11 Reasons Why It is Wrong to Love Someone Too Much

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Too much — a description that, when used to quantify love, becomes debatable. Can love be measured? Can a person love someone too much? In a romantic relationship, love can be too much when it is already damaging to the couple. For example, when you engage in improper acts and wallow in blindness, then you might be loving someone too much. Though it might sound selfless, loving someone too much does more harm than good. Here are some of the reasons why it is bad to love someone too much:

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11 Reasons Why It is Wrong to Love Someone Too Much

1. You might be too blind to see what’s right.

If you love someone too much, your reasoning might be clouded. It will be difficult to see what’s right or wrong. For example, you might come to a point in your relationship where you will find emotional and physical abuse okay just because you love your partner. You might even find it acceptable if your partner gets a third party as long as he or she keeps a relationship with you. Being blind because of excessive love can warp your reasoning.

2. If you love someone too much, you might be pouring too much of yourself, too.

If you do, you might be left empty. Remember that a relationship is composed of two complete individuals. If you become incomplete, you will eventually feel like a hole in your life that you do not know how to fill. It will be challenging to love someone because of that.

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3. You might make that person you love your world.

It might sound sweet when someone declares that you are his or her world, but don’t fall into the trap. Making someone your world will make you lose your identity, and in the end, you will not know yourself anymore. Have you given up on what you want like traveling because your partner is a home buddy? Have you given up on your social life because you want to spend all your time with your partner? Saying yes to the questions may sound sweet, but you should be alarmed if you do. It means you’re losing yourself in your relationship.

4. You might neglect yourself.

Have you stopped pampering yourself because you’re too busy caring for your partner? Have you stopped looking for self-growth because your only focus is your partner? You might lose the opportunities along the way if you get too busy focusing on the one you love. Neglecting yourself because of too much love for your partner might backfire and make you feel you have not made much of your life. It might also make you feel too tired. Who knows? You might wake up one day feeling that you can’t give any more love.

5. You might lose time with your friends.

Ditcher. That’s your friend who ditched you when he or she got into a relationship. That might also be you if you just have abandoned your friends because of too much love for your partner. Friends aren’t just a part of a specific phase in your life, so you shouldn’t be ditching them so that you can spend all the time you have with your partner. Remember that your friends have been with you through thick and thin before you got to know your partner. Is it really right to just abandon them?

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6. You might have no time to spare for your family.

Have you been missing out on important family gatherings? Has it been ages since you last ate dinner with your family? Unfortunately, loving someone too much might take even the time you spend with your family.

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7. You might lose track of reality.

Because you love someone too much, you might have let some crucial standards and deal breakers go. For example, you two have different religious beliefs. You might also be in a constant fight with each other because of irreconcilable differences. However, you don’t mind them as long as you can keep the relationship because of too much love. You might have chosen not to see that the relationship isn’t going anywhere because of too much love.

8. You might develop an unhealthy dependency.

Can you still drive yourself home the way you did before? Can you still buy the groceries on your own? Those are simple things you can do on your own before but might not do now because you have depended too much on your partner. We do not want to think of the worst, but if you lose your partner, can you still live independently or will you be left paralyzed?

9. Your partner might find you smothering.

Loving someone too much may lead you to be excessively clingy. You might not want your partner to be with anyone else but you. You might get jealous of his friends, officemates, or even his parents if he spends time with them. You might tend to force your partner to cut all his ties with other people so that you can be sure he or she is yours and yours alone. The possible result? Your partner is smothered and wants to run away from you.

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10. Your too much love can make your partner complacent.

Or worse, your partner might take you for granted. He or she might be aware that you give too much love and might take advantage of it. He or she knows you’ll forgive him or her if he or she does something wrong, so he or she might not think twice of his or her actions. As a result, he might not exert effort in making your relationship work and leave everything on your shoulders.

11. You might feel dissatisfied with your partner.

Because you give too much love, you might expect that your partner will do the same. If you’ve given up your social life for him or her, you might expect him or her to do the same. If you’ve let opportunities pass for him or her, you might expect the same. As a result, you will feel uncontented.

So you see, anything in excess is detrimental. Love isn’t an exception. Loving someone too much is dangerous for you, your partner, and your relationship. Keep things regulated, so you can keep things right.

