Are you recently single? Have you just gotten out of a relationship? Well, regardless if your relationship lasted for years or even just a few months, the moving on process is almost the same: difficult. This is because you are like starting from scratch again. You’re back to square one, and after spending time becoming dependent on a partner, you are once again left to fend on your own, with only yourself to lean on.
But this phase is normal; it’s all a matter of managing the moving on process. It is true that time heals all wounds, including the ones endured by your heart after the breakup. But how do you deal with it?
Below are 7 ways you can do to help heal a broken heart after a breakup:
1. Get rid of all the things that remind you of your previous relationship.
After a breakup, you need to clean things up. You may want to get rid of the pictures, presents, and everything else that will remind you of your relationship. This is not because you are bitter and angry, but because you need to start with a clean slate. You owe it to yourself face life anew, to welcome a brighter future without your partner by your side, and the memories will only pull you back from enjoying these opportunities.
People might say that you are being immature for trying to remove everything that reminded you of your relationship, but you’re the one who needs to heal, not them.
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2. Cry it out.
It is not healthy to keep your emotions to yourself when enduring a breakup. This is mainly because your anger and frustrations will be only thrown towards someone or something that has nothing to do with what you are going through.
Hence, one of the first things to do after a breakup is to cry. Let it out. Vent your feelings and set them free. It is also advisable that you do this with a friend or a family member, or someone who can listen and attend to you during this very emotional moment so that you won’t resort to doing anything that may inflict harm.
3. Spend time with people that matter to you the most.
After a breakup, you will surely feel alone and left out. This is not the case, however. You just need to be in the company of people who matter the most. Why not go home, visit your parents, or spend time with your siblings? It may also help to invite some of your closest friends and have some fun time together, like a movie marathon or house party? These events help because they not only keep you preoccupied; you are assured that you are with the people who care for you no matter what you are going through.
4. Go out.
In this context, going out means go for a walk to the park, a morning jog, or bike around the city. The physical activity helps a lot because they make the body release endorphins, the hormone that makes you feel happy. The more endorphins released by your system, the less stressed you feel, and you likewise forget about the sadness at least for a few hours during the day.
Going out also makes you see the wonders and atrocities of the world. These include the trees and flowers blooming, and the heavy traffic in the city streets. These things remind you that the world hasn’t stopped just because your relationship ended, and that there’s a lot more in store for you –if you start moving forward.
Aside from taking strolls in the park or jogging during weekends, it may also help to travel. Go out of town, spend a few days at a beach or go on a hike. Traveling is always a recommended remedy to heal a broken heart due to various reasons. Apart from re-learning the ropes of being single you also re-establish a sense of independence that you thought you have lost after being in a relationship. You also get to learn from other people and other cultures, as to how they are living their everyday lives with fun and fulfillment.
It is also when traveling when you meet new people, and with them, you can make new friends that you can make nice memories with.
6. Focus on doing things you are good at.
When you are not into traveling or going out, then it might help to do things that you love to do, or aspire to be good at. Why not take a cooking class, or immerse yourself into art. Some people take music lessons where they learn to play the piano, guitar, or the violin.
The reason behind this is because you have to keep your mind and heart preoccupied. You cannot just accommodate the negativity just because you are going through the post-breakup trauma. Instead of savoring the pain, it would be better to make yourself productive. By establishing a sense of achievement with a hobby or acquired learning, you also boost your confidence and self-worth.
At the end of the day during your post-breakup phase, you will feel alone and vulnerable. You will feel sad and lonely. But these moments cannot be avoided, so rather than embracing the pain, why not meditate and pray?
Let your mind rest by taking some quiet time. Say a prayer to God and if you feel like things are too heavy for you to bear, ask Him to lessen the burden. After all, He won’t give you something that you cannot overcome.
The pain brought by a broken heart is normal. This is because you have lost someone that truly meant to you, no matter how long or short the time you two have spent together. But always remember that there’s life ahead of you, and that you have to seize it. It’s only a matter of time before you find yourself whole again, and ready to find love anew.
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