Not everyone will always agree with your definition of a perfect love story but it doesn’t mean that you should easily give up on you relationship. Remember that although we can’t have everything we want in this life, we have every right to demand and fight for the things and people that make us genuinely happy.
So what would you do if you’ve finally found the one but life isn’t that willing to let you have them? Would you give up everything just to be with them? In other words, would you fight for the person you love even if it means saying goodbye to other people you’ve known your entire life? Are you willing to take every risk just to make your relationship work?
If you’re trapped in these equally frustrating and sometimes tragic circumstances, let this article be your refuge and your strength.
Here are the things that you can do to fight for your relationship.
1. Don’t be afraid of rejection and don’t let it break you.
Sometimes fighting for your relationship means watching your closest friends walk away just because they don’t agree with the choices you made. While some of them sincerely think that you’re just going to hurt yourself in the process, others just don’t want to be in the middle of the “drama”.
It sounds heartbreaking but it’s not your loss. True friends won’t leave you especially when you need them the most.
2. Stop spending time with narrow-minded people.
Stay away from narrow-minded people, especially those who don’t even want to hear what you have to say. You don’t have to waste your emotional and physical energy trying to prove to them that your relationship is worth-fighting. No matter what you say, they’ll always stick to their often obsolete and unreasonable beliefs.
What they think don’t matter. Instead, listen to those who genuinely care about you and how you feel.
3. Gather the courage to express your truth.
The people who care for you, your friends and your family, deserve to know what’s going on inside your head. No matter how hard it is and no matter what the consequences, you have to express how you truly feel – you have to make them see your truth.
Show them that you’re willing to fight for the person you love and to make your relationship work no matter what. Let them see your passion and that you’re serious about this – let them feel that you’ve already made up your mind. It’s up to them if they’d accept it or not.
4. Be each other’s strength; be each other’s home.
When the world is against you, fighting for your relationship means that you just have each other to hold on to. Don’t let this loneliness and your fear of being rejected by everyone make you feel weak, lost and helpless.
Be each other’s source of strength and take comfort in the fact that you are each other’s home.
5. Don’t listen to those who don’t even know your story.
It’s important to seek advice from friends and family but you have to realize that not everyone can understand your struggle simply because of two things: they have never been in the same situation before and they don’t know your love story too well.
Remember that people experience things differently. Relying on other people’s advice can be helpful but make sure that their nuggets of wisdom are applicable to the particular reality that you’re in right now.
6. Save your strength; always choose your battles.
Conserve your emotional and physical energy by choosing the situations that really deserve your time and effort. Fighting for your relationship doesn’t mean that you have to run towards the battlefield every time someone tries to question your decision. Know what’s worth your time and attention.
7. Show the world that your love is stronger than anything
When all else fails, trust in love to keep you strong and hopeful. Have faith in the power of your love for each other and you’ll be unbreakable. Let love be your source of strength and you’ll be invincible.
Remember that no matter how difficult and challenging it is to fight for your relationship, as long as love is at the center of it all, you will never fall in any battle.
8. Know who are true and genuine – and keep them close.
Appreciate the presence of true and genuine people in your life because they’re hard to find. They are reminders that no matter how much it’s going to hurt and how rough the roads will be, you’ll never be alone – and you’ll face every day stronger because you have their love, their support and their kindness.
9. You have to hope that better days will come.
Not all days will be like today. It won’t always be filled with fear, hurt or frustration. You have to believe that better days will come and everything that you’ve sacrificed, everything that you’ve done, they’re all worth it in the end.
Remind each other this and have faith in the promises that you made together. Your love deserves a chance and you both know it – so look forward to a brighter and happier future together.
10. Let your struggle be an inspiration and a lesson of hope.
Let your experiences, your loss and your victories be a source of hope for others who are also in the same struggle. Your love story may not be as perfect as the fairy tales that you often read about but it reveals the same lessons inspired by love, hope and faith.
Don’t be scared to tell your story to those who are willing to listen. Be other people’s light in their darkest times and continue spreading the news of how love was able to conquer all.
You should not be afraid to fall in love and be happy just because other people don’t agree with how you decided to live your life. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, as long as you’re not depriving someone of their own freedom and happiness, then by all means, fight with all your heart; fight with everything you’ve got.
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