A heartbreak could be literally deadly. You may die from heart attack, suicide, or accident due to too much alcohol—or you could kill someone if given the chance. That’s why it should not be taken lightly. You should deal with it intentionally.
Yes, there is no shortcut to healing a broken heart. No matter how hard you try to move on in a day, it is impossible, especially if you have truly loved. It may take months or even years. However, if you are just patient enough, you will heal just fine.
If you know someone who is suffering from heartbreak, or if it’s you, then check out the following inspiring tips that have helped many survived what they thought to be their doomsday.
Tips on how to heal your broken heart
1. Cry as much as you can.
Crying does not make you a loser. Actually, they say that strong people cry. It’s okay to shed a bucket of tears because you are hurting. This will help you let out the pain you feel inside. Don’t hold back, because repression can make the moving on process slow.
2. Accept the truth.
Denying the fact that the person so dear to you is gone makes it harder. Stop hoping s/he will come running back to you. Even if there is a chance for that, but s/he doesn’t do it, just completely let go. Unless the person gives you something to hold on to, then there is no reason to wait. If s/he comes back in the future, then that’s the time you decide about accepting him/her again.
3. Believe that time heals.
For many, this is true—so this could work for you as well. No matter how long it takes, time will come when you just remember the person, but you don’t remember the feeling anymore. As time goes by, you get new adventures, meet new people, and be in new surroundings—and these fresher experiences soon outweigh the old ones.
4. Forgive yourself and those who caused you pain.
Whether it was your fault or the other party’s, choose to forgive yourself and everyone who hurt you. This is a conscious and painful decision that requires renewal every day. At first, it seems impossible to accomplish, but as you pursue forgiveness, your clutch loosens over time.
Holding on to grudges won’t burden anyone else but yourself. That’s why, no matter how hard it is, decide to forgive daily until such time that you’ve successfully done it.
5. Know that you have no other way but to move on.
I used to hate this idea, but sad to say I found out it’s true. No matter how down you are right now, soon you will go up again. There is no other way. That’s the law of nature. Unless you give up on your life or you snap, you will move forward even if it’s a slow process. That’s why don’t lose hope in your situation. You will be okay.
6. Surround yourself with family and friends.
Why should you keep yourself lonely when there are more people out there who deserve your true love? Spend time with your family and friends. Being with them will remind you that you are worth loving. Also, as you interact with people you are comfortable with, the pain of loneliness somehow lessens.
7. Rediscover yourself.
Heartbreak is good at reminding humans of their worth as a person. Instead of drowning in self-pity and despair, why not use this as a drive to rediscover your identity? Do what you used to love doing. Pamper yourself like no one else can. Travel and explore new places. Try new hobbies. Reinvent your wardrobe.
Once you are done grieving over your dead love, you would be thankful to be given the chance to love yourself a little more.
8. Believe that someone better is meant for you.
Probably, you think you can’t live without that person—but that’s only for now. Someday, when you’re all better, you would be thankful that you didn’t end up with him/her. When you fall out of love with someone, that’s the time that you see his/her flaws. Then, you realize that you could have ended up with a miserable relationship or marriage in the long run if you didn’t part ways earlier.
Everything happens for a reason. Who knows? Your heartbreak could lead you to the right guy or girl who would be the best for you. Use this opportunity to seek a better partner whose personality complements yours.
9. Focus on a career.
What could be the best distraction from heartbreak? Yes, nothing else but a career. While being single and loveless, use your time to improve your career. Strive to be the best employee, employer, or entrepreneur that you can be.
If you haven’t finished university yet, make it a target. If you got a degree already, then proceed to post-graduate studies. Set higher goals for yourself.
10. Seek spiritual healing.
You are a tripartite being: composed of body, soul, and spirit. Don’t just focus on restoring your body and soul. Mend your spirit as well. Do this by doing meditation, prayer, or reading spiritual books. Praying, especially for those who hurt you, can help you forgive easier. It can also help you understand, accept, and let go of your sufferings.
You may not be a believer, but at your lowest point, you won’t lose anything if you try calling out to a Supreme Being. Personally, it was heartbreak that helped me answer questions about faith and circumstances. Afterward, I believe I have gained a more positive outlook on life.
It’s not the end of the world
When heartbreak is new and fresh, it is normal to feel too much pain—to the point of thinking you’re dying. It’s not strange that you can’t eat nor sleep. Ending your life may even cross your mind. However, trust me, it won’t last long.
You’re not the first person to have a broken heart. Everyone you meet on the road has his/her share, but they’re still alive and kicking, right? Soon, you can proudly call yourself a survivor too. Just don’t give up.
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I agree with every factor that you have pointed out. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts on this.
