15 Ways to Find Your True Love

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They say there are three kinds of cherished love: first love, which is usually called puppy love; great love, which would sweep you off your feet; and true love, which may not be as magical as first love nor as thrilling as great love, yet the one that makes your heart at home.

True love is what everyone needs. It is unconditional, reassuring, and secure. It may not be perfect, but it completes the person who has it.

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The next time you enter a relationship, see to it that it will be with your true love already. This would save you from heartaches due to being with the wrong person. So, how will you find your true love?

Here are 15 ways to draw you closer to the right person.

1. Start praying for the right person.

Personally, I believe God is the greatest writer of love stories. If we allow Him to guide us in our love life, we can avoid falling for the wrong person. For this reason, I believe that praying for wisdom in this area can help a great deal.

2. Prepare to meet the one by reaching your highest potentials.

You want to end up with the best person, right? Well, ‘best’ is relative, since different people have different concepts of ‘best’. What you need to find is the person who can be best for you.

Of course, that would be unfair if you would expect your true love to be the best for you, but you do not make any effort to be the best for him/her. Therefore, strive to be the best version of yourself. Reach for your dreams and work to improve your weaknesses. This way, it will be easier for you and a prospective partner to determine whether you are perfect for each other or not.

3. Make yourself attractive.

Let us face it. Before you can feel romantic love for a person, you get attracted first. Therefore, making yourself presentable can make it easier for your true love to find you. First, you have to look and smell clean. Next, accentuate your assets or the best parts of your body or face. Then, be creative in improving or at least accepting your flaws (in contrast to hiding them).

4. Find out what you really want in a partner.

Creating a list of the traits that you want your true love to possess will help you assess what kind of partner would suit you. Just bear in mind that there is a big chance you cannot find them all in one person—because no one is perfect, right?

The good thing about setting standards is it helps you gather the lessons you have learned from dealing with past partners. You recall the traits that do not complement well with yours, which eventually led to broken relationships. If you have never been in a relationship yet, use your experiences in dealing with family and friends of the opposite sex for this.

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5. Enlarge your circle of friends and acquaintances.

You get a higher chance of meeting your true love when you constantly meet new people. That is why you need to be more sociable if you are a home buddy. Attend parties thrown by your company or organization. Hang out with your friends as often as possible. Join clubs and organizations too.

6. Be with the right company.

Being at the right place and with the right kind of people will help you meet the right person for you. For this reason, be wise in choosing your circle of friends. Their environment determines the kind of person that surrounds them.

For instance, if you do not like the party-animal kind of partner, then avoid hanging out a lot with party-animal friends. Friends of the same feather flock together, remember?

7. Stop basing your standards on movies or novels.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but true love in real life is not as overwhelming as when a rich guy falls in love with a poor girl in movies or novels. Real persons in the real world are less grand than main characters in fiction. Therefore, you should stop setting standards that are too good to be true.

8. Do not focus on physical appearance.

Pure love is unconditional. That means you do not base it on how good-looking a person is. Do not look for a handsome or beautiful face—it is just a bonus. Instead, look for a person with whom you can be comfortable and secure sharing life. Personality, character, and values should be your primary concern.

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9. Find a person whose personality complements yours.

If partners have clashing personalities, the relationship could end because of ‘irreconcilable differences’. Therefore, it is best if your future partner has a personality that matches well with yours. Your personality should be balanced.

What the other has should supplements what the partner lacks. For example, one of the couples may have brilliant business ideas, but s/he lacks the willpower to take action. His/her partner should have the determination and capabilities to turn those ideas into real business ventures.

10. Look for a person whose set of priorities is the same as yours.

Aside from personality, priorities can also affect a relationship. If the couple does not share the same perception about what goes first, it could create a big problem. For instance, a husband may put family as first on his priority list, but if the wife is more of a career person, they could have difficulty understanding each other.

11. Find someone who respects you.

It is not enough that a person makes you smile and feel loved. Look for a person who knows how to respect individuals regardless of their age, status, or relationship with him/her. Why is this important? A person who is sensitive to the rights and feelings of others is more likely to be selfless. That means s/he would be careful not to do anything that could hurt you. You are secure with this person.

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12. Consider the judgment of your family or friends.

Before jumping into a relationship, it is better if you will introduce the person to your family and friends. The problem when you are in love is you are head over heels. You cannot think straight. For this reason, let the people close to you give you the pieces of their mind.

If your family or friends do not like the person you like, then you have to ask why. Try to see the individual from their point of view, and see if from there you are still eager to pursue the budding relationship.

13. Meet their family and friends.

You will only know the person better if they are in their natural habitat. That means when they are surrounded by the people close to them. Take time to meet their family and friends. Observe how they treat them, and vice versa.

If you see a warm and comfortable relationship between the person and their loved ones, it could mean they are good at treating them. If the relationship seems cold and distant, then it is something to think about.

14. Test it with time.

Nothing tests love better than time. After the attraction period, which usually lasts for a year, affection between couples is normally tried by conflicts due to the decreased excitement and show differences. This dilemma could last for up to three years.

In the next years, the relationship could be boring and monotonous, because you have known each other and been together for a long time. That is why many are tempted to look for someone new. If your relationship survives and remains strong after all the years, then it must be real love.

