Have you recently gotten hitched? Did the two of you finally become a married couple after being engaged for a while? Well then, congratulations!
Entering the married life is like exploring a new world, as this time you’re living with someone whom you chose to be with for keeps. Of course, there’s a lot of adjustments that you will encounter, as you two will be getting to know each other in a much deeper and a more intimate level. While you are sure with your feelings, it is also normal that you feel a myriad of emotions as the days pass by.
Don’t worry about it, though. It does take time to adjust and get used to the married life, and if you need some tips on how to deal with it, here are some best relationship advice for newlywed couples that you should know.
1. Love is a verb. Hence, love your spouse actively.
Now that you’re married, it’s time to show how much you love your spouse. Make it a point to show how much you care, especially with the simplest things –from the chores to indulging in sweet nothings, and in respecting each other’s individualities.
2. Savor the honeymoon stage.
When you have just gotten married, for sure you are still over the moon and feel like everything happened so fast. But hey, you’re entitled to the honeymoon phase, so enjoy it to the fullest. Besides, reality will soon kick in and by then you should have already overcome the giddy feeling and become prepared for what “real” married life has in store.
No need to worry, however: you’re not alone in the journey. You have your spouse to hold your hand while going through this journey to forever.
3. Quarrels are still common, but remember, it’s you and your spouse vs. the problem.
Quarrels are normal, and every couple faces arguments along the way. But now that you’re married, you should learn to pick your quarrels properly and not make a big deal out of petty things. You may also want to look at it this way: no matter whose fault is it, it’s still you and your significant other versus the problem.
4. Stop looking at problems from only one perspective.
There will be a lot of adjustments to be done during the start of your marriage, and these include how you handle things such as chores and problems. This is due to how you and your partner were brought up, your cultural and traditional differences, and as well as your beliefs. These pre-existing factors should not matter, however; it would be better though if you two settle on certain ways and means to get things done –ways that are comfortable for the both of you.
5. Never stop dating.
Some people think that they can get complacent when it comes to dating now that they are married. But no, this shouldn’t be the case. You cannot take your partner for granted just because you have already tied knot. Rather, this is the time that you should date more often, as now you are able to get to know each other in a more intimate setting.
Dating doesn’t have to be expensive. Sure, you may go out and watch a movie, or just spend time at home watching Netflix. The important thing here is that you get to bond and share quality time together as husband and wife. Besides, you won’t be able to do this as often as you want once you start having kids.
6. Dedicate time for sex.
Nothing says more intimate than “sex,” and this is a deed that you are already entitled to do since you and your partner are already married. You do this not just as a celebration of love, but also as to procreate, thus dedicate time for it.
Sex is also a form of non-verbal communication, and this often opens opportunities where you and your partner get to hear out each other’s emotions without talking, as you understand what one says through your movements and actions. Through this level of intimacy, you are able to synchronize each other’s emotions not just in bed, but also in other non-sexual activities.
7. Choose your battles.
There are arguments wherein you two get emotional, but these need not happen all the time. There are issues wherein you can just brush off and let go, and there are those that need to be properly discussed and resolved. You then should learn which battles to fight for and which dismiss, so that you won’t end up bickering with each other over the littlest and pettiest things.
And yes, always assume that your partner has the best intentions. Not all good intentions produce good results, and when these don’t meet your expectations, there’s nothing you can do but let them pass and appreciate what your partner has done because after all, he or she deserves and “A” for effort.
8. Always put up a united front.
Even when you and your partner are going through issues, it is important to have each other’s back in public. Never say anything against your spouse, or anything negative about your spouse in front of other people. This will not only destroy your image as a married couple, but also put a strain in your relationship because belittling each other is a form of disrespect.
9. Always say thanks.
Now that you’re married, you have more time and opportunity to tell your spouse how thankful you are for your life together. Hence, always say thanks, even for the little things that you do for each other. Being married doesn’t mean that you’re entitled to what they do for you, as it is a commitment that you swore to fulfill together.
10. Don’t sleep on your arguments.
You and your partner deserve a good night’s sleep, so when faced with arguments, make sure to have them discussed and resolved before you end the day. It’s hard to sleep with a problem at hand, especially when you’re against the same person you share the bed with. Talk it out, listen to each other’s points, and come up with a solution-or compromise. Doing this allows you not only to sleep well, but to love each other more in the process.
Married life can be crazy, fun, and stressful all at the same time. But it’s up to you on how to manage all these travails and make the marriage work. And yes, always remember that you’re not alone in this adventure. You’ve got someone to hold on to, and that’s your spouse.