If you want to make your relationship stronger, healthier and happier, don’t just wish for your guy to be a better man but also work yourself to be a better girl. Be the best girlfriend you can ever be to your boyfriend by following these tips:
1. Appreciate him.
What a man deeply desires is the feeling of being appreciated and acknowledged for what he provides. He wants to feel that his efforts become useful, meaningful and successful. When you see and appreciate your guy’s effort even in his most simple ways, it’ll make him feel like the ultimate winner and he will do anything to keep you happy. Try to see his intentions behind an action and appreciate that.
2. Make him feel special.
Every girl wants to be treated by their boyfriend as the most special one in this world that most of them have already forgotten to treat their boyfriend the same way too. If you want to be an extraordinary girlfriend who stands out from the rest, make him feel special rather than just waiting for him to make you feel special. Love is giving rather than receiving anyway, isn’t it? So be thoughtful and show him that he’s your priority.
3. Be his adventurous companion.
What does your boyfriend want to do for fun? This is an important question, as all lasting relationships need to have an element of fun. Your boyfriend is also longing to explore, be wild and be free. This is the definition of fun for him. He wants his girlfriend to be his companion on his wild adventure. Thus, be willing to take an adventure with him and be aware of where the fun and adventure meter is at in your relationship.
4. Be honest.
If your guy asks you what’s wrong, tell him directly. Let him know what you think and what you need. And don’t make him guess what is wrong if there is a problem, because they hate it.
5. Give him space and freedom.
A lot of guys feel as if they were in a cage after being in a relationship. Giving him space doesn’t mean your relationship is in jeopardy, but instead, it is a necessary boundary for him to have a healthy perspective on the relationship. Your boyfriend also needs a good balance of alone time to process his thoughts and feelings. Let him have his space and free time, in this case, he’ll appreciate the time you are together a lot more.
6. Stop nagging, complaining and demanding.
Nagging will just make your guy tune out and it won’t get far. Instead, talk and discuss things friendly, there’s always another way to approach things. Guys hate to have a girlfriend who’s always looking for faults and errors. Thus, if you really love a guy, you want him to win, not to lose. So help him by supporting and giving him energy instead of taking it away.
7. Look better than ever before.
Of course in the eyes of your loving boyfriend, you are always the most beautiful girl in the world. However, you can always do better. By making efforts to always look nice, clean, and well dressed, your guy will even admire you more. Just remember to know what your man really wants you to wear. If he is more conservative, then you know what to do. It’s not how expensive or how physically attractive you think you will look like but it is how your guy’s eyes, mind and heart will approve.
8. Earn his respect.
A better girlfriend doesn’t just demand respect from her guy, but she earns it. Believe in yourself, have a strong personality, and show off your capabilities, it will make your boyfriend respect you for the person you are.
9. Be loyal to him.
Just like girls, guys also want to be the only one for their girlfriend. You should not give him causes for jealousy. The best girlfriend should not make eyes at his friends or even get acquainted with other guys in clubs or cafes.
10. Inspire him to be a better man.
You cannot make your boyfriend a better man. You cannot force him to be the guy you wanna be. However, you can be a good role model and inspire him to transform into a better person. So if you want him to grow personally and be a more successful person, show him how hard work, patience, diligence and self-discipline work by practicing these virtues yourself first.
11. Be a wife material.
Girls may come and go but a girl who’s a wife material is on a different level. There is no better way to be a greater girlfriend than to be a partner who is mature, responsible, and ready to take care of her future children and husband.
Whether you’re in a dating stage or in a relationship with someone, it’s important to know what your boyfriend really needs and how you can keep him. Remember that you are not just a girlfriend, but your role in your boyfriend’s life is important. So now that you already have the knowledge, here’s to being the best girlfriend ever.
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This is not ok. People think of straight couples as “normal” when other relationships are just as “normal” as others. Mothers and fathers should take care of children together, not just the mother or just the father. Man and woman should care FOR each other but not TAKE care of each other. There’s a difference. Im straight, but this is still not ok. Please dont say we “should” have men and women together. No, just no.
I think you shouldn’t dress according to what your partner likes:
“Just remember to know what your man really wants you to wear. If he is more conservative, then you know what to do. It’s not how expensive or how physically attractive you think you will look like but it is how your guy’s eyes, mind and heart will approve.”
I’m looking for tips to make my partner feel special, not to become a different person and look for his/her aproval all the time. My boyfriend likes me because of who I am, and he can wear whatever he wants and the same goes for me.
