call your partner, he or she is already asleep. The lack of communicating may lead to mistrust and even to jealousy. Nobody would want to wake up the green-eyed monster.

One of the sure-fire ways to fight time is to schedule it. This may sound boring because it becomes a routine, but it works! Look for the perfect time slot for you and your partner to spend time with each other. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is only a few miles away, then take the time to visit him or her every other weekend or vice versa because there is no such thing as “no time” for the people you love.

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6. Trust issues
It is very understandable for the distance to make you feel paranoid about your partner. There are cases when people are just starting their relationships out and are thrown into this whirlwind called life, ending up at different poles apart. They could not spend enough with each other to get to know each other and establish a stronger foundation of trust. There are even times when a person falls in love with someone he or she met online. The lack of connections and the growing numbers between two people can cause mistrust.

The only way to overcome this is to leap of faith. Love is a gamble and you have to roll the dice. There is no sure way to know if you can trust anyone. Do not hound your partner all the time. Give him or her the personal space needed because the last thing you would want to make him or her feel is like a trapped animal. The only thing or reminder that you need to tell yourself is that you believe in the love you share with your partner, which is enough for you to trust him or her.

ALSO READ: 11 Ways to Resolve Trust Issues in a Relationship

Love is tough. It takes a lot of commitment and hard work to make it fulfilling. It is not all smiles and dates all the time. There will be times when you and your partner will fight and even hate each other for petty reasons. But you should never give up on the people you love. Even when your partner is the most difficult to love, you choose to love him or her despite the worst moments. The most important thing to remember is that this happens to every relationship and that in every problem you encounter, there is always a solution!

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Carisha Yabora
Carisha lives for writing and painting. When she’s not doing either of the two, she is most likely to be seen petting stray dogs or commuting in high fashion boots.
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Vrinta
Vrinta
January 29, 2021 4:46 am

Hi, I wanna share about my long distance relationship. I met my bf about 2 years ago at dating apps. We lived apart, he lived in Korea and I lived in Indonesia. I know it sounds impossible sometimes because many people only look for fun or temporary relationship, i thought that too before. But actually we could build our relationship during 2 years and more. He was super busy guy and i also busy sometimes, but we had our quality time together. One day, when i thought i can’t tolerate a time that he didn’t reply my messages over 5 days, i sent him messages about “Why it seems you difficult to talk with me?”. If he told that he was busy or something, i’ll fully understand the situation, but he didn’t say anything, so. Suddenly, he said “What if we break for awhile, because he wasn’t reachable for me and he said since the pandemic ruined all our meeting last year, he become underestimate to see me. I didn’t replay his messages at all, because i don’t know what should i suppose to replay his messages. Could you please help me?

PyZorG
PyZorG
May 19, 2020 6:03 pm

She went to play video games with some friends and i was jealous so i did hurt her feelings and i regret every word i said.. Shes been crying because of me and i hate myself so bad.. I ruined something real and i hope she doesnt break up with me because she is my life. Thank you for the advice really helpfull i understand my mistakes now hope ill become a better boyfriend from now on.

I don't like korea
I don't like korea
May 10, 2020 3:28 am

Im a soldier who’s been deployed to south Korea while my gf of almost 3 years is back in the us. We’ve got along for the most part till recently. I was supposed to be coming home but because of conora im going to be here an extra 4 months. She has been really busy studying classes and hadn’t taking to me much at all and when she did i was just already angry. When she finished her school we had a conversation. Says sometimes she doesn’t feel anything and other times she does but she doesn’t want to split. We’ve agreed to work on our relationship together. What can i do? Ive got 3 more months till i can go home to her.

Anna
Anna
May 1, 2020 7:58 am

We are not dating but the feelings is there but far from each other. He has a girlfriend but feel at home with me, he said I respected him before and I was nice but respect him anymore I believe that’s a second reason of dating the girl while the first is distance. Please how do I rebuild what we’ve shared over years and the love.

Ian
Ian
November 29, 2019 3:54 pm

Amazing, thanks so much for putting in your time to write this. Once again amazing

Alexander
Alexander
November 20, 2019 9:34 pm

A well-written article. I really found it interesting, Thank you Carisha!

Chubz
Chubz
October 22, 2019 7:06 pm

Great advice…. Target acquired…. Thanks a lot…

Navraj
Navraj
October 11, 2019 6:39 am

Hi we are in long distance relationship from few days am feeling more angry or jealous I don’t why it was nt like before.

Pinky
Pinky
Reply to  Navraj
November 1, 2019 1:13 pm

Same here !

Claire
Claire
Reply to  Pinky
December 24, 2019 12:51 pm

I sent a message to my long distance partner yesterday. Asking if he was playing with my heart and feelings. He said i have broken his heart. So i don’t have a clue what to do now. I have tried to reassure him. Told him i was upset with something and wasn’t thinking fully. I really do love him. See him in pain and hurt is killing me. Any 1 got any advice please

Dajprincess
Dajprincess
Reply to  Claire
February 18, 2020 8:14 pm

hey i just read your post, first of all, next time you wanna send him a long emotional messages, type it and don’t send it until after three days, read it after the three days and try to see if you still want to really send that message like that, , then call him after your decision, either you send or not,
So regarding your post, i will say you should call him then meet up with him, no matter the distance, , then after that, , if things settle, try to always, listen , communicate, compromise,be submissive(ego sometimes don’t let us do this) be you, and be positive

Zolee
Zolee
September 12, 2019 10:25 pm

Great advice fo me. #found alot

Ligaya
Ligaya
May 21, 2019 1:22 pm

Love to read all the articles! I found many important factors about long distance relationships.

Sam Adorowa
Sam Adorowa
Reply to  Ligaya
April 3, 2020 5:31 am

I am in a long distant relationship and found this very informative.

Lincoln
Lincoln
April 30, 2019 1:26 am

This is a great advice for those people who are in a long distance relationship. Keep it up

Giannis
Giannis
March 1, 2019 1:41 pm

Well done! Really nice article with great advice!