Sometimes instant attraction just happens, but sometimes we need to make it happen! Instant attraction can be really important. It can make the difference between someone wanting to approach you or someone deciding to move on and keep looking. If you want to make sure you have as many possibilities for romance as possible, then you want to create instant attraction with as many people as you can. There are some things you can do to help someone feel instantly attracted to you and they are surprisingly simple.
1. Use Eye Contact
Make sure the person can see your eyes, and that you can keep a healthy dose of eye contact between the two of you because it can create instant attraction.
A long glance can send shivers up the spine of someone else.
And, eye contact connects your energy and helps create a bond where there is no bond yet.
The right amount of eye contact can create a feeling of intimacy even when you don’t know the person. It mimics intimacy that occurs in lovers who gaze into the eyes of each other and can produce the same chemicals and feelings despite the fact that you haven’t been intimate.
How do you create instant attraction with eye contact? Wait for them to meet your gaze and then use a three-step approach.
- Start off a short glance and maintain eye contact for just a few seconds.
- Add a smile the next time you glance over.
- Let your next eye contact look a little more intense as if you are giving them a knowing look about a secret you share together.
This should get the person interested in you and, without knowing why it’s happening, could create instant attraction.
2. Create More Perceived Intimacy
If you have a chance to talk to this person, take it. By communicating with them, even with a few sentences, you can create a sense of intimacy that can cause instant attraction.
You want to skip the cheesy pickup lines, though. You are trying to create instant attraction, not scare them away, so you want to talk in a way that will create a bond between you.
Think of someone you are in an intimate with and how you would talk to them. You wouldn’t be formal with them. You would talk in a relaxed and comfortable way.
For instance, when it comes to the weather, you might say to a stranger, “It looks like it’s going to be nice today.” But, with someone you are intimate with, you might say, “I’m so happy that we get to enjoy the weather today.”
When you use words like ‘we’ or ‘us’ it creates a sense of intimacy. So, try to sneak it into your conversation.
By talking to someone as if you are already in a relationship, you can trick their brain into feeling a sense of comfort and security with you and increase that bond even more.
Just don’t be too informal with them or you could creep them out. For instance, don’t say things like:
- Let’s get out of here and do something else.
- We should go get something to drink because I’m thirsty.
- What do you think we will do next time?
Don’t act like you are in a committed relationship because that will create the opposite of instant attraction.
Fact: Sharing something personal is a secret that marketers use to create a bond with you. Next time you are being sold to, listen to how the salesperson talks to you. They will say things like ‘I totally understand how you feel!’ and then share a personal story with you to back up their point. You will find yourself feeling more connected to them and more willing to trust them as they sell to you. But, if they share too much with you, it can become creepy.
Remember this when you want to create instant attraction. You want to create a bond, but you don’t want to be creepy!
Next time you start to have a conversation with someone, sell yourself, and share something personal with them. It will help them feel more connected to you and could create a sense of instant attraction.
For instance, if you are talking about an event occurring, and the person says that they were really excited to come to the event, then you can agree and share a little story about how excited you were to come to the event too. But don’t tell them every detail about what the event means to you, how your mother tried to keep you from going to it, and how you felt depressed before you came but now you feel better.
Keep it simple. Share a personal story that is positive and creates a connection between the two of you.