personal development tips

10 Signs You’re the Toxic One in Your Relationship and What to Do about it

Last Updated on: March 18, 2021 by Charm Villalon

Keeping a relationship isn’t simple and making it work can be really challenging especially if couples fail to see that something is slowly and effectively tearing them apart. What is more frustrating is when the very act of trying to make it better is actually the one thing that is making it worse.

This type of setting is a common scenario in toxic relationships. In definition, this kind of connection between two people, no matter how they love each other, can often lead to emotionally and psychologically traumatic outcomes. Most of the time, neither of them is aware of how their “love” is slowly destroying them until it’s too late.

We can all agree that the best way to solve a problem is to find what caused it in the first place. In problems concerning a relationship between two people in love, it’s not the question of “what” but it’s actually a matter of “who”.

Well, everything that has been said leads us to one equally important question that must be addressed: how would you know if you’re actually the one ruining it all? Are there signs that you’re the toxic one in your relationship? And if you find out you’re indeed the one, what can you do about it?

Luckily, we have the answers to your questions and hopefully, it’s not yet too late.

11 Inspiring Tips to Overcome Shyness

Last Updated on: February 17, 2021 by Charm Villalon

Being shy can affect how you accomplish simple to complex day-to-day activities. In fact, this constant lack of confidence in yourself may eventually be an obstacle in achieving your goals in life in the long run. As a form of introversion, this can be the reason why you don’t interact with other people often, why you don’t try new things and also the primary culprit that kills your every chance to self-growth. So what can you do about it?

First of all, it’s important to understand that shyness is not something you can remove from your system in an instant and it’s not easy to change someone’s perspective and the feelings that go with it. How we think is affected and influenced by many things. It takes time to convince yourself that you’ll be okay, that everything’s just fine. It will be a constant battle with yourself but once you’ve decided to be brave, it will be worth it; It’s liberating and you’ll be able to do so much more.

So if you ever need something to start with, here are a few inspiring tips to overcome shyness.

12 Ways to Deal with People with Crab Mentality

Last Updated on: February 16, 2021 by Charm Villalon

Have you ever tried so hard to achieve something but always end up failing because someone did their best to prevent it? Have you ever been so successful only to find out that some people are not happy about what you have accomplished? Fortunately, not everyone experiences these frustrating scenarios but other unfortunate souls often become victims of this type of negativity brought about by some who apparently find pleasure in putting others down.

Crab mentality, also known as “crabs in the bucket”, is a metaphor that describes a person’s pattern of thinking specifically how one tries to either impede the success of another or undermine one’s achievement by finding faults and flaws in the other person’s feat.

For instance, people with a crab mentality often follow a thought pattern that, if they can’t have something, neither can other people – just like a bucket full of crabs: some will try to climb up to freedom but the others left behind will just pull them down.

If you happen to have an ill-fated encounter with people with crab mentality, what would you do? Would you respond in anger and bombard them with the same condemnation? This situation can be frustrating but don’t let it ruin your inner peace. How? This article will help you out.

These are the most “mature” and effective ways to deal with people with a crab mentality.

12 Inspirational Career Tips for New Graduates

Last Updated on: February 16, 2021 by Cyril Abello

Are you one of those fresh graduates who are clueless about what to do or where to go next? Having taught college students for more than two years, I frequently encounter graduates who go through a hard time figuring what career path to take. There were also those who got rejected from job applications countless times, and they are already afraid to try again. Some of my previous students asked me for inspirational advice on how to qualify for jobs or find out what they really want to pursue.

And here are the usual tips I give them:

12 Alarming Signs You Need To Take a Break from Work

Last Updated on: February 16, 2021 by Charm Villalon

Most people find fulfillment and personal satisfaction when they are able to be the best in their chosen field. Some would even confidently assert that focusing on work and spending your physical and mental energy solely on your career goals should be the only way to be successful. However, they fail to mention that to make this possible, you have to take other aspects of your life for granted – especially your health.

