11 Reasons Why It is Wrong to Love Someone Too Much

Loving someone so much
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Too much — a description that, when used to quantify love, becomes debatable. Can love be measured? Can a person really love someone too much? In a romantic relationship, love can be too much when it is already damaging to the couple. When you engage in improper acts and wallow in blindness, then, you might be loving someone too much. Though it might sound selfless, loving someone too much actually does more harm than good. Here are some of the reasons why it is bad to love someone too much:

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11 Reasons Why It is Wrong to Love Someone Too Much

1. You might be too blind to see what’s right.
If you love someone too much, your reasoning might be clouded. It will be difficult to see what’s right or wrong. For example, you might come to a point in your relationship where you will find emotional and physical abuse okay just because you love your partner. You might even find it acceptable if your partner gets a third party as long as he or she keeps a relationship with you. Being blind because of excessive love can warp your reasoning.

2. If you love someone too much, you might be pouring too much of yourself, too.
If you do, you might be left empty. Remember that a relationship is composed of two complete individuals. If you become incomplete, you will eventually feel like there’s a hole in your life that you do not know how to fill. It will be difficult to love someone because of that.

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3. You might make that person you love your world.
It might sound sweet when someone declares that you are his or her world, but don’t fall into the trap. Making someone your world will make you lose your identity, and in the end, you will not know yourself anymore. Have you given up on the things you want like traveling because your partner is a home buddy? Have you given up on your social life because you want to spend all your time with your partner? Saying yes to the questions may sound sweet, but you should actually be alarmed if you do. It means you’re losing yourself in your relationship.

4. You might neglect your own self.
Have you stopped pampering yourself because you’re too busy caring for your partner? Have you stopped looking for self-growth because your only focus is your partner? You might lose the opportunities along the way if you get too busy focusing on the one you love. Neglecting yourself because of too much love for your partner might backfire and make you feel you have not made much of your life. It might also make you feel too tired. Who knows? You might wake up one day feeling that you can’t give any more love.

5. You might lose time with your friends.
Ditcher. That’s your friend who ditched you when he or she got into a relationship. That might also be you if you just have abandoned your friends because of too much love for your partner. Friends aren’t just a part of a specific phase in your life, so you shouldn’t really be ditching them just so you can spend all the time you have with your partner. Remember that your friends have been with you through thick and thin before you got to know your partner. Is it really right to just abandon them?

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6. You might have no time to spare for your family.
Have you been missing out on important family gatherings? Has it been ages since you last ate dinner with your family? Loving someone too much might take even the time you spend with your family.

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7. You might lose track of reality.
Because you love someone too much, you might have let some important standards and deal breakers go. For example, you two have different religious beliefs. You might also be in a constant fight with each other because of irreconcilable differences. However, because of too much love, you don’t mind them as long as you can keep the relationship. You might have chosen not to see that the relationship isn’t going anywhere because of too much love.

8. You might develop an unhealthy dependency.
Can you still drive yourself home the way you do before? Can you still buy the groceries on your own? Those are simple things that you can do on your own before but might not do now because you have depended too much on your partner. We do not want to think of the worst, but if you lose your partner, can you still live independently or will you be left paralyzed?

9. Your partner might find you smothering.
Loving someone too much may lead you to be excessively clingy. You might not want your partner to be with anyone else but you. You might get jealous of his friends, officemates, or even his parents if he spends time with them. You might have the tendency to force your partner to cut all his ties with other people just so you can be sure he or she is yours and yours alone. The possible result? Your partner being smothered and wanting to run away from you.

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10. Your too much love can make your partner complacent.
Or worse, your partner might take you for granted. He or she might be aware that you give too much love and might take advantage of it. He or she knows you’ll forgive him or her if he or she does something wrong, so he or she might not think twice of his or her actions. He might not exert effort in making your relationship work and leave everything on your shoulders.

11. You might feel discontented with your partner.
Because you give too much love, you might expect that your partner will do the same. If you’ve given up your social life for him or her, you might expect him or her to do the same. If you’ve let opportunities pass for him or her, you might expect the same. As a result, you will feel uncontented.

So you see, anything in excess is detrimental. Love isn’t an exception. Loving someone too much is dangerous for you, your partner, and your relationship. Keep things regulated, so you can keep things right.

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Marielle Sunico
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37 thoughts on “11 Reasons Why It is Wrong to Love Someone Too Much”

  1. Loved a girl for more than 7 years..was 15 when started. Whatever I achieved, all my pursuits, I looked upon her for them. Maybe we have created a world where even love, which I think has no limits, is to be regulated. You can’t throw your heart away to someone just based on their words or what you feel or want to be true. Relationships have become a way of testing people. If you consider it too seriously then you might end up hurting yourself. Pathetic isn’t it?

