We search for happiness every day by doing the things we enjoy and just by living life to the fullest. However, there are moments when we wish that we could share these amazing experiences with someone special. Some people are fortunate enough to have finally met their one true love while others are still waiting to find their soulmate.
Indeed, love comes in many forms but perhaps the most elusive one is finding that perfect person with whom you can spend the rest of your life. In some instances, it comes when we least expect it, and other times, when we need it the most. Whether you are a believer in true love or not, this article is for you.
So how do we find true love?
1. Be your best version of yourself.
The first piece of advice that we can give you is to simply BE YOURSELF – the version of yourself that makes you the happiest and where you feel most comfortable.
You don’t have to try to be someone else or pretend to adopt a personality totally different from your own just because you want to please someone. Let that person love you for who you are inside and out.
2. Find your crowd and have fun.
Finding your crowd means being with people with the same interests as yours and going to places where you belong. Having a zone where you can express who you also mean being part of a world where you can freely shine your brightest.
Most often than not, in this crowd, you would find someone who loves the same things that you do.
3. Do what you love and just live.
No, you don’t have to actively look for that special person who would make you happy. Only you, yourself, can make you truly happy.
Finding true love doesn’t mean exhausting all your physical and emotional resources just to find the one. Just live your life by doing what you love. If you are happy with what you have right and how you live your every day, then you’ll be ready to share that positivity with someone. Start there.
4. Be open to new experiences.
Go out and have fun. Your comfort zone is a place where you can just be yourself and just forget the world, but if you want someone to be a part of your life, you either have to let people in, or you get out of it.
Be open to explore new opportunities and experiences.
5. Don’t be afraid to meet new people.
If you happen to meet someone interesting, given the right time and circumstances, don’t be afraid to say hello. Striking a conversation with a perfect stranger is okay as long as you know what to say – or sometimes even if you just don’t say anything. Let your smile do the talking.
6. Have a little faith in missed chances.
If first dates and first meetings don’t work out, cheer up. You don’t have to be sad over the things that you cannot control, and letting go of people who aren’t for us is a sign of maturity.
7. Timing is everything.
There are times when no matter how hard we try, we don’t feel good enough for someone. However, during these similar moments, in a magical way, someone finds us.
It’s amazing that even at such a stage of our life when we feel we are at our worst, they still manage to see the beauty behind our imperfections. How is it possible? We’ll never know.
So you’ve finally found some special. Now, what should you do to make love last?
8. Don’t lose sight of who you are.
Sometimes when someone is in a relationship, they tend to lose their own identity just to please the person they love. Although it could make a relationship work at first, it could eventually ruin them in the long run. Why?
Losing sight of who you are means changing and adjusting your own needs – even sacrificing your personal happiness just to be a perfect partner. Learn to love yourself and the right person will accept you nonetheless.
9. Let each other grow.
You may have several similarities but there will always be differences: your hobbies, priorities or even personal goals in your respective career. Understanding this reality will help you accept that you don’t always have to do things together, and letting each other grow does not mean growing apart.
Don’t limit your partner’s potential. Support them in all their undertakings, celebrate with them in their success. Grow together.
10. Respect each other’s convictions.
Couples who both have strong personalities have experienced arguing over issues that are outside their “romantic agenda”: different political allegiance, opposing philosophies in life and work, and relatively trivial matters. What should you do?
Instead of an argument, you can engage in a more constructive conversation. This way, you’ll learn from each other without hurting yourself.
11. Trust in the process.
A typical relationship undergoes problems that can be considered normal and just part of the process of building a stronger, better bond between two people in love. There are the occasional fights, the almost-breakups, and finally, the resolution when you get to hug and make up.
Trust in this process and don’t give up on what you have.
12. Do your part.
For a relationship to work, one must do one part. Both of you should share the responsibility of making an effort to keep the love alive. Be romantic, be faithful, and always let your love be felt. Moreover, apologize when you’ve done something wrong and, when the lessons are learned, choose to forgive.
One very special kind of love is the love we find from someone who is willing to give both their time and attention just to get to know us, to try and make us happy without asking anything in return, to promise us that they would spend the rest of their life with us in sickness and health, come what may.
We hope these tips would help you find your true love and be inspired to build a long-lasting relationship with him or her.
Online courses recommended for you:
- Relationship Coaching: Transform Problems into Growth & Love:
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- Love & Connection: The Science of Successful Relationships:
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