How do you stop yourself from cheating on your partner in a relationship? If you really love your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife, you must not do anything that will break your partner’s heart and ruin your relationship with them. Besides, even if you don’t really love your partner, as long as you’re in a relationship with them, you don’t have any right to cheat on them and cause someone a broken heart.
Whatever kind of relationship you have, you are bound to fulfill your promise of loyalty and faithfulness to your partner. Here are 12 ways to help you NOT cheat in your relationship and keep it intact.
1. Live in spirit.
Cheating is a desire of your flesh. To prevent or stop yourself from fulfilling this worldly desire, be a more spiritual person. Prioritize the unseen things that last forever, such as love, faithfulness, kindness, truth, and honor. Reject the destructive desires of your physical nature that only provide short-term pleasures, like flirtation, infidelity, and adultery.
2. Stop cheating right from your eyes.
The eye is the lamp of the body and the window to your soul. Do not let cheating enter into your eyes and then corrupt your mind, heart, and soul later. In other words, if you already have a wife or a girlfriend, don’t stare maliciously on other women, whether they are on a magazine, television, Internet, or right in front of you.
“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light within you is darkness, how great is that darkness!“ – Matthew 6:22-23 NIV
3. Never ever try it.
Cheating is like any other sins – they are addicting. If you have never committed cheating in your life, better not try it even just a little. This is because once you have tasted it, you will find it hard to not crave for more. Hence, have a strong conviction to maintain your soul’s cleanliness and do not try cheating even just once.
4. Develop self-control.
Develop self-discipline in your life as a whole. Learn how to control yourself to avoid drunkenness, gluttony, laziness, and other bad practices no matter how serious or not they are. If you can’t even control yourself to avoid a bottle of beer or a single stick of cigarette, then how much more the urge to cheat on your partner which is a more powerful temptation?
5. Be with family or friends who will help you avoid cheating.
Instead of spending time with people who might bring you to temptation, enjoy time with your family and trusted friends who will keep you away from them. Don’t go alone when you are meeting someone, especially if they pose a threat. If your partner is not available, let your best friend or sibling accompany you to make sure you will not fall into temptation.
6. Know that you will gain nothing from cheating.
Have a clear view of the future. Realize that you will never gain anything from cheating but a short-term pleasure. Your partner’s heart will be broken. Your children will suffer. Your family will be ruined. Your dignity will be destroyed. You will definitely lose from such action.
7. Be honest and open with your partner.
As the saying goes, the truth will set you free. Therefore, preserve and enjoy your freedom by not creating any secret. Don’t create something that will make you lie or break your partner’s trust. Always be honest and open with your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse. If you have a problem or complaint with them, tell them honestly so you can talk this about and solve the issue.
8. Always wear your symbol of commitment to your relationship.
Always wear your wedding ring or any object that will remind you and other people that you’re already committed in a relationship. This will bring a message to anyone that you honor your marriage or partnership and you will not entertain any outside party in your relationship.
9. Love yourself.
Learn to love yourself. Stay away from things that will destroy you. Extramarital affairs or adultery could give you sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Binge drinking at nightclubs will also make you sick. Not only that you will destruct your physical body, but you will also destroy your honor and dignity. Give some respect and love for yourself!
10. Realize that there are still many people who don’t cheat.
If you think it’s just okay or normal to cheat because a lot of people do it nowadays, you’ve got it wrong. It’s never okay to cheat and break your partner’s heart. Committing adultery is not also normal – it could even land you in jail. Be aware that there are still many people who are faithful and loyal to their own partner. And they don’t even brag it on the Internet or social media.
11. Find a better solution.
If you’re not satisfied with your partner or not happy with your relationship, remember that cheating is not a solution to your problem. Fidelity and adultery will only make your problem worse. If you think that your partner is not giving you importance, tell them honestly what you feel. Cheating may get your partner’s attention. But will it make you a more valuable person?
12. Love your partner truly.
Finally, the best solution to prevent or stop yourself from cheating is to truly love your partner. True love is loving without expecting love in return. It also transforms you into a better person who is kind, patient, trustworthy, humble, truthful, respectful, and faithful so you will never ever cheat and hurt your partner. Moreover, if you really love your partner, you will bring him or her closer to God.
You cannot serve both love and infidelity – you have to choose only one. You can reject cheating and enjoy your relationship with your partner or you can cheat and break your relationship and your partner’s heart. You cannot enjoy them both. Therefore, make the right choice. Do the right actions. And to light up your heart, mind, and soul, always remember to “Do everything in love.” – 1 Corinthians 16:14.