Please pray for me, my ex really hurt me and it’s hard to trust really anyone and I’m trying to trust God and it hasn’t been easy. My ex drugged me knowing that I was allergic to the drug and I had to go to the emergency hospital and two months later cheated on me. All this happened during the quarantine(covid) and I couldn’t get away. Now I’ve moved and I’m stealing dealing with a broken heart. Some days are better than others but it still really hurts. Pray that I trust God and his plans for me and that he will bring a great man into my life. Pray for me that I keep going and it’s not the end and that I don’t listen to the enemy voice to give up but that’s not going to happen in Jesus name. Pray that I make good friends to this new state I’m living in. Pray for me that I continue to forgive my ex for what he did.
omg. my bf for almost 3 years broke up with me a month before our 3rd anniversary (a week before my birthday) . this is the first time i got dumped, and he broke up with me by the phone. i know that there’s nothing i can do, but the pain in my heart kills me. i feel so worthless, betrayed. i want to forgive him because i really love him so much, but i end up crying every time i think of him. i hope time will help me heal
My Relationship was completely broken today.No surprises because i know this will happen.To be commenting the truth the first broke was on APRIL 17TH 2017,I’ve explained all about our memories but he blocked in entire social media with an unusual reason he left me in pieces.He returned to me again after a month,I accepted him without any questions because i wanted him more than anything.Then we were in a relationship for complete 3 years.The second broke up on JULY 12TH 2018,I explained again about our memories and asked few questions outta emotions ,he left me with family reasons ,I was out of country when this happened ,he left me in pieces again and blocked me in entire medias.After six months he returned to me again with a simple sorry and asked me join with him again,You guys have any idea of what would i responded???Yes, I accepted him again without asking any questions,but i could see a change in him ,he is not the old person i know.But i accepted him because I’m afraid of losing him again.we were in a continued relationship over six months.We ended up in different places because of graduation.He left to his hometown.I always has that nightmare that what will i do if he leave me again???It become true on JUNE 12TH 2019,he broke up with me again for his family problems.But on jun 12th i was on my way to his native to see him without knowing this would happen,i got my periods on i texted him that i’m scared i don’t have any safety things with me,full of blood on my white pants and i sent him a picture ,he saw the pictures but no reply…I started thinking about number of things,,I was afraid that he is gonna leave me again..Yes he did with the same family reasons..Can u imagine the exact condition of me on that night???the pain made to be quite for some months I can’t cry,my heart was heavy,i don’t how to react ..All in my thought was “Why he left me?” But he blocked again in entire medias..I texted him with all emotions and asked questions about my relationship memories ..But no reply ,he blocked me that’s it.I t was hard (excruciating) But i’ve none of us with me,i was all alone in this painful hell life.I accepted it started to move on lightly,He became back again on March 8TH 2020,just saying i realized the pain u had because of me,But I’M holded and i cannot come out of my boundary. He wants to see me sometimes so he will make a video call just saying he wanted to see and nothing else..This was going for a month,it was painful for me to act like strangers so i told him not to talk like this again?He didn’t reply anything ,atlast i posted a status on my whatsapp explaining painfully,he saw the post and posted back says ” being good will gives you nothing” and he blocked me again,Did i made any mistake???HE’s the one came back to me but at the end he potrayed that he’s is good with me and making me really depressed ,I never hated him,I can’t hate him.If this is the End i’ll Accept it,I want him to be happy and i dont want to see him again,EVERYTHING WILL BE OK,THE SOONER THE BETTER.THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!!
I was introduced to my ex by my friend’s mother, I told my ex about my last relationship before I met him because he asked of it. Everything was moving so smoothly until that fateful day my friend’s mom called me and accused me of lying to, she said i wasn’t giving her feed back about the relationship she introduced me to. That same day my ex blocked me because he stays in abroad. After some weeks he unblocked me and told me that my friend’s mother accused of many things i had never imagined of doing. Our relationship became new and sweet again, this time I gave in my all, I loved him and made many sacrifice. Three different suitors came to me and promised to take me along with them because they all stays abroad, one of them is a US army I refused my family backed and supported my decision because they knew I loved him, though he said he will leave me here in Nigeria I accepted with all my heart because if the love i had for him. He came back every thing was so smooth, and asked me to tell my family he will visit them. Our communication was very much intact, we went into searching for an apartment where I will stay together. I was the one searching for the apartment, I toiled under the sun for weeks. He came back and joined me in searching. On that fateful day, he called me. I went to meet him, when I got there he told me he’s so sorry that he can’t marry me, that his family especially his dad swore with his life never to be alive to witness him marrying me. He said that the mother of my friend introduced another lady for him after he asked him to break up with me. He said the woman really tarnished your image, that I he will never marry me. I told Ok, but my pain is how to tell my family he said I should tell them the earlier the better. I said okay and left. The next day at noon he called me, I went to see him, he told me that he wants to marry me. I laughed and asked how, u told me to tell my family that you are no longer interested and i have told them. I told him to give me sometime to think over it, he said no that he’s giving me that night and if he didn’t hear from me he will go on with his initial plan. I had other pressing issues that same period, I said no to him that I can’t marry him. After some days I saw his introduction pictures online. I thought I was going to die, the pains I was going through pushed out a lump of blood. I never knew I was pregnant for him. I was planning after settling the issue at hand I will call him and say I have forgiven.