Thanks for the post, but this is definitely not what I’m looking for.
I so agree with you there.
As I was reading it, I was thinking right.. okay.. then I got to that part about what you should wear, and thought no way..
I dated a controlling guy for years, he ruined a lot of me, my personality, my trust, my confidence. He controlled everything – finances, emotions, my freedom, what I wore, who I talked to… if someone is not with you for you, I now know that I shouldn’t have to change myself to please them.
I am now almost a year on from leaving mr toxic, and I have met someone lovely.. i now question why he would even want me, because who am I really ? I think allowing someone to change you for so long, moulds you in to someone/something you aren’t, and it’s so exhausting, that I ran out of energy to remember who I used to be, who I truly am.
Reality is, deep in me somewhere, I am still that woman who has values and good points.
I just let mr toxic hide them parts, and allowed him to make me believe that I was bad for showing them.. it’s time to find them again, and to let my true self glow, and build up my confidence to know that I am worth something..
That is why this guy is with me after all…
I support all the information I’ve read above, and will consider it. Therefore i have doubts about some of the things mentioned above. But there’s first time for everything so they say…………
my ex was like that and broke up with me bc his friend said that i sent a pic of sum but i didnt and he didnt belive me and got mad. but i snaped him friend and cussed him tf out
Ok, this is wrong. First of all, if a girl is always beautiful in her boyfriend’s eyes, why should she push herself further to look ‘better’? Also, that could cause a lot of self-image issues for a girl, since she would eventually feel like she needs to look “nice, clean and well dressed” for her boyfriend to love her. Second, a girl shouldn’t feel like she can’t meet other guys because she’ll make her boyfriend jealous. If your boyfriend trusts you, then he should trust that you will stay loyal to him and, therefore, you should be able to meet other guys without causing jealousy. And lastly, by saying “stop nagging, complaining and demanding”, this is suggesting that all woman are demanding of their boyfriends, and this is wrong. Yes, a girl shouldn’t nag their boyfriend, but this works the other way around too. Also, it’s common sense that you shouldn’t do this.
Exactly! Thank you for saying this! There are definitely some minor issues with this list.
Number nine i would really like some advice from someone. I hear what Mark Ross has said, im dating my girlfriend for six years now, and every time there is like a new guy she becomes work friends with. Yes she tells me about it and what they talk about, but when they start making sexual comments about her she hates it but she still goes back and talk to them like nothing is wrong. I have told her that she needs to open her mouth when they do but she tell me I’m jealous. So what do i, do? So at this moment im thinking she either likes the attention from other men and the sexual comments!! So i dont know what to think
For starters, by all means you have every respectable right to be jealous because this is something that you do not like. I’m not going to say that she doesn’t love you BUT the fact that you’ve told her what needs to be done and she still hasn’t done anything about it, makes it seem like she loves the attention rather than what you think. In a relationship that can come off as toxic and could possibly poison your relationship. She needs to look at it in your standpoint as well, would she have liked it if you were doing it? How would she feel?
Love and relationships are like a double edged sword. All the rules should apply to both genders.
Ask to sit her down and talk calmy about the situation. “Babe, I have a couple things that really makes me feel uncomfortable about your current situation. It makes me jealous because ____” and you can name a few reasons as to why. From experience, a calm discussion makes everything alot easier. If she gets upset or angry, keep your composure. If she doesn’t want it to stop then let her know that her decision to keep doing this hurts you very much.
I hope these pointers help 🙂
These tips are great. They really got me thinking how I can feel better about my relationship, its like you just filled my missing gap and I get it now. I really hope I can get this right and I wish you luck on any of your future endeavors. Thank you!
Number 7 is a yikes from me
this is quite heteronormative thinking. its 2019. girls have girlfriends and partners of other genders but this is directed just to boyfriends. also, a great girlfriend should be ready to take care of her future children and husband? again this is 2019. thats just now things work these days, that doesnt determine if youre a good girlfriend. this would be somewhat helpful if it wasnt directed at like 1900s straight women
She’s simply giving tips to the girls out there asking for help. If your looking for tips on Homosexual relationships then this may not be the right place for you. But hey, like you said it’s the 21st century! So I’m sure google would have tons of suggestions for your dissatisfaction.
It’s how things SHOULD be. Girls and guys together. And yes of you want kids in the future it’s good to know that your girlfriend will be able to care for them. And the other way around because some dads stay at home.
