Some girls these days have raised the bar on their standards when it comes to their boyfriends. Well, thanks to the influence of romantic novels and movies that changed their perspective on love and relationship, they always think about the endless “what ifs” questions and made up scenarios that come in their minds every single time.
I know that there are a lot of guys out there struggling to be the best boyfriend to their girlfriend. Figuring out how to treat her with love and respect can be hard, but boys should never give up. Learn to see the world through the eyes of your girlfriend and you’ll be able to understand what it really takes to be a great boyfriend.
Here are some ways to keep her head over heels for you.
1. Be honest.
“Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.” – Dave Willis
A true relationship is when you can tell each other anything with no secrets and lies. Every girl needs an honest and loyal boyfriend. But if she finds out that you’ve been dishonest, that will break her trust instantly.
2. Respect her as a person.
Respect is one of the greatest expressions of love. If you want to be the best boyfriend, show your girl that she is valuable and worthy of respect. Don’t take her words lightly or even ignore her advice just because she is a girl. If you can’t respect her, it is not love that’s holding the relationship together.
3. Communicate with her.
Relationships cannot grow without the proper amount of communication. It is the fuel that keeps the fire burning. Girls love to receive a text or call from their special someone, even a simple “good morning” can brighten up her day or a simple “how’s your day?” can ease her weariness after a long and tiring day.
4. Remember special days.
Girls give attention to special occasions like Valentine’s Day and Anniversary. If their boyfriends forget it, they will feel unwanted and less important. Try to make a conscious effort to understand her and remember special days because it’s a big deal for almost every girl in the world.
5. Surprise her.
Girls don’t expect you to do big surprises, because no matter how big or small it is as long as you exert an effort, she will feel happy. Simple gestures like leaving flowers on her table, leaving her sweet notes, or even showing up at her doorstep with pizza can make her day.
6. Be caring and affectionate.
Girls also want to see your sweet side. Show the amount of care and concern you have for her through nice gestures. Open doors for her, set up a candle-lit dinner, hold her hand or hug her to make her fall in love with you all over again.
7. Make plans to realize what she wants.
It would be nice if you would take the time to think about what she wants to do and spend time looking for places or making reservations for her. Even if it’s just in that little fast food restaurant, what matters most is the thought itself.
8. Understand her moods.
Girls are prone to mood swings. So if you want to be the best boyfriend, you have to be attentive to her moods and understand when she’s feeling happy, annoyed, or upset.
9. Learn to apologize.
Most relationships failed, because they can’t lower their pride. It may be egoistically painful to apologize but sometimes, it is a generous and humble move when a man can apologize to his girlfriend even though he’s not the one who’s wrong.
10. Support her.
Support her interests and motivate her to pursue her dreams. Give her advice and help her out even if she doesn’t ask for it.
11. Pursue some interests together.
Finding some interests to pursue together will help you have a long lasting relationship. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you’re building more interests together.
12. Show appreciation and compliment her.
Remember to compliment her every day, feed her with sweet and sincere words. If she gets a new haircut or wears a new outfit, compliment her even more. But you don’t only have to compliment her looks; you can also compliment an aspect of her personality like her amazing sense of humor.
13. Win the hearts of her loved ones.
Make sure to also win the affection of the people who are very close to her, like her parents, siblings, friends, or other relatives. You’ll gain more trust by doing it, since she knows that you’re not only interested in her but with the people she treasures as well.
14. Be fashionably well-groomed.
In order to be the best boyfriend to your girl, you also need to be fashionably well-groomed. Looks in a man are largely influenced by his dress and grooming habits. Also, make sure you smell good and be hygienic all the time because girls have a remarkable natural ability to scrutinize things objectively.
15. Give her the space she needs.
Sometimes, it is also necessary to give your girl time and space she needs, whether she wants to hang out with friends or to be alone. This will make your girl love you even more for being patient and understanding enough to consider her needs and wants.
16. Be her best friend.
Every girl needs a best friend. Someone who will support her, respect her, listen to her, accept her flaws, who’ll be with her through good times and bad times, someone she can trust, and will never give up on her. You need to be not just her boyfriend, but her best friend as well.
17. Don’t take you girl for granted.
Both partners should understand and realize that every simple gesture is a sign of love and affection that should never be taken for granted. So, always be thankful and appreciate your girlfriend when she does an effort (big or small) for you and your relationship.
Being a good boyfriend isn’t easy, but as long as you have all the patience and persistence to look at the world through your girlfriend’s eyes and learn to understand her thoughts, you will surely make her fall in love with you even more.
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