What would life be without a best friend? I guess it would be so much lonelier and less enjoyable. Friendship is a special kind of love. However, in this generation it’s hard to find someone whom you can call your “best friend”.
You might have friends, like childhood friends, college friends, friends at workplace but there is always one among your long list of friends who is more than just a friend. She is that person whom you can treat like a family, the first one whom you want to share the biggest news, someone who can be your shoulder to cry on and you can totally rely on, someone that comes into your mind when you want to make any plans, or someone who will fight for you when the world is against you.
Isn’t it a beautiful feeling to have that person whom you can argue with, laugh together, and share crazy thoughts? It might be a bit unusual to find your best friend in this big and complicated world. But if you work at it, you will eventually find the person that is destined to be your best friend forever.
Probably, she is already on your list of friends but you just can’t figure it out if she can be your best friend forever. The following signs might help you assess if you’ve finally found your BFF.
1. You feel secure.
The inexpressible comfort of feeling safe in the hand and heart of a person is actually one of the signs that you’ve finally found your best friend. A friend will ask you if you’re okay but a best friend will listen and will make you feel secure. They might not have the words to make you feel better, but they do have the arms to give you a hug and a heart that’s yearning to see you smile again.
2. You don’t have to pretend when you’re together.
A real best friend is someone whom you can be honest with and don’t have to pretend when in front of her. Honesty may not get you a lot of friends but it will always lead you to the right ones.
3. She’s the first person you call.
You know that you can count on her when you need help no matter what the situation is. Your best friend is the first person you call or text when something great or bad happens because you know that she will have the same reaction as yours.
4. You get each other’s weirdness.
The funny thing about having a best friend is that, you have someone you can do bizarre things with. Others might not get you and just freak out about how weird you are. However, being weird has never felt so awesome when you’re with someone who has the same attitude as yours.
5. Selfishness is gone.
There is no hesitation when both of you borrow something from each other and there is no awkwardness when the bill comes. Both are genuinely generous whether it’s clothes, money, time, or even experience because best friends are like a family to you, so you don’t have to be selfish with each other.
6. You treat each other as part of the family.
A best friend is like a family, there is no need for introduction when she comes over to your house. She can goof around with your family without being ashamed of because everyone knows her.
7. She supports you.
A real best friend will lift you up and not drag you down. Aside from your family, your best friend believes in you and will push you to be the best version of yourself.
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8. You’re comfortable with her in silence.
Sitting together in peace and quietness without feeling awkward is a sign that you’re with a real best friend, because you feel comfortable without needing to fill those silent moments with noisiness.
9. You can gift her funny crazy things.
A best friend is someone whom you can surprise with funny gifts without worrying about her reaction.
10. She will tell the truth even if it’ll hurt you.
Your friends will only tell you what you wanna hear, but your best friend isn’t afraid to tell you what you don’t want to hear.
11. You share the same enemies.
Best friends hate the same people. Some might say “love brings us together” but actually, that is not the only way to achieve “togetherness”. Mutual hate also gets the job done.
12. You’re not afraid to do trash talk with each other.
Your rudest and most vulgar insults are reserved for each other. When you get comfortable together, saying nasty things with each other is just fine because both of you knows that it is just a sign of your affection towards each other.
13. She knows all your habits.
It may be good or bad habits but a real best friend knows everything about you. Your daily routine, what you do when you’re bored, or what makes you mad — she knows them all.
14. She knows how to handle your moodiness and attitudes.
No matter how moody you are, your best friend still loves you and accepts you for who you are. She’s someone who knows how to make you smile and laugh in any circumstances.
15. You make plans for your future together.
Making future plans together shows that both of you knows that you are not leaving each other’s life no matter what. The road trip you’ve been planning for years from now is going to happen any time soon.
16. You make time for each other.
When someone becomes part of your life, you make an effort just to spend time with her. And even if you’re far from each other, you still make sure to send a text or do phone calls just to check if she’s okay.
17. You can’t go without her.
Without your best friend, everything is so dull. Your journey is so dreary and unexciting.
18. She’s always part of your plans.
She is connected to your life now, so whatever is on your mind, you see to it that she is part of your decision making or whatever plans you have in the future.
19. You can laugh about things.
Laughter is one of the best ingredients for a long-lasting friendship. This will not only make you look younger but it will also help you feel comfortable with each other’s company and deal with the downright craziness.
20. She knows when something’s up.
She knows you better than anyone else. You don’t need to hide your emotions, because she will still feel it no matter how hard you try to conceal it.
No matter how serious life gets, you still have that one person whom you can be completely stupid with. Having a best friend you can count on times when you feel so down is such a wonderful feeling. Aside from your family, you also have someone you can share secrets with and who will always be there for you through thick and thin.
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