Workaholics agree that they spend a larger percentage of their day meeting deadlines and beating their personal records on the number of hours they spend at the office. As ideal as these may sound, many studies proved that working more than what your body can handle is obviously unhealthy not only physically but also mentally and emotionally.

How will you know if you’re working too much? These signs might help you recognize the alarming indications that you are failing at the work-life balance department.

How to be Kind and Warm to Others

Last Updated on: January 15, 2021 by Marydel Mitch Flores

Isn’t it amazing to be surrounded by kind people? Being kind is a vital way of bringing meaning to your own life as well as the lives of other people. Warm-heartedness is indeed a key factor that allows you to smile and be happy even if you’re with a stranger.

To be kind and warm helps you feel better inside, and it also helps others to feel better with your presence. It starts with a decision, once you have the right attitude, the rest becomes quite a bit easier. A kind heart is like a fountain of gladness, it makes everything in its vicinity freshen into smiles. Sometimes, you just have to be nice to other people not because they are nice, but because you are.

Thus, kindness has its true source deep within you, and while some people are naturally kind, it is something that everyone can cultivate by choice. So, if you are willing to know how to be kind and warm to others, I listed down 12 tips that might help you.

How to Control Pride and Overcome Arrogance

Last Updated on: March 21, 2021 by Marydel Mitch Flores

Perhaps, one of the hardest things to recognize in ourselves is our pride. Pride can lead us to be only concerned with ourselves, seek recognition to exalt ourselves, and speak constantly without listening. You might as well have seen many arrogant people around you. They are always preoccupied with their ego, and probably, you’re struggling with the same trait.

Many people don’t realize what awaits them if they just let go of this attitude and move forward. Instead of looking at yourself as “wise in your own eyes”, let yourself be humble and willing to learn from other people.

Thus, if you are struggling with pride and arrogance, here are 12 tips that might help you control your own pride and overcome that irksome quality of being arrogant.

12 Tips to Improve Self-Awareness and Develop Your Potential

Last Updated on: February 16, 2021 by Marydel Mitch Flores

Before knowing anything else, you need to know yourself first. You need to know your weaknesses, strengths, beliefs and desires in life. Keeping in touch with your emotions means, you have to be self-aware.

The most important characteristic of a leader is self-awareness, the ability to monitor one’s own emotions and reactions. Learning how to be aware of yourself might not be easy, but if you can master this skill, it will help you become a much more effective leader. Many of us are not fond of spending much time on self-reflection. And even though personal feedback is presented, people are not always open to it because honest feedback isn’t always flattering. Thus, many people indeed have a low level of self-awareness.

However, self-awareness can help you identify opportunities for professional development and personal growth. If you want to improve your self-awareness and develop your potential, I listed down 12 tips that might help you.

10 Ways to be Smarter and More Confident

Last Updated on: March 17, 2021 by Marydel Mitch Flores

You might not feel confident about your intellectual capacity, but if you put a small value on yourself, the world will surely not raise your price. The best way to build your self-confidence is by broadening your life experiences. Thus, if you want to become smarter and more confident in yourself, increase your knowledge, skills, experiences and understanding.

Confidence and intelligence are something you have to work on it and thinking about the hardest thing to do with it, is probably the reason why only a few engage in it. However, you can always work for it if you have perseverance and determination in life. So if you want to have more wit, intelligence and confidence, here are ten ways to get them.

15 Tips to be More Mature and Responsible

Last Updated on: October 14, 2021 by Marydel Mitch Flores

Maturity and responsibility are not measured by age – they are built by experience. It is not when we start speaking big things, but rather when we start understanding small things. You may not be able to control the situation, but you can always control your attitude, and how you deal with it, that’s when maturity and being responsible occur.

Being mature and responsible may be tough, but you will see how much better you’ll feel about yourself in no time with a little effort and motivation.

Life does not prepare you for the responsibility that comes along with being an adult. Well, who would be ready to plunge into the adulthood stage where you have to pay your own bills, fire up another workday, or drink some coffee and pretend that you know what you are doing.