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TheTruth
TheTruth
August 28, 2021 7:51 am

Nowadays so many women have very high outrageous unrealistic expectations unfortunately making love very hard to find for so many of us single guys seriously looking.

Oyinlade
Oyinlade
July 7, 2021 7:32 am

If you are living together wake up early in the morning pray,cook
if you have given birth dress up for the kid use body spray and good perfume then wear nice dress and sleep no cap!!

Oyetunde ibukun
Oyetunde ibukun
July 7, 2021 7:15 am

All this advice were really good and encouraging wish I could continue reading

mr moh
mr moh
February 23, 2021 10:27 am

I’ve been inlove with my girlfriend for good 3years,we’re living in peace and harmony,actually am so attached to her I can’t take a day with communicating with her,and also am a very jealous partner, when ever I saw her with a guy I get jealous, and she tends to calm me with their lady’s strategy,, we’ve had a lot of fights and reconcile time without number…it was during our last fight she told me that she’s tired of all the crises can’t we stay happy for a month without fight…after then she start behaving strange no texts,no calls,if we’re chatting she don’t reply on time. Anytime I asked her what’s wrong She’ll tell me she’s not feeling okay,she always come up with silly excuses….i pushed hard to know what’s wrong,that was when I realize that love has decreased, am so inlove with her.I don’t know what to do.

Oyetunde ibukun
Oyetunde ibukun
Reply to  mr moh
July 7, 2021 7:17 am

Yeah
It is too much love and she also feel ot,she knows you can’t do without her also don’t give a f*ck bout her let her know you don’t care
Wake up in the morning drinking water and mind ya business

Adiya Abban
Adiya Abban
February 21, 2021 6:06 am

This is true sometimes you can never know the real ‘love of your life’

Rahila Ishaya
Rahila Ishaya
February 10, 2021 6:16 am

this is what is happening to me right now. the guy is using my love to play with me.And I love him don’t know what to do again?

Oyetunde ibukun
Oyetunde ibukun
Reply to  Rahila Ishaya
July 7, 2021 7:20 am

A man that plays without our feelings don’t deserve our feelings because we are human once we met people making us happy we forget bout our boyfriend,fiance and husband because we deserve treated like a queen

Pharuk
Pharuk
February 4, 2021 12:18 am

All facts….been loving a girl for two years now..we love each other so dearly but I think I’m giving her too much love cause I think about her alot that I loose my focus,it’s really affecting me…I really wish to stop that…..reply anyone

Ashanty
Ashanty
Reply to  Pharuk
February 23, 2021 9:42 pm

You know.. I’ve been in this situation also but all you need to do is take more time with your friends..go out with them and do something interesting.. don’t take your phone on that vacation and tell you what after some weeks you’ll surely forget about her

Cammy
Cammy
December 7, 2020 3:24 am

It’s true You are losing your self because you loved someone too much. Leave something for yourself coz it will be difficult for you to control your feelings for him if you already gave all of you to him. It feels so hard if you want to lessen your love for the sake of yourself. Its had to regret losing your self to someone whom you loved too much. 💔💔

rod
rod
November 14, 2020 8:49 pm

his your husband, i don’t see why you are worried about that?

Gifted
Gifted
October 23, 2020 7:15 pm

I just don’t know
I love this guy so much
But I think he z playing with my love I have for him
He doesn’t call he doesn’t text me
If we are chatting
He chat me as if I’m just a friend to him it hurts me to much
I want to stop loving him so much

Oyinlade
Oyinlade
Reply to  Gifted
July 7, 2021 7:25 am

He doesn’t deserve ya love because he act like he doesn’t care you should also act like you don’t give a damn f*ck!

Catrina
Catrina
October 19, 2020 9:19 am

I love my husband too much. Am obsessed with him. What can I do?

