Do you still remember the time when you first had your first date with your partner? The way your eyes met and just enjoyed each other’s company? The butterflies in your stomach whenever you’re with her. The silly things you do that make you laugh, or the simple actions that make your heart flutter. It feels like you can conquer anything and everything in the world as long as the both of you are together.
Human as we are, we always want to treat the person that we love with utmost care. But sometimes, we also tend to become complacent and take for granted the things that matter to us. Maybe because we’ve become accustomed to the fact that if a person loves you, they won’t leave you. It’s a sad thought that we should not tolerate. Because to have a loving and long-lasting relationship, one must be consistent in valuing their partner.
I’d have to disagree with the people saying that it’s “normal” to lose attraction with your significant other. If you truly love and care for her, you must be willing to do anything to preserve that love and keep the fire burning in your relationship. You might say it’s hard but it’s actually not. In fact, here are a few ways to rekindle that love again with your girlfriend.
1. Remember and experience it all over again.
Remember the times when you went out on an adventure? The out of town getaways, food trips and the things you did that made your relationship exciting. Try to relive those times and experience it all over again. You’ll surely be amazed at how the time went by so fast and would be amazed that you have come this far in your relationship.
What were the qualities of your girlfriend that you liked when you just first started going out? Sometimes when we’ve been with the same person for a very long time, we tend to see more of our partner’s flaws and mistakes instead of the things that you love about that person. Try to remember those things that made you want to be with her in the first place, and also the qualities that made you stay after all this time.
2. Little things matter.
Buying your girlfriend the drink she likes (or love). Writing down the things that you like about her on post-its, giving her a playlist that contains both of your favorite songs that you can jam with or even just being a gentleman are things that she would surely appreciate and love you even more. These little things may seem irrelevant but it really matters to her. It’s the little things that count the most and also maintains the love in your relationship. These gestures can be a big impact especially when you’ve been with her for a very long time now.
3. Be spontaneous.
Go on an early morning trip to the favorite fast food restaurant that you both like, or have a date somewhere that you’ve never been to before. You can even take her to her favorite band’s concert or the movie that she’s been wanting to watch. Relationships can be boring when you don’t go out on an adventure from time to time. Not only will you get to experience new things, this will also help your relationship get back on track.
4. Do not take her for granted.
When we’ve been with someone for a long time, we tend to neglect the things that our partner does for us. No matter how big or small your partner does for you, never forget to appreciate and be grateful for it. If you were in her shoes, what would you feel if you tried your best to make an effort in your relationship and she doesn’t appreciate or notice it? It feels really bad right? Sometimes it takes a simple “thank you” to make your girlfriend smile and feel assured that you still love and treasure her.
5. Never go to bed angry.
The good old phrase “never go to bed angry” is still true in the present time. You don’t want to prolong an argument that will leave you getting angrier and just weaken your relationship. It’s best if you talk through it first and resolve that problem, that way you’ll wake up the next morning without feeling guilty or pissed with your partner.
Also, fighting fair is important when you want to resolve things. Keeping an open mind that you are still two different persons with different opinions that may agree or contradict depending on the situation, this is where respect comes in. Lastly, it’s also really important to think rational to avoid making things worse.
6. Ask about how she’s feeling.
This might be a simple question but this can really make her day. This shows that you care what’s going on in her daily life and not just assume that everything’s been going well. Sometimes women hesitate to share things with their partner because of the possibility of being ignored. It feels really awful that no one deserves to be treated that way.
7. Mind your manners.
Manners are still important even if you have been with your partner for a very long time. Try to assess how you treat your girlfriend right now. Sometimes when we’re so angry, we tend to say rude things that can damage our partner emotionally. It takes a whole lot of patience and understanding to prevent yourself from saying those harsh words.
To avoid saying those words, try to distance yourself for a little bit when things heat up. Try to breathe and calm yourself. If you’ve already sorted your thoughts out, talk to her without being unreasonable. Remember that it’s better to be happy than being right and winning an argument.
8. Never forget to say “I love you.”
It’s really a good thing to let her know how much you love her. Sometimes we tend to overlook this kind of gesture but it’s actually a constant reassurance for your partner that you still love her. Do not just assume that she knows this because it’s still better when she hears it from you. Life’s too short to not remind her daily about how you feel.
Sometimes with all the things that have been going on around us, we forget the things that really matter to us. It’s always better to have a relationship that is deeply rooted in trust, understanding and most especially, love. I hope these tips helped you on having an idea on how to rekindle the love again with your girlfriend. Remember that these tips should not be done only once – consistency is the key.