Most of us believe that there is no perfect relationship. This is because, as human beings, we know ourselves too well – we are capable of making mistakes and incapable of appreciating what we have until it’s already too late. However, this is not a reason why we should lose faith in the power of love and its ability to make us feel whole and more alive.
The truth is, although we can never find perfection in a real-life love story, we can always find happiness and fulfillment in it– and many couples out there have tried and succeeded in reaching this stage in their relationship.
If you want to know whether or not your relationship has the potential to grow and reach this almost-perfect phase, read on.
Here are some of the characteristics of a happy and successful couple that you should learn from.
1. They have a clear and optimistic view of the future.
Successful couples have a clear and positive view of the future. This is because they know that someone will be there to hold their hand through life and they believe that nothing can ever take that away from them.
Love can make people feel strong and invincible, and its power can help someone see the world from a more colorful and optimistic perspective.
2. They resolve relationship problems together.
Happy couples are not free of arguments and fights but what they have something different: they communicate well and they know when to listen and when to talk. They easily resolve arguments through productive and healthy discussions and they don’t let other people make the decisions for them.
3. They know how to relax and just have fun.
They have regular dates and they don’t even have to wait for anniversaries or any other special occasions just to plan a wonderful meal together. In fact, there are no such thing as “planned” hangouts, they just do it and go anywhere and everywhere they want.
Their spontaneity is what makes their relationship more exciting, leaving no room for boredom.
4. They support each other’s individual goals.
Successful couples dream together and even if they are following separate professional paths, they’re there for each other as a refuge, a source of strength and inspiration.
They will always choose to grow and succeed even if it means temporarily spending time away from each other.
5. They know what they want and how to get them.
They know each other enough to figure out what they really want to do in life. They can be ambitious and optimistic when it comes to wanting to achieve something and it’s a good thing.
They aim higher and hit the mark while holding each other’s hands and they celebrate victories, big or small, together.
6. They don’t feel the need to be clingy and overprotective.
They’ve gotten over the stage where they have to be physically together all the time. They don’t have to talk every hour and they trust each to be strong enough to take care of themselves.
They’re living an independent life together and their love for each other is so strong that they don’t have to worry about what might happen next.
7. They don’t entertain unnecessary emotions.
Emotions such as jealousy, insecurity and envy can be damaging to a relationship and happy couples know that entertaining these negativities is a waste of time and energy.
They always choose their battles and they always win them together.
8. They are the best of friends, the sweetest of lovers.
Their relationship is not just based on romance and passion; they are also the best of friends in that they can just be themselves. They’re open to each other and they share their deepest thoughts without hesitation or the fear of being rejected.
9. They know each other’s weakness and strengths.
They know each other too well and they have acknowledged their own imperfections. Happy couples know the worst and the best parts about each other and they have accepted them with all their heart.
It’s such a comforting thought that someone out there will still love you regardless of your flaws and couples in a happy relationship are lucky enough to have this precious feeling of security.
10. They’re not afraid to be in a long distance relationship.
Long distance relationships don’t scare happy and successful couples because they already have this sense of security and peace of mind that no matter what happens, wherever they are in the world, they’ll keep the promises they made to each other.
They believe in a happy future and they don’t dwell on the challenges of the present. They think of LDR as a part of the realities of life and their bond is strong enough to survive it.
11. They’re not scared of taking risks.
Because they know that even if they make mistakes, they will always be welcomed by comforting hugs and kisses from the person they love.
They realize that taking risks is not as scary as it seems because someone will always catch them, someone who will always give them the strength and refuge that they’ll need at their lowest point.
12. They have a healthy relationship with others.
They have a strong support system behind them and they always let people in their lives. This is one important point because some couples tend to shut others out and they would rather live in their own little world.
Sometimes, it’s not healthy because humans are social beings and we need to be with other people, to experience different realities and be introduced into different perspectives to be able to fully live life.
It takes a lot of maturity and a strong sense of commitment to achieve this almost-perfect relationship but if you have this kind of partnership, then you know you’re one of the luckiest people in the world.
Some couples have their own definition of being happy and successful in their relationship but what’s common among the characteristics present in these relationships revolve around one primary idea: love should help you become a better person.
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