How do you love your wife according to the Bible? Loving the woman whom you have promised to cherish your love with for the rest of your life is not all about giving her gifts and flowers, telling her you love her every single day, and providing her everything that you think will make her happy.
If you really want to make your wife happy and maintain a successful and long-lasting marriage with her, it’s wise to read the Scriptures and follow the teachings of God. Here are 20 biblical ways to truly love your wife:
1. Love her as yourself.
“So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.” – Ephesians 5:28 KJV
2. Fulfill your marital duty to her.
“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.” – 1 Corinthians 7:3 NIV
3. Surrender your body to her; do not cheat.
“The wife hath not the power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not the power of his own body, but the wife.” -1 Corinthians 7:4 KJV
4. Be content with her.
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbor’s.” – Exodus 20:17 KJV
5. Lead her in righteousness.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” – Ephesians 5:22-23 KJV
6. Trust her.
“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her so that he shall have no need of spoil.” – Proverbs 31:11 KJV
7. Appreciate her.
“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” – Proverbs 31:28 KJV
8. Give her independence.
“But from the beginning of the creation, God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;” – Mark 10:6-7 KJV
9. Be righteous to bless your home and family.
“The LORD’s curse is on the house of the wicked, but he blesses the home of the righteous.” – Proverbs 3:33 NIV
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10. Be humble, patient, and gentle with her.
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” – Ephesians 4:2 NIV
11. Confess your sins to her.
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” – James 5:16 KJV
12. Forgive her.
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.” – Colossians 3:12-13 ESV
13. Overcome your hatred before the day ends.
“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:” – Ephesians 4:26 KJV
14. Love her deeply.
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” – 1 Peter 4:8 NIV
15. Love her truly.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 NIV
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16. Love her through actions.
“My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18 KJV
17. Continue loving her and taking care of her even if the two of you fight each other.
“But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you.” – Luke 6:27-28 KJV
18. Do not be cruel to her.
“Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” – Colossians 3:19 ESV
19. Break your vices and bad habits for her.
“Do not mix with winebibbers, Or with gluttonous eaters of meat; For the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty, And drowsiness will clothe a man with rags.” – Proverbs 23:20-21 NKJV
20. Bring her closer to God.
“And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in justice, in steadfast love and in mercy. I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.” – Hosea 2:19-20 ESV
Now that you have read and learned how to love your wife according to the scriptures, let your knowledge guide your marriage and family towards happiness, good health, prosperity longevity, and blessedness. Moreover, remember that if you want your knowledge to have wisdom, make a decision to love your wife. Only when you make the right choice will you gain wisdom.
And finally, if you want your knowledge and wisdom to have understanding, practice the decision you have made. Only when you practice loving your wife will you understand how great it is to really love the woman of your life.
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I can say that above all if you commit your marriage to God, everything will take place according to the will of God.and also communication between the couples must be mandatory. Above all am so grateful because I have learned alot. Thank you!🙏🙏
Great lesson indeed.God bless you.
Beautifully compiled.
Thank you so much for your valuable article,
Wonderful!!!!! I am blessed. Keep it up in Jesus name, Amen.
Very very helpful, if I might add song of Solomon interjected interjectes to let love just happen Song of Songs(Song of Solomon)
She “Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.(3:5).
Spontanuity is referenced in the passage and later on in the book it is referenced again (8:4).
Also reference;
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“I have come into my garden, my sister my bride; I have gathered my mrryh with my spice.
I have eaten my honeycomb and my honey; I have drunk my wine and milk”.
Friends
Eat, friends, and drink;
Drink your fill of love. ( Song of Songs 5:1) references the frequency or ofteness of love making coupled with the previous verse.
A Very good book to read if you have yet to.
All Bible references are from the NIV version.
God Bless.
Also reference
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May the wune go straight to my beloved,
Flowing gently over lips and teeth.
I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me.
Come, my beloved, let us go to the countryside,
Let us spend the night in the villages.
Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom-
There I will give you my love (Song of Songs 7:9-12), this reference gives the the time to choose when and where, don’t forget Ecclesiastes, there is always a tume and place for love.
God Bless! I hope I could help.