Finding someone special and having the chance to be with them can be the greatest gifts that the universe can ever give. However, perfect relationships don’t just happen. They are made and created by two people who are willing to do their part, every step of the way.
If you’re in a relationship right now, how would you know if you are where you truly belong? Honestly, it’s not that hard to tell – but only if you know what you’re looking for.
If you’re wondering if your relationship has the right formula to last a lifetime, you should be asking these important questions: have you and your partner reached the right level of maturity to handle a serious commitment? Is your partnership healthy -emotionally and spiritually? Is what you have strong enough to survive the common obstacles that usually tear people apart?
Here are the signs you’re in a mature, healthy, and strong relationship.
1. You are not worried about what the future will bring.
You know you’re in a healthy and mature relationship when you no longer worry about what’s going to happen in a year or two: Will you two still be together? Are things going to stay the same? Can your love last? These questions are for those who don’t have the right amount of trust and faith in what they have.
Having a mature relationship and knowing that you have a strong bond with your significant other give you that assurance that your love is here to stay.
2. You’re on your way to achieving your personal goal.
If you have to choose between a career and a romantic relationship, which would you pick? Perhaps the real question is, do you really have to make a choice? Someone who truly loves you won’t make you make this tough decision.
In fact, a healthy relationship will help you become the best version of yourself by both supporting your personal goals and letting you achieve your dreams over anything else.
3. Your world doesn’t revolve around your significant other.
Never let anyone, even your significant other be the center of your universe. It may sound romantic and ideal but it only works in the movies. You live in the real world with real demands and spending all your time and energy on one person can be both exhausting and unhealthy.
Couples who are confident about their relationship don’t have to be obsessive and overprotective of each other. They know their limitations as a partner but at the same time, they’ll always be there when you need them.
4. You are supportive of your partner’s dream as they are to yours.
People can have different goals even for couples in love. It’s okay to pursue different things in life. There will always be those differences: where you want to live, what kind of lifestyle you want to have, which circles of friends you prefer, etc. As a partner and as a lover, you are there to give love and support, not to limit or be an obstacle to the other’s success.
5. You know how to communicate your thoughts and feelings.
Communication is the key to a good and honest relationship. It’s not enough to talk about something. It’s also important that you know how to express yourself and how you feel whether in words or through actions.
Having that ability to let the other know what made you angry or what hurt you, can make a great difference when resolving conflicts or managing typical arguments between couples.
6. You can confidently be yourself anytime, anywhere.
Don’t lose sight of who you are especially if you’re in a relationship with someone whose views are totally different from yours. A healthy partnership with a significant other means of letting you be who and what you want to be.
Simple things like being able to wear your style, how you act in public, or how you talk may seem insignificant but this freedom makes a lot of difference.
7. You have separate circles of friends and it doesn’t matter.
It’s important to establish a strong social circle outside of your relationship. You don’t have to always do things together and if there are things that you can only tell your friends, it’s okay.
Having other people in your life is a necessary factor in order to experience a happy and well-lived life. Don’t deprive yourself of that.
8. You admit mistakes and accept apologies.
Couples fight and it’s normal. What is more important is that you both know how to admit mistakes and properly address them. Having the right attitude to forgive and learn from the lessons of your shortcomings as a couple can build a stronger bond that will help you face the future more confidently.
9. You follow a routine but can be spontaneous when you feel like it.
Boredom is the number one relationship killer – but not if you’re with the right person. Most couples who have been together for a long time often follow the same routines for most activities that they do together.
If you’re both in for any surprise that comes along your way like spontaneous trips, trying out a different meal combo, exchanging roles at home or on a date, then you have a bright future ahead of you. Your flexibility and spontaneity make your partnership exciting and you should treasure them.
10. You love each other more when you’re apart.
Distance won’t change what you feel for each other. In fact, in a mature and strong relationship, spending time apart just makes the love grow stronger.
Instead of feeling alone, you feel excited about the day that you’re going to be together again. Instead of feeling worried, you’re proud that you can be productive even when you’re apart.
11. You always choose the other’s happiness before yours.
And vice versa. This give-and-take kind of love is common for most couples but not everyone maintains this kind of reciprocity after a while. Mutually wanting the best for the other creates a balance of giving a part of yourself to someone who is willing to do the same is the greatest kind of love. Having the ability to maintain this shared commitment is a true blessing.
Creating a perfect relationship doesn’t come with one true formula. In fact, it’s the simple things that make a romantic partnership better and stronger. All you have to do is to know where to find them – and if you do find them, make sure to treasure them forever.
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Online courses recommended for you:
- Relationship Coaching: Transform Problems into Growth & Love:
Develop true love & greater intimacy & a relationship growth mindset, stop destructive conflicts, find meaning & purpose. - Love & Connection: The Science of Successful Relationships:
This course will show you how to examine the unknown path that you’ll travel with your spouse, and carefully evaluate the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship.
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