Breakups are always difficult to handle. You go through a lot of negative emotions and these emotions are heightened because of the many painful words, painful actions and broken promises. Despite this, a once-strong-relationship is not hard to throw, and letting go is not an easy thing.
How will you know if your ex is still not over you? If s/he is still into you, could it mean your relationship can have a second chance?
Here are 14 signs that you should watch for to know if your ex still loves you and wants you back.
1. Following your online activities
If your ex still follows your updates on social media like your photos and posts, it may be a way of saying that s/he still has concern for you, and it is her/his way of connecting to you. This also shows that you are constantly on her/his mind. You will know this if s/he likes, reacts, or comments on your posts.
2. Having nostalgic conversations
If your ex constantly reminisces your happy moments together during chance conversations, and s/he mentions about how things ended up like this or how you could have dealt with issues better, it means s/he is regretting the breakup. This is also a way of testing your reactions to see if another chance at the relationship with you is possible.
3. Reaching out from time to time
If your ex reaches out to you on special holidays like Christmas, it could be her/his perfect excuse to reach out because it is a time for people to connect with friends and family. It is a subtle way of knowing how you’ve been and what you have been up to without showing too much signs of feelings that still prevail.
4. Staying a bit longer to talk each time you see each other
You know the feeling when you’re just so happy each time you talk to a friend whom you’ve shared a lot of things with. You want to stay just a bit longer so you can talk a bit. When you sense that your ex still feels the same way each time you talk or just some random time you bump into each other, it shows that s/he may still have feelings for you.
5. Showing signs of emptiness/loneliness
When your ex constantly seems gloomy and lets the whole world know it by posting how empty or lonely they are on social media, it could be a sign that s/he is longing for your attention and want you back in her/his life.
6. Trying to patch things up
Your ex may often talk about the mistakes s/he has made or the things that should have been done to save your relationship. S/he may constantly state how much s/he has changed and how much better of a person s/he is right now. If this is a recurring theme each time you meet, this is a strong sign that s/he wants you back.
7. Maintaining communication with your friends and family
Maintaining the same level of communication with the people important to you like nothing has changed especially if they are open talking about you and your relationship may be a subtle indication that your ex still has feelings for you. A bonus to this is if s/he asks for updates about how you have been and all the things that have changed since you ended your relationship.
8. Showing that s/he misses you
Probably the biggest sign that your ex wants you back is if s/he opens up and tells you that s/he misses you. When s/he shares about missing and spending time with you, this is an indirect way of saying s/he wants you back.
9. S/he is backed up by friends
The friends of your ex may reach out to you and share that they talk about you a lot and how much your ex has changed. In other words, they are building up the image of their friend to make you consider going back with him/her.
10. Available to help you out
When your ex constantly reaches out to you to offer assistance in different things, or is always available whenever you need help, this is a good indication that s/he wants you back in her/his life and wants to restore your past relationship. This is like saying s/he is always there for you.
11. Approaching you when s/he has problems
The first person that comes into your mind when you face challenges or need someone to talk to is someone important to you. This is because s/he is the one who understands you best, and s/he knows who you are and what you have been through. That shows security and confidence in that person. So, if your ex still goes to you when s/he is going through hard times, then it could mean you are still the one s/he trusts the most.
12. Her/his eyes are glued to you
Let us say you meet, either by chance or by choice, then as you leave, you happen to look back and you catch your ex’s eyes glued to your back. Those eyes convey a strong longing for you and being with you.
13. Becoming less social
Not engaging with the world could be a sign of depression. After the break up, your ex may be depressed because the person that gives meaning to her/his life is gone. If after months or even years your ex still seems withdrawn from the society, that could mean s/he has not moved on yet.
14. Still single after a long time
If a long time has passed since your breakup and your ex has not gone out dating ever since, then probably s/he still hopes of getting back with you. Maybe s/he has not moved on yet.
If you observe or have observed these signs from your ex, consider them carefully to make the right decision whether to accept him/her back or not and give a second chance to your relationship. Remember, it is not enough that you still like each other to make a relationship work.
The question is, have you learned from your previous mistakes? Are you both ready to adjust and make your relationship work this time?
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