Happiness is not about being committed in a relationship, happiness depends upon ourselves. We may have different perceptions about happiness, but at the end of the day what matters most is you, being able to show curve on that lips as red as ripening fruit.
To be single is not a weakness of being unable to find a relationship, hence it is a strength of having the patience to wait for the right one. Never let yourself be confused about being single with being lonely because your happiness does not depend on your relationship status.
Love can be a bloodcurdling road to venture down, yet many people still love to strode on that course because they all believe that Love is patient..Love is kind…It always protects.. Always trusts.. Always hopes..Always perseveres.. And Love never fails.
And even if you know you would get crash at the end, you wouldn’t bother to think twice, but still get in the car with the one you love all over again because love is a combination of bitter and sweet sensation.
That even if you get hurt a million times, even if your heart got crashed shoddily or even if you stepped on that aisle full of thorns just to be with the one you love . You will never get tired, never be afraid to love and get hurt.
That is the cycle of love, we may have different reasons why we chose to stay single, but time will come when we are all ready to face the consequences of love. Thus, if you choose to be single for now, be happy enough because it only means that your knight in shining armor has just lost his ways, to your house or probably God is just saving the best for you. You just have to be patient, be positive or you may follow these tips on how to keep a happy life while you are single.
1. Practice self-love.
You deserve to be loved not only by those people around you, but of course by Yourself as well. Being single is an opportunity to focus on yourself and to look deep inside yourself. Falling in love with yourself first is actually the most important relationship you need to deal with. So do yourself a favor, give yourself a little hug and start to love yourself more. How? Here are some basic tips on how to practice self love.
Embrace yourself. The process of loving yourself starts with recognizing and appreciating your true nature. Know that everyone has negative and positive sides. Learn to embrace and love all those things that make you different because that’s what makes them especial.
Encourage yourself. Daily positive affirmations can help you to feel happier every day. You may tell yourself: “I am intelligent.” “I can do this.” ‘I am beautiful.” Say anything that would make you smile and that would make you feel appreciated.
Forgive Yourself. Accept the fact that you are not perfect, you commit mistakes and failures in life, but never be too harsh on yourself when you do all of it. Be willing to embrace your imperfections and just remind yourself that failures are only lessons to be learned.
Protect yourself. Don’t let the wrong people strode into your life, instead bring the right people into your life. You deserve to be surrounded by people who truly love you rather than those people who take pleasure in your pain and loss. Get rid of TOXIC people into your life, you shouldn’t waste your time and effort entertaining people who just want to take away your happiness and success. Know your worth.
Treat Yourself. Spend more time with yourself, pamper yourself with food or buy yourself clothes. This will help you explore more about yourself, it will take you to a journey learning things about yourself and will also make you appreciate yourself for being authentically you.
2. View life in a positive side.
Beautiful things will indeed happen if you distance yourself from negative vibes. You will live better and longer if you view life with a positive side. Being pessimistic wouldn’t help you achieve a good outlook in life, it only sees the difficulty in every opportunity while being optimistic sees the opportunity in every difficulty. Optimism is a happiness magnet, so if you want to be happy in life, stay positive, good things and good people will surely be drawn to you.
3. Consider financial benefits of being single.
Being single isn’t stressful because you no longer have to worry about a partner’s needs or desire. You don’t have someone to buy chocolates , flowers or teddy bears on special occasion not unless you want to buy it for yourself. Thus, you can really save money while you are single compared to those who are in a relationship. Instead of spending money to a significant other, why not just spend it for yourself or save it for the future.
4. Serve God.
Instead of complaining or being sad about your relationship status, why not just fixed your eyes on Jesus. Remember that until God is the obsession of your heart, you’ll always be looking for mere men to meet needs that only He can fill. It is only when you make God your first love, will you be ready for a love story that reflects His glory. If you get bored, feel unhappy or lost in life just serve God and he will surely lead you to the right path. Learn to love yourself and God first, for he will surely lead you to the right man.
5. Spend more time with your family.
Surrounding yourself with supportive people will help you feel happy. Always remember that you don’t have to be in an intimate relationship just to be happy. The love and support of your family to yours is already enough to keep yourself happy. They are the one’s whom you can trust and can rely on in times you need someone to lean on.
Probably, while you were in a relationship you ignore and forgot to spend more time with them. You got too attached to your significant other and forgot that you still have your family who truly loves you more than anyone else could do. Instead of looking for a date , why not just hang out with your family, date them, spend your time with the people who’s always there for you. The love of your family is a life’s greatest blessing.
6. Keep in touch with your friends.
Surround yourself with those who make you happy. Aside from your family, you also have Friends whom you can count on. But of course, make sure to choose friends who are worth it and real. There are probably things, you can’t share with your family that’s why you have your friends with you. Your friends are the medicine for a wounded heart and a shoulder to lean on. Hang out with your friends and make the most of your time. It’s not how much you have but how much you enjoy with them that makes Happiness.
