There are times when, after being dumped by your former partner, you find them trying to get back into your life. They suddenly become sweet and thoughtful, not to mention always being there for you in one way or another. These are gestures indicating that they regret breaking up with you, and that they want you back in their life.
But aside from these, how do you know if your ex regrets dumping you? Here are 9 other signs to be wary of:
1. They start communicating with you.
It may have been a while since they dumped you, but all of a sudden you receive a text or a private message from your former partner asking how you are doing. Sure, you can be cordial, but if you realize after a few days that he or she is being chummy with you again like nothing happened, then this may be an indication that they want to get back with you.
This is because they think that after time heals all wounds, you have already forgiven them, and if ever, you can start a relationship with them again.
2. They tell you they are sorry for the breakup, and that it’s really their fault that the relationship ended.
When your ex finally realizes that he or she regrets leaving you, they will be more than willing to give you the apology you so deserved. This is because they want to redeem themselves from hurting and leaving you back then, and that they don’t want you to feel hurt anymore.
3. They become more affectionate than ever before.
When a former partner wants to make you see that they regret what they’ve done, they try to get back by being more thoughtful and affectionate, much more than they did when you two were still dating. They want you to feel loved and cared for in ways they were not able to show or do, and they want to remind you of the wonderful possibilities that may arise if you decide to get back together.
4. They talk about the issues they are facing, especially with their current relationship.
Sometimes, they even re-establish a connection with you even if they are currently in a relationship. They would talk about their frustrations and issues with their present partner and ask you for advice, or think about what if you two had gotten back together instead.
5. They try to make up for past mistakes.
Aside from being more affectionate, they try to atone for the times they hurt you by doing everything to make you happy. These include being there in times you need someone to lean on, celebrate your joys and sit beside you during your darkest hours. It’s because they want to make up for those times they failed to be there when you needed them during the course of your relationship.
6. If they are single, they try to stay single.
Meanwhile, if your ex is single and reconnects with you, he or she would try their best to remain single even if there are many opportunities in which they could have been involved with someone else. They’d prioritize rebuilding the friendship that was ruined alongside your relationship that time you broke up.
7. They are pessimistic when they see you exploring the possibility of being in a relationship with someone else.
When an ex regrets having dumped you, they tend to be pessimistic whenever they find out that you are about to be involved with someone else romantically. They’d be vocal about their opinions about that person, and these opinions would revolve around their disapproval. They have a myriad of reasons as to why you should not pursue the relationship, when the truth of the matter is, they just want to get back with you.
8. They stalk you.
Yes, when an ex finds himself or herself hurting over their decision of leaving you, they would do everything in their power to know your whereabouts. Yes, they develop a tendency to stalk you. This is because they want to know that you are doing alright, and that they want to be there whenever something unfortunate happens to you. This can be very annoying, especially when you chance upon them at random places, only to find out they are in the area because they were following you.
9. They use your friends as a means of influence.
There are also instances when they try to get back into your life by using the presence and opinions of your friends. This is especially common when your friends have been witnesses to the rise and demise of your relationship, and he (or she) will try to win them over in order to get to you.
He or she would make friend with them, ask for their forgiveness for hurting you as well, until such time that they are able to tell you good things about them. Of course, it has a great bearing when you hear out your friends’ opinions, and the more likely will you give in when they keep on telling you that your ex has changed for the better and wants you back.
What you can do about it?
When an ex explicitly says and shows that they regret dumping you, it would definitely cause confusion on your end. This is because you might have already moved on from what happened, or you are still in the process of healing your wounds, or you too have still feelings of hope for this person. Regardless, it is important that you weigh things with deep thought, as jumping into a decision may also leave you with regrets in the end.
It’s not really a wrong move to give the person who hurt you a second chance, but since you are giving another chance, you too must be wary of its repercussions. You may want to give more time to see if it is really worth another try, or if it is the right choice to move forward and welcome the new things (and a new relationship) that may come your way.