19 Unfortunate Signs Your Parents Don’t Care About You

19 Unfortunate Signs Your Parents Don't Care About You
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Do you feel like your family does not love you? Do you think your parents don’t care about you?

Many see their parents as the greatest source of affection and family support. They are supposed to encourage their children to follow their dreams and help them be better versions of themselves. However, some do not get the same treatment. Sadly, some parents have no genuine care for their kids.

Below are some possible signs that your parents don’t care about you.

Not Providing Your Needs

1. No Time For You

If your parents don’t try to spend time with you, it can make you feel like they don’t care. While it could be because they are too busy working to provide for you financially, good parents usually do their best to bond with their kids once in a while.

2. Putting Their Needs First

Parents must prioritize their children, especially the minor ones. Nevertheless, if they consistently put their own needs over yours, it indicates that they don’t care about you. This can manifest as disregarding your emotional needs for their own pleasure. Or they may neglect your physical needs because they are focused on their own.

3. Downplaying Your Thoughts and Emotions

Do your parents tell you to “stop being too emotional”? Or are they saying you are “dramatic” whenever you try to express your feelings?  If so, it’s an obvious sign that they don’t respect your feelings or thoughts. This indicates that they don’t care for you as much as they should.

4. Financial Abuse

Some parents may use their financial resources as a way of manipulating their children. Do they threaten to withhold financial support if you don’t comply with their demands? Do they make you request money rather than freely giving it to you? If this is the case, it shows that they are more interested in utilizing their wealth as a tool of control rather than as a means of supporting you.

5. Never Showing Affection

Do your parents frequently hug you, kiss you, or express their love for you? Or do they avoid physical touch and never utter the words “I love you”? If it’s the latter, it could indicate that they are not emotionally invested in you as they should be.

6. Showing Partiality

Do your parents give preferential treatment to your siblings over you? Do they ignore your needs and feelings and show more attention to your brothers or sisters? This lack of equal treatment and disregard for your well-being clearly shows that your parents don’t respect you or care about your feelings.

Not Supportive

7. Only Seeing Your Failures

Do your parents overlook your achievements and concentrate solely on your shortcomings? Do they label you as “stupid” when you don’t hit their standards but never commend you when you perform well? If so, this indicates that they prioritize criticizing you over acknowledging and appreciating your successes.

8. Never Interested In Knowing Your Friends

Another suggestion that your parents are concerned about you is if they take an active interest in who you are spending time with. Good parents make sure you are associating with the right kind of people. Do they ask about your friends or the activities you enjoy? If the answer is no, it suggests they do not truly care about you or what is important to you.

9. Not Flaunting You

If your parents never brag about your accomplishments, it can be a sign that they don’t see them as important enough to share with others. Parents must support their children and show them love and affection, and being proud of their accomplishments is one way to do that.

10. Never Checking On You

Do your parents ever inquire about your well-being sincerely? Do they express a true desire to know about your life, thoughts, and emotions? If not, this can indicate a lack of concern for you on their part.

11. Seeing You As A Competitor

If you feel that your parents think of you as a rival to other people’s attention or recognition, they do not care about you at all. Good parents will not be jealous of their kids’ accomplishments. Instead, they should be proud of them.

19 Unfortunate Signs Your Parents Don't Care About You
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Not Making You Feel Like Family

12. Not Including You

If your parents exclude you from family gatherings or events, it can indicate that they don’t care about you. Excluding someone from activities or moments that bring people closer together signifies not valuing that person. If your parents do not include you in these family experiences, it suggests that they don’t consider you as important to them.

13. Making You Feel Like A Burden

Do your parents ever make you feel like you are an inconvenience to them? Do they say things like “you’re too much work” or “I regret having children”? If so, this indicates that they view you as a burden rather than a source of joy. It can be hurtful to hear these words from the people who gave you life, and it reveals that they do not have the same love and affection for you that you desire from them.

14. Not Consulting You For Important Decisions

If your parents make major decisions without involving you, such as your education, future, or even just meal choices, it indicates that they do not view you as a full-fledged member of the family. This behavior demonstrates that they don’t value you as much as they should and don’t see you as a crucial part of the family unit.

Causing You More Harm Than Good

15. Gaslighting

When you tried to confront your parents about their harmful behavior, they twisted your words and made it seem like it was all your fault. This is a tactic known as gaslighting, where an abuser manipulates your memory and perception of events to make you doubt your own sanity. They may lie to you, shift the blame onto you for their actions, or change the truth.

16. Comparing You To Others

Is it common for your parents to compare you unfavorably to others? Whether it be comparing your grades to a sibling, your accomplishments to a friend, or generally speaking negatively about you, this is a red flag. It indicates that they don’t have high opinions of you and tend to highlight your shortcomings instead of your strengths.

17. Not Respecting Your Boundaries

To maintain your mental health and well-being, you may need to set some boundaries to give yourself room to grow and develop as your own person. However, if your family continues to ignore or break these boundaries, it shows a lack of consideration for your needs and a desire to control your individuality.

18. Insulting You

Do your parents ever use offensive language towards you or belittle you by calling you insulting names? Do they try to make you feel guilty for something that is not your fault? These are not indications of a loving relationship but rather signs of verbal abuse.

19 Unfortunate Signs Your Parents Don't Care About You
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19. Criticizing You All The Time

If your parents are always quick to criticize and slow to offer praise, it could be a sign that they aren’t as supportive as they could be. When parents only focus on the negative aspects of their children’s behavior and don’t take the time to acknowledge and celebrate their accomplishments, it can be harmful to their self-esteem and confidence.


If your parents don’t exhibit positive parenting behaviors and have never been supportive of you, it’s evident that they do not have a strong emotional connection with you. It could be because they were absent when you needed them, always critical and negative, or uninterested in your life and what’s important to you. These factors point towards a weak relationship between you and your parents, and the responsibility for this falls on their end.

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Cyril Abello
Joan is a freelance blogger who loves writing about personal development. She also loves learning and teaching languages. A Communication Arts graduate, she now pursues a masters degree in Language Teaching. She is into mobile photography, writing poems, and reading for leisure.
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