Emelie
Emelie
September 30, 2020 11:20 am

This is the realest sh*t I’ve ever read up on Google… My partners just taking me for granted lately… But i don’t complain so i won’t lose her… Please send me tips on how to take your mind off your partner a little

Samuel
Samuel
September 12, 2020 3:52 pm

I love this girl too much, at first she left me for no reasons for one year 6 months she blocked me and I didn’t date anyone because I was still in love with her after that period she came back again we started chatting and things seems great I was so happy but after a month all of the sudden she said that I don’t love you, I don’t feel the same way, I was just using you for money, you are an hindrance in my life to find a good man again she left me and blocked my number I was crying this is the third time now.. I am feeling like I cannot date or be in a relationship again. I am a very faithful loyal Man but I always get disappointed because of loving too much 😭😭

Mixu
Mixu
August 25, 2020 3:04 am

Hi everyone, well i am a person who doesn’t just get into people that much but the people that I get with…I want them to be with me forever. I don’t have so many friends in fact… I only have one Best Friend and 4 other friends. It’s just that. I don’t feel good with my family instead I feel more easy and helpful with others then there were times when everyone left me even my best friend. I was so broken and drowned. I didn’t give up on my friend and I got him back. I was kind of the person who didn’t want to love that’s why I never had a relationship. I beleive that if you live someone you keep loving no matter what. That beleive came firm when I got my friend back. Now there is a person in my life whom I love too too much. I have never loved anyone so much. I have done things for this person that I never did for no-one. Not even for myself even though these things were good for me.
I changed for this person so much but now that person wants to leave me and my heart says please don’t give up we’ll get him. My heart pleads so much that I can’t leave that person even though I want to bit I don’t even want to leave that person. I wanna keep taking care of them and keep loving them cause I have given myself for them and I just want to see them happy…

I’ve lost happiness myself and the above in articles has all happened still I just love them the same way I loved them the first day… I do not wanna get rid of the pain if the cure is to let go of that specific person. I’ve tortured myself so much mentally and emotionally….but I just don’t wanna leave that person.

Judesco
Judesco
July 26, 2020 7:50 pm

This tips are very correct. But how can a man withdraw him self from loving a girl more than so much?

lonewolf
lonewolf
Reply to  Judesco
November 14, 2020 8:48 pm

i now what you are talking about buddy, i like this one girl so much that its gotten to a point where she’s the first thing i think about in the morning and last thing at night-i want to let go because i know she doesn’t and most likely will never feel the same towards me, but its very very hard; The struggle is real my friend
stay woke brother:)peace out!

P
P
June 30, 2020 9:09 am

Here is my situation, I have not been in a relationship for a long time. Due to my social life, I developed interest in someone. That someone showed me visual signs of interest in me. To clear the air, I asked, straight up, are you interesting in me? “No” was the answer. On a different occasion , that person auctioned me of to another person. I never knew what is rejection and what it felt like. I had no idea what to do but cry. that person was still showing me interest. I had no idea what to do than to mot take the person serious, let go, and live life. it’s the second time I was to “you love to much, not to love so much” How do I know not to love so much before getting into a relationship?

Raju Gautam
Raju Gautam
June 21, 2020 7:21 am

Love is like a red red rose that bloom in the spring season only .

Ibe Tochukwu
Ibe Tochukwu
June 15, 2020 1:00 pm

I’m a guy that loves too much…. lesson learnt thanks for sharing.

David O'ray.
David O'ray.
May 20, 2020 11:45 am

This is exceptional!

bhee
bhee
May 4, 2020 11:00 pm

I have 3 years relationship with my bf. I love him too much but we don’t talk about our future together. I don’t want to leave him

Ivan Coleta
Ivan Coleta
April 23, 2020 6:27 pm

I really love this girl too much… I’m even getting worried that she may break my heart very soon… This love is beyond control… I think I’ll die if she betrays me.. Worst of all she takes long to reply when ever I text her.. Though she is always online… Help me lord.

