Being a good girlfriend is not always about cooking his favorite food or knowing how to do all the household chores. You have to understand how men think and what they need in a relationship to be a better girlfriend.
Here are 30 ways to be the best girlfriend to your boyfriend and enjoy a stronger, happier and lasting relationship with him.
1. Trust him.
Trust is one of the keystones in any relationship. Men feel secure when you trust them because they don’t have to worry about being judged. In that case, they’ll start opening up everything to you without the need of using your interrogative skills.
2. Encourage him.
Be that woman who will encourage your boyfriend to grow and not the naysayer one. Once he knows you believe in him, you’ll be a good girlfriend in his eyes, heart, and mind.
3. Be honest.
Men don’t like a woman who lies. How can he trust you if you can’t be honest to him even in simple things? If you don’t want him to do the same, be that girlfriend who won’t give him any reason to break his trust.
4. Respect his time with friends.
Remember that it is also important for him to have other relationships (Friends) with people. Respect his time with friends and he’ll respect you for valuing those people who are significant to him.
5. Don’t flirt with other men.
A good girlfriend is loyal and faithful; she won’t make her boyfriend feel jealous and won’t flirt around with other guys. Show him how desirable you are and trustworthy by fixing your eyes only to him.
6. Appreciate his little efforts.
Your boyfriend also needs to know and feel that his efforts are being appreciated. Let him know that you value him and you treasure every effort he does for you. It will make him feel better about himself and your relationship as well.
7. Don’t take him for granted.
The worst thing you can do to your boyfriend is take him for granted. Pay attention to him and don’t stop appreciating all the little things you used to love about him.
8. Send him sweet messages.
A quick message telling him “Good morning’ or “I love you” everyday can brighten up his day. No matter how short it is, as long as it’s sweet, he’ll appreciate it because it makes him feel you’re reminded about him each day.
9. Listen when he needs you.
One of the best things you can do as a girlfriend is to listen to him to know what he wants so you can fulfill his needs.
10. Stop nagging.
A nagger is one of the guys’ worst nightmares. Continuous nagging will only annoy your boyfriend and ruin your relationship.
11. Help him break his limits.
Your boyfriend has enough people in his life who discourage him to go beyond his limits. So be his personal cheerleader. Support him and help him reach his full potential.
12. Let him be.
Respect him as a man. Give him freedom and let him be without always trying to change him.
13. Accept his flaws.
Don’t expect your partner to be perfect. Accepting each other’s flaws is a foundation of a strong and healthy relationship.
14. Don’t dwell on the past.
Don’t dig up the past every time you have an argument with your partner. Let bygones be bygones and give your relationship a chance to move forward and grow stronger.
15. Don’t make a decision when you’re angry.
If you don’t want to regret on your decisions in the end, then don’t make it in the first place, especially when you’re in the midst of anger. Give yourself time to cool down so you’ll come up with the best judgment.
16. Don’t let the day end without fixing your problem.
A good girlfriend won’t allow the day to end without fixing the problem. If you truly worry about his feelings, you’re going to settle things down as early as you can, before it gets worst. Because the more it takes long, the harder it is to fix for the both of you.
17. Pamper him.
Cook for him, buy him little present, or prepare his breakfast in bed. Be that girl who’ll have him the nice things all the time.
18. Give him space.
Instead of putting pressure on him, why not give him space? Space to be with himself, his friends, work, or whatever he needs.
19. Be independent.
You know you’re a good girlfriend if you don’t rely on him all the time. Your boyfriend also wants you to have a little dependence. You’ll look more responsible if you do so.
20. Be empathetic.
Your ability to step into the shoes of another person, understand their feelings, and recognize their perspectives seems to be in free-fall. It is not easy to be a man, so try to listen to his side instead of constantly trying to tell him yours.
21. Tell him how happy and blessed you are to have him.
Guys also want to hear sweet words coming from their girlfriend. It isn’t hard to tell him how happy you are to be with him today or how blessed you are to have him each day. So why not start doing it?
22. Support his passion.
If your boyfriend has a dream, be that person who’ll support him to achieve it. It would be a success in your part once you see him accomplish it.
23. Tell him what bothers you.
If there is something bothering you, tell him immediately rather than hiding it, so it won’t cause so much trouble in the future.We all know that most women have that “you should know” perspective towards their boyfriend. But, men are also insensitive and oblivious so they won’t know what you really feel unless you say it.
24. Inspire him.
Motivate and inspire your boyfriend everyday. Be that woman behind his every success.
25. Don’t force him to change.
Inspire him to change for the better instead of controlling and forcing him to change. Be a role model. If you want him to be a good boyfriend, inspire him by being a good girlfriend first.
26. Surprise him.
Not only girls love surprises, of course, your boyfriend also wants to feel that special feeling of excitement and amazement.
27. Give him pieces of advice that build him up.
Give him that feeling of “genuinely better” after he talks something he’s going through.
28. Take care of him.
Show care to your partner even in simple ways, like cooking a healthy meal for him or giving him a relaxing massage to get rid of stress.
29. Try to keep discussions positive.
Start out a discussion in a positive and productive way rather than constantly arguing about a simple matter.
30. Be a respectable woman.
A good girlfriend knows how to carry herself and behaves like a real lady.
Men usually fall in love with women who have the secret ingredients of true love (See 22 Signs of True Love in a Relationship). You just have to work on it and bring out the best in you in order to achieve it. No matter what stage your relationship is, you can always learn from it. I hope the lists above will help you become a better girlfriend each and every day.
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