7. Stay fit and build a happy lifestyle.
This is surely the perfect time to reconnect with yourself on a physical level. You may want to start a new exercise program, do Zumba, or even Xbox games that will allow you to work out with others in a fun way. Do things that will help you get into shape and feel good about your body. Also, practice yourself to eat healthy foods because sometimes your diet can affect your happiness and bring your mood down. So, take a look at what you’ve been eating and look for healthier alternatives to have a happy lifestyle.
8. Focus on your career.
Instead of ranting about how unlucky you are in a relationship, why not just focus on your dreams. The harder you work for something, the greater happiness you will feel when you finally achieve it. If you keep on focusing on your problem about your relationship status, the more you will feel bad about it. But if you focus on your career , you will surely have more opportunities. Your success is your happiness, so if you really want to be successful, invest in yourself.
9. Learn to ignore media depictions of happy couples.
One of the main reasons why people are not happy and bitter when they are single is because of media depictions that reinforce the idea that they need to be in a relationship enable to be happy. It may be difficult not to get envious seeing sweet couples on your news feed while you’re single, but always remember that you are not the only one who’s feeling that way too. There are many people who are in the same boat as you. Being envious of others just simply robs you of the happiness you deserve. So if you want to be happy in your single life, learn how to ignore media depictions of happy couples because it just literally adds nothing to your life and it devalues the good things you do have. Ignore the way being single is portrayed in movies or television because most of it only have a flair for drama.
10. Step out of your comfort zone.
Why not try to do things you’ve never done before, a great way to be happy with being single is to get out of your comfort zone, go somewhere and do something fun and new. Stepping out of your comfort zone will lead you to new friends and amazing experiences. Whatever the situation is, just try to put yourself out there and you will surely gain more confidence and happiness over time. Make sure to try new things, experiment, or have an adventure with yourself or with your friends. Just enjoy your time being single.
11. Achieve independence.
Being independent could help you in the future compared to dependent people who rely more on a relationship. Happiness should never be completely dependent upon another person, happiness should depend upon ourselves. Remember that if your relationship ends, you become so lost because you’ve been too attached to that person. It is an empowering feeling, knowing that you can get through life without being dependent on others. Thus, you should not only recognize how to be happy being single, but you should also realize the good idea to choose to spend more time to love yourself.
12. Enjoy your freedom.
When you are single, you have the freedom to do whatever you want, you are free to be spontaneous without the consideration of significant other. It is still a blessing to have your own time for yourself, although having someone to share your experience with is a joy. Instead of complaining about your relationship status, why not just enjoy your freedom while you are still single? Being single isn’t a time to look for love, yet it is a time to work on yourself and grow as an individual. And always remind yourself that God has a purpose why he put you in that situation, probably in order for you to grow and be independent.
13. Start a new hobby.
While you are free of the responsibilities of a relationship, try to start a new hobby. Add something that will inspire you to enrich your life. If you have something you’ve always wanted to do, now is the perfect time to do it. Choose to do something different that will surely challenge you.
14. Appreciate life.
Be thankful and stop complaining, you will never really get what you want until you are thankful for what you have. Learn how to be contented and appreciate life, always keep in mind that if you are awake you are blessed because life is a priceless gift so appreciate every minute of it. Complaining about your relationship status has nothing to do with your life. You’re just stressing yourself, appreciate what you have right now because you don’t always get a second chance of it. You may be single for now but sooner or later you will find your perfect match. Those moments will soon pass and you will surely hope you had treasured them more, so appreciate life as it happens.
15. Recognize the importance of perfect timing.
Timing is everything, most especially in a relationship. The time has indeed a wonderful way of showing us what really matters. Instead of being lonely about your relationship status, why not just remind yourself that there is a perfect time for everything. God is probably writing the best story for you. Just wait on God’s timing and you’ll surely have a better result. Be patient and trust that everything will work out.
Falling is inevitable. It does not appear with any warning signs. It can happen anywhere or to anyone. There may be a variety of emotions and risks that love can bring but never lose hope. Each of us has different ways in protecting our hearts, but hurting is inescapable. People experience all those gut-wrenching pain of a heartbreak, but all of it is indispensable. You might feel a bit of failure for now, but he never fails you. The best way to find love is to find God.
You probably took all of it, but didn’t work. Then why not let the perfect author write the best Love Story for you? He is the perfect image of Love. His desire is to give us all the Love that can surpass Romeo and Juliet, Edward and Bella, Noah and Allie, Ronnie and Will or whatever idea of a Love Story you have in mind.
Never have doubts about what your author is writing for you. His plans aren’t second best or average it is always the best because he does not want us to settle for less. Live your life freely, with an open hand instead of a tight grip. Give him the pen and let him write your story, it will surely be amazing!
Take time to love God and to love yourself first and when God knows you are ready for the responsibility of commitment, he will reveal the right person under the right circumstances.
Let he strode into your life, your heart, and everything will be perfect. God’s plan will always be greater and more beautiful than your disappointments in life. You just have to trust him. 🙂