Benjamin
Benjamin
Reply to  Ivan Coleta
June 30, 2020 1:42 pm

Please honestly learn to remove your mind from her. Start to believe it’s her turn to do same and if she doesn’t reciprocate you bail

Mohammed
Mohammed
Reply to  Ivan Coleta
February 17, 2022 5:54 am

Am so much in love with this girl that I don’t have time for my family,, friends and even my self,,,I tends to sacrifice all my time for her,,, though I just came home for holiday so that is the only time I can see her,,,this makes me divote all my time for her,,,,I love her so much that I don’t want us breaking up,,,I really wanna marry her,,,,am in the university and she still in her high school,,,, because of my jealousy I get aggressive on her each time she did something wrong making her sometimes saying she is fed up and guess break up is the best,,,i made her cut ties with most of her guys friends cos I want her all to my self,,,,what do you think I should do,,,our religious different is obvious and age difference very clear but I really wanna marry her in the future to come,,,pls advice me

Cha cha
Cha cha
March 29, 2020 12:55 am

I really don’t knw if my main Loves me or nah but I believe that I loved him too much, I gave too much like I so can relate all of the signs but the thing is I am not sure if he’s worth it or nah? I have ths Trust issues like he keeps on saying on my face that he is not cheating, he loves me but I cannot see it like I don’t know what to do, what to feel, what to act 🙁

Oyetunde ibukun
Oyetunde ibukun
Reply to  Cha cha
July 7, 2021 7:09 am

Lolzzz
It often happens buh give in more strength to make him express his own feelings too
So later after all you won’t regret loving him

shirley
shirley
March 10, 2020 5:54 pm

Thanks so much for the advice but I have a problem with loving too much ,I love this guy nd he used to love me a lot nowadays he doesn’t love me at all but I still love him,he does everythn to ignore me but I still love him !what should i do?

Oyetunde ibukun
Oyetunde ibukun
Reply to  shirley
July 7, 2021 7:12 am

Act like you also don’t give a f*ck about him and see whether he has a feelings for you or not if he doesn’t make friends with ya male friends he will surely jealous
Wear nice clothes
Go out with ya male friends
Use nice perfume
He will surely express his feelings

Rita
Rita
January 31, 2020 7:01 pm

I just can’t stop thinking about this man in my life and I feel like am giving in too much, thanks for the advice

Raju Gautam
Raju Gautam
Reply to  Rita
June 21, 2020 7:23 am

Better to leave him

Nhom
Nhom
January 14, 2020 12:37 pm

It’s happening with me now. I know I started to fall in love with him. I don’t want to fall in love again. I realize I m going to lost my self and will lost him as well. I read what he want me to do more. That I don’t want to do. I keep telling my self leave him sooner before I wipe my tears out again and again 😢

Mike
Mike
December 10, 2019 12:17 am

Having the problem of loving this woman too much en am married ,she not married and she having other boyfriend can’t cope and sometimes am having a headache don’t want to loose her

Halo
Halo
Reply to  Mike
November 3, 2020 2:01 pm

You’re married. Focus on your marriage

Ayodeji
Ayodeji
November 18, 2019 12:40 pm

Thanks so much for dis💋💋💋

István
István
October 18, 2019 4:27 pm

I love someone too much, but these did not happen, instead she broke up with me because of that. I still love her, but she is not sure about the same.
Still I appreciate the advices. These are smart things, and many people are not even aware of them.

Kristen
Kristen
Reply to  István
November 8, 2020 9:23 am

She might broke up with you , may Because she was never in love with you in the first place,… And you loving her too much, .. giving your all to her, might just put her in a difficult place.

Your been too nice put pressure on her .

Angellina Jamila
Angellina Jamila
August 7, 2019 7:05 am

its very hard to follow that because it seems like the tips were written for me ,,i now believ that am in much lov than him,,thanks alot 4 this for it wil help me to know myself better

Kristen
Kristen
Reply to  Angellina Jamila
November 8, 2020 9:32 am

Most of time… I talk about the passion trap….. We guys most times love the girl that doesn’t pay much attention to us .. … And the more she plays hard to get,..the more we want to prove ourselves to win her heart…in same process, .. we gradually loose ourselves, .. as trauma bounding and all forms of abuse set in ….if we don’t know the way to call ourselves back ..we might be lost before we knew it…… And the end,.. should be lucky to win heart, .. we realize it doesn’t worth it all … It is like the advert was better than the product been purchased. … We would certainly ask ourselves questions like ; where on Earth did it all went wrong? . … Cuz at this stage, we might be struggling to be committed.

So, my golden rule,.. Don’t prove yourself,..don’t love too much, . If noticed it happening to you,.. call yourself to order……………..to be continued