It’s not how things should be. It’s how things have been expected to be. Two people in a relationship, just have to be happy together. It is not anyone’s job to prove they would be a good person to marry.
hey if my boyfriend is to caught up with what someone said about us what should i do
Leave him. He is prioritizing what other people think over you.
After reading this, I have to sat that number 7 is probably better left out of this article or at least written in a different way. No girl wants to change who they are and dress according to how the man wants or wishes her to dress. If the woman in the relationship has a certain style, you should love her for who she is, rather than who you want her to be by how you like a certain girl to look. This is essentially an element of control. I say this from past experience as I am dating someone who went through this and refused to change and dress how her ex demanded and requested her to be. Besides, it’s what’s on the inside that counts, isn’t it?
Also, number 9 is not very good advice either. Just because you are in relationship does not mean you or your partner should not meet new people of the opposite sex just because it can promote jealousy or other emotions. We are all human beings and still our own people. Rather, you learn to trust, each of you live your own life, and then live your life together. It is healthier that way.
You’re completely right but sometimes, dressing up a little special, makes you feel good as well as his reaction and many perceive that as dressing up for your man but it’s also for the girl as well. Girls have their lazy days but they have their dress up days where they can put makeup on and a dress or lingerie and expect to get positive feedback from themselves and the person who’s opinion matters the most, their man.
Hate to be THAT person but if you’re in a relationship you can’t be flirting with others, that’s cheating. If you want to keep your options open you shouldn’t be dating at all.
Sam: I could be wrong, but I think Mark Ross meant like in a friendship sense. I would never say that my boyfriend can’t have female friends, and I expect the same in return. If you can’t trust your significant other in those situations, then that’s not because they are friends with someone of the opposite gender, there are other issues you need to work on.
I hate to be that person who needs to burst ur bubble, but they never said flirting, they just said there isnt a problem with speaking to a person of the opposite sex.
I’m 100% positive that’s not where ross was going with that. and under the assumption that “acquainted” was being use in the context of being flirty, then yeah don’t be like that. both people in the relationship should be able to be friends with whoever they want to be friends with and their significant other shouldn’t dictate that.
I think you misinterpreted and or overthink number 7 and 9.
First things first, not all guys are the same but I believe these tips are for women that want to make things better with the wonderful man she is with.
For number 7, the way I understood that statement is that there are alot of guys that love a woman that respect their body. For example, if a guy fell in love with you and you dress in a way that shows lots of cleavage, show off more than what’s not suppose to, basically making yourself a target for the wrong crowd.
What I get from number 7 is that if a woman takes pride in themself to dress proper (not meaning you change your whole style because he says so) it makes a guy love you more for making yourself a better person by dressing very mature and presentable. For example- cleavage can be shown but not over the top. A guy will still love you even without the trashy or skimpy outfits. Dress classy, leave room for his imagination to run wild, it turns them on that way because now they have to put effort into knowing what’s underneath all the good looking clothes.
For number 9
“You should not give him causes for jealousy.” I believe that line respectively because would a woman like that if their man did that to them?
Also why would a woman flirt with her man’s friend and still think that’s okay? She’s basically telling him that he’s not the only one for her. Another thing, if you are in a relationship why would you try to make friends or “aquaintances” at a bar or club. Albeit, yes, friendships can form within night time activities but it’s also best to let your man’s or woman know what’s going on. Which ties to the whole “don’t keep secrets” thing. It will make your relationship so much easier and alot better.
I come to this page as a constant reminder whenever I feel like I’m skipping somewhere. The reassurance is very helpful considering I’ve went through 2 tough relationships that didn’t even last 6 months and now my third relationship is going on 3 years now. These advices are very helpful if looked upon in a positive light.
Thanks for the useful tips
I think that this is wrong. They said you will always be beautiful but you can do better. Like no if you’re boyfriend doesn’t like you for you then f**k him and yes girlfriends get the same amount of respect as boyfriend. We shouldn’t have to earn it and they don’t. Also In a relationship the roles are equal. The boyfriend should also be doing this things.
Absolutely true, like why is there so much rules applied when it comes to guys. I mean we should receive all of this too WTFFFFF!!
I agree, but check out the tips for being a good boyfriend — a lot of them are the same. It seems this article is just providing tips on how to show you care
Exactly
There’s a list of over twice as much of the same rules for the other way around on this site. XD