It’s your first date, you’re wearing your favorite dress, your hands are shaking a little bit under the table, and right across from you sits the most gorgeous guy you have ever seen in your whole life. You’ve been crushing on him for so long that when he asked you out, you almost fainted!
You already said your orders to the waiter and the moment you’ve been dreading approaches. It’s now time for the “talk.” What do you say? How do you start? What are the best things to talk about on a first date? These questions are swimming in your head! But remember this is what we’re trying to avoid, so feel free to try out our top ten conversation starters:
1. Talk about the movie you just saw.
If by some lucky chance he took you out to see a movie first before having dinner, then this is perfect! Seeing a film before the actual dinner date is highly recommended because then you will have something to talk about rather than playing with your food.
Don’t waste time waiting who will start the conversation first. Ask him what he liked about the movie or share what was your favorite part. Once you get the conversation starting, it will be difficult to stop.
2. Throw in a generic yet interesting question.
You will probably ask yourself, what’s a generic yet interesting question? It’s the first date so you can’t escape the questions you usually ask. You can ask questions like if where does he go to university or what his job is but give it a little twist.
When we say twist, we mean rephrase it or give its introduction a bit of jazz. Don’t just flat out ask him, set the mood and then casually stir your drink and ask, “What do you do that keeps you going in life?”
3. Figure what their hobbies are.
Again, never flatly ask them what their interests or hobbies are. You are not trying to bore your date to death, but rather you are trying to get them talking so you can identify a point of interest and lead your conversation towards that.
If you’re a naturally shy person, then you must shed away that shyness for even a little while, so you can grab that opportunity in front of you. Try to figure out what kind of person your date is and see where it goes from there.
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4. Talk about the food you’re eating.
This is a no-brainer. What else to talk about than the food that you’re having right now? Again, don’t just play with your fork and casually ask him if he likes the food. Flip your hair to one shoulder, be confident, and share with him why you ordered this dish in the first place.
You want to make a first good impression so show him that you have depth. You’re more than meets the eye. Just like the food you’re eating, you’re not just pretty to look at but you’re pleasing to the palette too, in a sense!
5. Ask them what’s the funniest thing they’ve ever done.
Once you get the conversation going, it’s time to keep it afloat. If you feel like the talking is going to be a dead stop once he finishes his sentence, then ask another question such as the title for this option.
Asking him the funniest thing he has ever done will not only bring happy memories to him, but it will also help you get to know him further. It’s also another chance for you to pick another topic to expand the conversation further such as, “Oh, you dived into the local lake? I’ve been there with my family last summer…”
6. Give her a compliment.
If you happen to find yourself seated across a lovely lady, then please don’t hesitate to give her a compliment. She will probably blush but she will love it. Don’t just tell her she’s pretty, but rather remind her of her exquisite features and what makes her unique.
But you need to have your limits too, don’t overdo with the compliments because she will think it’s insincere or you only like her for her looks. Don’t make inappropriate comments as well even if you are tempted to do so.
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7. Try asking twenty-question style.
Here’s another way to keep the conversation going: suggest a game that will help you get to know each other a little bit better. You can do the twenty questions game, your date will have twenty chances to ask questions about yourself and when he’s done, you can do the same.
It will be fun to anticipate what questions he has in mind that he’s dying to ask you. Do you want to make it even more fun? Don’t set limits to the questions! It’s better to dip your toes into the extremes every now and then and it’s a guarantee that this game will make your night!
8. Talk about anything but the weather.
Lastly, please do your best to talk about anything but the weather! When we say weather, we are not just talking about how the moon was shining or if there was a little rain, but all kinds of topics that are mood killers.
Remember, the main goal here is a second date, and you won’t get that if you talk about how sunny it was this morning. Ask him about his day, if he plays any sport, if he has any pets, and make your date feels like you actually care about him!
It’s never a guarantee whether your first date will go well or not. It’s more like a make it or break it moment for the both of you. Sometimes, even if the date went well for you and you had fun, it’s not always the same perspective for the other party.
But whether you end up marrying the love of your life or a string of first dates, we’re hoping the former, it’s always best to put your best foot forward, as the saying goes. Just take a deep breath, be yourself, and have fun!
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