How a Man Should Treat His Wife According to the Bible

How a Man Should Treat His Wife According to the Bible
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A home will not be truly a home without genuine affection for each other. And usually, it should start with the parents. They say that the best gift that a father can give his children is loving their mom the right way.

If you are a husband or soon-to-be one, and you wish to treat your wife in a way pleasing to the Lord, you should consult the Bible. What does God’s Word say you must do?

Check out the following biblical tips on how you can be a good husband:

Be a Christ-Centered Husband

1. Surrender Your Life to Christ and Live for Him.

Before you can apply God’s Word in your life, you need to surrender yourself to Christ first—that is how you become a CHRISTian. The moment you make Jesus your Lord or Master, the Holy Spirit will be at work to transform your character.

“I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.” (Galatians 2:20)

2. Seek God First.

If you want to be the best Christian husband to your wife, make sure that God is number one in your life first. Be more concerned with things that have eternal value rather than fleeting and temporary things that the world can offer. This will help you discipline yourself to avoid worldly cravings that can destroy your marriage.

“If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.” (Colossians 3:1)

3. Seek Godly Wisdom.

No relationship is perfect, even between a Christian couple. That is why, being the head of the family, always seek God’s wisdom on how you can care for your wife and kids.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

4. Avoid Adopting a Worldly Lifestyle.

By renewing your mind to align it to God’s will, you learn to be more selfless. You strive to avoid selfish pursuits that can harm your family. This is necessary for marriage since pride and self-centeredness are the common roots of divorce.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” (Romans 12:2)

5. Be Part of the Great Commission.

As the spiritual leader of the family, you should be a role model to them when it comes to living a life of mission. Be part of a ministry that shares hope with the lost. If you emphasize the importance of this, your wife will be encouraged to do the same.

“He said to them, ‘Go into all the world and preach the gospel to all creation.’” (Mark 16:15)

Treasure Her

6. Be Gentle to Your Wife.

Your wife is not perfect and sometimes she is hard to understand. Do not be harsh on her. Instead, be gentle and patient all the time.

“Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” (Colossians 3:19)

How a Man Should Treat His Wife According to the Bible
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7. Be More Understanding.

As mentioned in no. 6, your wife is sometimes hard to read. Please know that women struggle with hormonal rage sometimes, that is why they are prone to mood swings. Instead of getting angry and embarrassing them, be more understanding and supportive.

“Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)

8. Be Willing to Sacrifice Yourself for Her.

Just like how Jesus is willing to sacrifice His life for the church, commit yourself to protecting your wife, even if it costs you your life.

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25)

9. Love Her as You Love Yourself.

Love your wife just like how you would love yourself. Take care of her properly, provide for her needs, and protect her from pain and harm.

“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” (Ephesians 5:28)

10. Devote Yourself to Her Until the End.

Do not take your marriage lightly. Be determined to stay with your wife through thick and thin until the end. In a world where divorce is a trend, be determined to make your marriage last a lifetime.

“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” (Mark 10:9)

11. Value Her as Your God-Given Partner.

God appointed you to be the leader of the family, but that does not mean you are better or more important than your wife. Respect her role as your suitable helper—a partner—in managing your family. Value her opinions and consult her for decision-making.

“The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18)

Be a Responsible Husband

12. Practice ‘Leave and Cleave’.

Stop being dependent on each other’s parents. Be responsible for your own family, and do not let any of your folks meddle with your family matters. Your wife will be grateful for the peace of mind.

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24)

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13. Fulfill Your Marital Duty to Her.

Your wife has physical intimacy needs too. Do not only focus on your own desires. Be willing to meet hers as well.

“The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3)

14. Be a Good Provider.

While women can work too, make sure that you also excel at providing for your family’s needs. Do not let your wife get all the burden of giving your kids a good future.

“Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.” (1 Timothy 5:8)

15. Avoid Temptations that Can Ruin Your Marriage.

In connection to no. 10, see to it that you protect your marriage at all costs, including against infidelity. Avoid the temptation to cheat on your wife.  Set limitations in your friendship with the opposite sex and do your best to be faithful to her.

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” (Hebrews 13:4)

16. Manage Your Home Well.

While this verse talks about deacons or church leaders, this also gives you an idea of how a man of God should be. Your wife would be so blessed to have a husband who knows how to manage his family. This involves being faithful to your wife and making sure she is happy and content.

“Let deacons each be the husband of one wife, managing their children and their own households well.” (1 Timothy 3:12)

Be a Better Person

By pursuing Christlikeness in your life, you have a better chance to be a good husband to your wife. Keep praying to ask God for wisdom and strength to be the man that your wife deserves.


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Cyril Abello
Joan is a freelance blogger who loves writing about personal development. She also loves learning and teaching languages. A Communication Arts graduate, she now pursues a masters degree in Language Teaching. She is into mobile photography, writing poems, and reading for leisure.
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