Perhaps you have heard hundreds of stories about heartbreaks that you have convinced yourself that if someone you love would ever break your heart, you’d be ready and strong enough to be able to make it out alive.
However, the realities of other people can be totally different from our own reality that it will be too late before we realize that the idea of surviving a breakup is easier said than done. We’ll just find ourselves lost, empty, and dying.
If you’re one of those unfortunate souls that have lost hope that you can still find that one person meant for you, read on and discover ways on how to resurrect or revive your love life after your heart was broken.
Let’s take a look at some of them here.
1. Give your heart enough time to heal.
You’re going to need time, enough to heal your heart and it could take months or years. It doesn’t matter as long as you’re doing something to help yourself feel happy again. The first weeks can be the hardest and you’d try to look for other ways that can hurt you more, but be strong and don’t let go of that strength.
Take it slow and don’t be afraid to admit that you’re not okay. Be gentle and take care of your feelings because you’re still emotionally fragile.
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2. Don’t force yourself to be happy.
Happiness will come to you in time but don’t ever hurt yourself more by forcing yourself by engaging in activities or interacting with other people just to desperately “feel” and “look” happy. You don’t have to pretend that you’re okay because you’re not. Again, take it slow and let the process take over.
3. Just cry and let it all out.
You need to let it out of your system – the sadness, the angst, the hurt – just let it all out by crying and crying until your tears run dry. It helps a lot especially if you’re not the expressive type. Crying is never a sign of weakness. Rather, it’s a way of cleansing your heart and soul from the negativities that are trying to tear you apart.
4. Believe in the reality of the present.
Going through the stages of moving on from a broken heart can be slow but effective. However, there are other factors that can disrupt the process and leave you stuck and stagnant. One of these is denial of the reality that’s in front of you.
Learn to accept the things that you cannot change. Accept the facts, remember the details and use them to take control of your life once again.
5. Spend time with good friends.
This is the time when you’re finally ready to let a friend in. Spend time with the people who truly care about how you feel and would listen to you without judging your decisions. However, be careful in letting other people know your struggle. Some will try to take advantage of you at your weakest moment and it would be devastating.
6. Don’t let anger consume you.
Whatever it is that someone has done to you, no matter how much it has hurt you, never let anger make the decisions. Don’t let this strong and destructive emotion turn you into a hateful monster. More importantly, don’t let it ruin your hope of loving another people again.
7. Help yourself live again.
You’re finally ready to go out there and live again – make it count. Help yourself first and discover things, hobbies and interactions that can help you feel good about yourself. You deserve every single joy in the world and believe in this every day.
8. Forgive yourself.
The last and final step should be, to learn how to forgive yourself and love yourself. It’s the only way to finally heal a broken heart. Forgive the mistakes, the failures, the stupid decisions that contributed to what happened to you.
9. Don’t be afraid to love again.
Finally, open your heart once again and let someone in your life. Don’t be afraid to hope and believe that you still deserve a happy love life. There are still a lot of more interesting people in the world who will truly and genuinely love you for who you are.
10. Don’t let the past haunt you.
While you’re in the process of trying to resurrect your love life, don’t make the mistake of letting your past haunt the present. It’s good to have learned the lessons of what happened years or months ago but never dwell on bad parts. If you want to be truly happy, let them go for good.
11. Believe that you deserve to be happy.
You’re a victim of a heartbreak and perhaps you have made a few wrong choices in the past but it doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve that second chance of finding happiness and true love.
The first step that you can take after you have finally moved on is to believe in your right to be happy as a person and as a partner. Believe that you deserve what you have right now and don’t let your doubts ruin that.
12. Love with all your heart – but learn your lessons.
Lastly but most importantly, don’t hold back. Love with all your heart no matter how much it hurt you the first time. Don’t be unfair to yourself and to your partner by holding back and letting the fear of being broken again scare you.
You’ve done your best and you have earned your right to have a happy love life with this wonderful soul.
Imagine the pain of having your heart broken by that person you thought to be your soulmate, the longing of being with the one that got away, the helplessness of trying to live, believing that you’re just one cry away from death. Each can be too much to bear but always remember that life goes on and you have no choice but to move on.
These are the steps that you have to take and no matter how hard every stage is, never give up the fight. Continue living, healing and searching. You’ll get there in time.
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