How do you know you are struggling with pride? What are the symptoms of being prideful? To help you answer these questions and get rid of pride in your heart, evaluate yourself by checking out the following signs:
1. You think you are humble.
One of the signs that you are prideful is if you refuse to admit that you struggle with pride. Calling yourself “humble” is actually false humility.
To avoid this, stop telling yourself—or others—that you are humble. If that is true, then let others acknowledge that.
2. You do not accept constructive criticisms.
Proud people have a hard time accepting failures. For this reason, they refuse to be corrected. They are offended whenever their behaviors or outputs are scrutinized.
Instead of being insulted, be thankful when others correct you because it will help you improve. Remember, you are not perfect.
3. You always want to be the center of attention.
One sign of being proud is when you always want attention and appreciation. You feel like you are the center of the universe so everyone should turn their eyes and ears to you.
If this is your case, then it is time to stop living in the illusion that everyone adores you. Do not think that you are more important than anyone else. Try living a low-key life.
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4. You are vain about your physical appearance.
Being obsessed about making yourself attractive is another hint of pride creeping into you. In connection with no. 3, vanity makes you flaunt your beauty in the hope that you will be admired by everyone.
It is okay to take care of yourself, but evaluate your motive why you want to be attractive. It if is to draw attention to yourself, then maybe it is time re-orient yourself about what real beauty is.
5. You do not like associating with the “ordinary” or unpopular.
Whenever you go to an event, which kind of people do you usually want to sit with? Do you immediately look for the table where the “elite” sit around? If you think you only deserve professionals and “first-class” citizens for your friends and avoid hanging out with “low-level” people, then you are clearly prideful.
To get rid of this attitude, be equal in treating people. Make friends not according to social status, but the sincerity of individuals towards you. Associating with people who do not have any title attached to their names will not make you cheap.
6. You are fond of name-dropping.
If you have the habit of talking about your connections with influential, rich, or powerful personalities, then you are certainly proud. Bragging about being connected with such people makes you feel entitled yourself.
The people you talk with are probably annoyed listening about your “connections” already. If you admit you struggle with this, be more conscious in controlling yourself from talking much.
7. You are not teachable.
Not listening to someone who is trying to teach you something is another sign of pride. It is either you think you know things already or you think you know more than the person. It could also mean you consider him/her inferior to you.
Having a teachable heart is one trait of humility. Whether you seem more knowledgeable than the person trying to teach you or you actually know about the “lesson” already, make sure that you show respect by listening attentively and not trying to cut him/her off.
8. You do not listen to others’ advice.
Prideful people are also stubborn. They think they know everything already so they disregard the counsel of others. You are one of them if you just brush off the advice of your parents, some elders, or anyone else.
Renew your character by starting to listen to your parents or the mature people surrounding you. Even if you do not agree with what they say, give time to weigh your decision against their words of wisdom.
9. You do not like to be surpassed by anyone.
Considering others as threats to your position, fame, and success is a result of pride. Your achievements could have gotten into your head already that you think you should always be the no. 1. Thus, when you meet people who have the potential to beat your accomplishments, you consider them as rivals.
Competition is only healthy if you compete with your past self. Instead of focusing on being ahead of others, why not focus on improving yourself?
10. You think you are too important to do mundane things.
If you think your position is so high that you cannot pick up trash, help in cleaning up, or serve others, then that is definitely pride.
Do not let entitlement make you feel like you are more important than anyone else. Great people are not afraid to serve those who are less fortunate than them.
11. You are critical to those who do better than you.
One symptom of pride that you should watch out for is being critical towards others, especially those you are insecure with. Pointing out their flaws makes you feel better about yourself and better than them.
Bitterness is the result of pride stepped on. Whenever you feel resentment towards someone who did better than you, keep yourself from thinking or saying bad comments about the person. Instead, give appreciation and be happy for him/her.
Evaluate Your Heart
There are many other things that could give you a hint that pride is attacking you. The bottom line here is your motivation. If you do things out of selfish ambitions, then you are definitely prideful.
In order to prevent pride from overcoming you, it is necessary that you check your motives daily. It is important that you keep your feet on the ground, no matter how high you have reached already.
God knows your heart and if it is full of pride, He might teach you some lessons. Remember, the Bible says in Luke 14:11, “For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”