15. Do not let your emotions cloud your decisions.

Like what I mentioned in the previous tip, you cannot think straight when you are in love. Remember, true love is beyond feelings. Do not immediately decide to accept a person into your life. You have to base your decision on many factors. You can refer to the previous tips, and see if the person fits the true love criteria.

Let love find you.

These tips can only help you increase the chance of finding the right person for you. However, there is no formula that can create true love. It just happens beyond conscious effort, and if handled well, it will surely last.

Do not try too hard on finding your true love. Let love find you, instead. And while waiting for it to arrive, focus on loving yourself.

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Cyril Abello
Joan is a freelance blogger who loves writing about personal development. She also loves learning and teaching languages. A Communication Arts graduate, she now pursues a masters degree in Language Teaching. She is into mobile photography, writing poems, and reading for leisure.
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Chimemerila Gabriel
Chimemerila Gabriel
April 6, 2021 7:56 pm

I truely can’t find true love even with these tips. I have tried to make my self happy but still can’t and i truely want to find someone who will take me as i take myself

Kent Wainwright
Kent Wainwright
April 1, 2021 10:17 pm

#1 FOLLOW YOUR BLISS
Follow YOUR bliss. When you do this, you will automatically find yourself with people having similar interests, objectives, values and passion. You will automatically be with people you can share with at deeper levels.

WHAT IS IT YOU VALUE ABOVE ALL ELSE IN INFINITY?
WHAT IS IT THAT MAKES LIFE THE ULTIMATE EXPERIENCE?
It doesn’t need to be the most popular thing in the universe, but it does need to be the thing that holds your bliss.

Follow your BLISS.
and remember: Love cannot be gotten; it can only be given and accepted in return.
“Nothing has any value, unless it can be given away.”

Favy Eva
Favy Eva
December 1, 2020 2:37 pm

Good day All I observe in my life anytime I try to show love to a man he turns me down but when I don’t he loves me more,Right not in any relationship still searching .

Sammy
Sammy
July 12, 2020 9:23 pm

I’m a lady aged 29 and I haven’t met my true love yet.Have had several heartbreaks and now have lost hop
My heart is full of pain.

Arab
Arab
May 16, 2020 11:53 pm

I need true love never end

Folashade
Folashade
May 11, 2020 10:58 am

I just av a broke up…what can do plsss I need help

Edu Ozor
Edu Ozor
April 17, 2020 8:13 am

My dear, that’s Life.
Don’t lose hope.

1. Love yourself more .
2. Do things that you love.
3. Stop worrying.
4. Take good care of yourself.
5. Don’t Expect Or Seek Love.
6. Have faith in God.

Finally: whoever that LAUGH last LAUGH best..

Definitely, True Love will find you.

John Papa
John Papa
April 4, 2020 9:49 pm

I believe in all of your tips and I love the article Soo much so can I use my email to always ask you questions to help me in lifetime??🙏🙏

Mayowa
Mayowa
January 22, 2020 10:28 am

Please I was dating a lady before but she didn’t love me please what should I do

Laukel
Laukel
December 10, 2019 9:10 pm

I’m 32 years old going to 33 April next year. I don’t have a boyfriend, men don’t approach me, I haven’t felt what true love is before. I desire to find a true love irrespective of race but it’s not forthcoming. I have lost hope. I seriously need help because it’s eating me up. I have prayed and fasted yet it’s as if God has forgotten me. I don’t know what to do again 🤔

Issa Osei Kendrick
Issa Osei Kendrick
Reply to  Laukel
December 21, 2019 6:08 am

Hi dearest Laukel hope you are doing well, oh i just saw your comment and i just wanna wish you the best and am hoping you get someone who will always be there for you am young that am 27 years of age what i know is true love is build up with trust, respect, caring,honesty, etc. but if you want us to know each other well i think that will be grate am Issa Osei Kendrick by name Ghana West of Africa is my Country hope to hear from you again. Take care and stay Safe.

Surajit
Surajit
Reply to  Laukel
February 14, 2020 7:11 pm

hi…. Have faith in God and just follow the tips…..surely you will get the right person.

D p
D p
Reply to  Laukel
November 3, 2020 8:42 am

God never do anything you yourself should do it

Cynthia
Cynthia
October 19, 2019 11:01 am

i love dis guy…it a distance relationship,,, nd we don’t see often,,,yea….he always tells me he loves me,,,nd I mean a lot to him…but he don’t show d care,,,less communication,, less attention,,,after then my phone broke down, nd he posted a girl’s pics on his status referring her as his lover…nd it really pissed me off….pls what should I do

prem kumar
prem kumar
Reply to  Cynthia
February 7, 2020 10:48 am

Please find a better person for you.

Saya Bigazy
Saya Bigazy
Reply to  Cynthia
August 20, 2020 10:05 am

If person loves you will show you with his actions not words. Words mean nothing if there is no action following them. If you believe in every word he says why would he even bother to prove you with actions.? Think about that, no matter how good looking a person is or how successful he is , if he can’t make you feel loved and secure in that relationship you shouldn’t waste your precious time on him!!!!

Kanton Starzy
Kanton Starzy
October 16, 2019 3:45 pm

Is really helpful