Wow, that is a crazy story and I’m so sorry you went through that, no one deserves to be in a relationship if it’s going to be like that. I hope you are doing fine without him though.🙂
My Girlfriend of 3 years (would have been 3 years in 3 days) just left me.
First she tried breaking up on earlier in January, but we got back and tried to make it work. she finally called it quits yesterday, and I just knew I had to let go even though I still love her, she could never really love me anyways. I am devastated right now but I will be fine. I was actually thinking of proposing on our 3rd anniversary. I am crushed and defeated, but it’s time to heal and move on.
Thanks for the inspiration
Wow, very similar thing happened to me. January she said she wasn’t sure about our future but didn’t want to give up on us. She was and still is dealing with depression. Things got really good with us but then she abruptly broke up with me a month before our 3 year anniversary. If you need/want to talk feel free to reach out.
Wow, very similar thing happened to me. January she said she wasn’t sure about our future but didn’t want to give up on us. She was and still is dealing with depression. Things got really good with us but then she abruptly broke up with me a month before our 3 year anniversary. If you need/want to talk feel free to reach out.
Literally the same thing just happened. I’m crushed and apparently did no wrong. So I understand completely why she left.. not at all.
FML
i cheated on my love early on in our relationship because she was seeing other guys . after 7 years she decided to see someone she met at a party she didnt tell me about and basically told me to eat it or f8ck off .she was having this to revenge formy previous wrongs. i am heartbroken and disenhearted she had one nihgt with this guy . but hasnt bothered to see me even tho i am in the hospital sick and waiting aputation. she is still the most beautiful thing i think of everyday. and i always regret my past mistakes altho i wasnt sure in the beginning how much she made of our burgeoning relationship . this has been my mistake for three awesome relationships, regretting my choices ever more.is it fair to fake my death and move away?
This is inspiring, Just broke up with my bf, spent 2yrs and a half with him. I cried a whole lot for 3days nonstop. Hopefully I’ll be okay soon. Am now slowly accepting the fact that he’s gone and that I had to move further.
Good day!
Thank you for sharing thoughts in order to help others specially me.
I’ve been in a relationship for almost 4 years. I tried everything I can just to be faithful with him. Even chose him over my family because I really love him that much to the point that I almost change myself to him- as change my lifestyle, no guy friends allowed and everything he doesn’t like I followed. But all of a sudden he ignores me and don’t want to explain why. And even and how much I ask for forgiveness he didn’t answer and I left hanging. Well, I know , that if he really loves me, he will care about me but sad to say no. I Know all of these happened for a definite reason. Only God knows everything we’re going through, all we can do is to wait and have faith that all will be put into proper places. That’s why, no matter how hard and painful we’re going through keep in my mind that we’re not alone and we can overcome this.
The say when love hurts you, love also will heal you. Too sad to say I fall on the wrong person twice. The first one left without no goodbyes. The second one left me hanging and courted/in a relationship with someone I know. I felt so bad coz I see them both daily with his new girlfriend. The time we’re together with my second man he used to say me negative words. I really feel unworthy coz he never made me feel special.
Both of my exes left me hanging. But at least deep inside I know I never done wrong nor hurted anyone. Pain is just temporary and I hope to meet the right one in God’s perfect time.
You will. Everything has a process. Just have faith. 🙂
My boyfriend whom I was with for three years break up with me June 14 2019 for no reason after all what he did to me I still stayed by his side he used to abuse me, he used to say you can’t hangout with your friends, family, can’t go to weddings nor parties, he used to hit me if I post my pics on social media, he disrespected my whole family but I was still with him tbh and look what he did to me now breaking up with me for no damn reason guys help me to heal from this ASAP
Never forget your self worth! There is a good deserving man out there who will love you, cherish and respect you. Please keep the faith.
Its easy to forget self worth when you give everything and the person just doesn’t care. But there ARE good people out there for us.. I just wish I knew where =)
I had a hard time to move on at my relationship since my failed relationship was on August 08 2019, i don’t know if this can help, but i will try to apply this but maybe it’s really hard since i experience also a failed friendship and i don’t want to thrust again a fake friend, fake people. I know god put me in the situation that i can overcome and be strong but can i request some tip about on “how to overcome a failed friendship?” And “what tips could i get to move on? “.
been through tough time just now break up with my wife after 14 years married an i got 5 kids inspiring tips really help me alot to move on with my life
can time mend everything?
I want to ask you my god,
can you send everything?
then send me some one who cares back
as much as i care about them
Hi…I will take care of u 😉 cheer up!!
Yep I know the feeling. That’s all I want