  2. I’ve been inlove with my girlfriend for good 3years,we’re living in peace and harmony,actually am so attached to her I can’t take a day with communicating with her,and also am a very jealous partner, when ever I saw her with a guy I get jealous, and she tends to calm me with their lady’s strategy,, we’ve had a lot of fights and reconcile time without number…it was during our last fight she told me that she’s tired of all the crises can’t we stay happy for a month without fight…after then she start behaving strange no texts,no calls,if we’re chatting she don’t reply on time. Anytime I asked her what’s wrong She’ll tell me she’s not feeling okay,she always come up with silly excuses….i pushed hard to know what’s wrong,that was when I realize that love has decreased, am so inlove with her.I don’t know what to do.

  3. this is what is happening to me right now. the guy is using my love to play with me.And I love him don’t know what to do again?

  4. All facts….been loving a girl for two years now..we love each other so dearly but I think I’m giving her too much love cause I think about her alot that I loose my focus,it’s really affecting me…I really wish to stop that…..reply anyone

    • You know.. I’ve been in this situation also but all you need to do is take more time with your friends..go out with them and do something interesting.. don’t take your phone on that vacation and tell you what after some weeks you’ll surely forget about her

  5. It’s true You are losing your self because you loved someone too much. Leave something for yourself coz it will be difficult for you to control your feelings for him if you already gave all of you to him. It feels so hard if you want to lessen your love for the sake of yourself. Its had to regret losing your self to someone whom you loved too much. 💔💔

  6. I just don’t know
    I love this guy so much
    But I think he z playing with my love I have for him
    He doesn’t call he doesn’t text me
    If we are chatting
    He chat me as if I’m just a friend to him it hurts me to much
    I want to stop loving him so much

  7. This is the realest sh*t I’ve ever read up on Google… My partners just taking me for granted lately… But i don’t complain so i won’t lose her… Please send me tips on how to take your mind off your partner a little

  8. I love this girl too much, at first she left me for no reasons for one year 6 months she blocked me and I didn’t date anyone because I was still in love with her after that period she came back again we started chatting and things seems great I was so happy but after a month all of the sudden she said that I don’t love you, I don’t feel the same way, I was just using you for money, you are an hindrance in my life to find a good man again she left me and blocked my number I was crying this is the third time now.. I am feeling like I cannot date or be in a relationship again. I am a very faithful loyal Man but I always get disappointed because of loving too much 😭😭

    • What that’s crap man sorry you have gone through this just find someone else but this time dont date for love bro you can even multi date it seems like the only way to stop giving too much in any relationship

  9. Hi everyone, well i am a person who doesn’t just get into people that much but the people that I get with…I want them to be with me forever. I don’t have so many friends in fact… I only have one Best Friend and 4 other friends. It’s just that. I don’t feel good with my family instead I feel more easy and helpful with others then there were times when everyone left me even my best friend. I was so broken and drowned. I didn’t give up on my friend and I got him back. I was kind of the person who didn’t want to love that’s why I never had a relationship. I beleive that if you live someone you keep loving no matter what. That beleive came firm when I got my friend back. Now there is a person in my life whom I love too too much. I have never loved anyone so much. I have done things for this person that I never did for no-one. Not even for myself even though these things were good for me.
    I changed for this person so much but now that person wants to leave me and my heart says please don’t give up we’ll get him. My heart pleads so much that I can’t leave that person even though I want to bit I don’t even want to leave that person. I wanna keep taking care of them and keep loving them cause I have given myself for them and I just want to see them happy…

    I’ve lost happiness myself and the above in articles has all happened still I just love them the same way I loved them the first day… I do not wanna get rid of the pain if the cure is to let go of that specific person. I’ve tortured myself so much mentally and emotionally….but I just don’t wanna leave that person.

    • i now what you are talking about buddy, i like this one girl so much that its gotten to a point where she’s the first thing i think about in the morning and last thing at night-i want to let go because i know she doesn’t and most likely will never feel the same towards me, but its very very hard; The struggle is real my friend
      stay woke brother:)peace out!

  10. Here is my situation, I have not been in a relationship for a long time. Due to my social life, I developed interest in someone. That someone showed me visual signs of interest in me. To clear the air, I asked, straight up, are you interesting in me? “No” was the answer. On a different occasion , that person auctioned me of to another person. I never knew what is rejection and what it felt like. I had no idea what to do but cry. that person was still showing me interest. I had no idea what to do than to mot take the person serious, let go, and live life. it’s the second time I was to “you love to much, not to love so much” How do I know not to love so much before getting into a relationship?

  11. I have 3 years relationship with my bf. I love him too much but we don’t talk about our future together. I don’t want to leave him

  12. I really love this girl too much… I’m even getting worried that she may break my heart very soon… This love is beyond control… I think I’ll die if she betrays me.. Worst of all she takes long to reply when ever I text her.. Though she is always online… Help me lord.

    • Please honestly learn to remove your mind from her. Start to believe it’s her turn to do same and if she doesn’t reciprocate you bail

  13. I really don’t knw if my main Loves me or nah but I believe that I loved him too much, I gave too much like I so can relate all of the signs but the thing is I am not sure if he’s worth it or nah? I have ths Trust issues like he keeps on saying on my face that he is not cheating, he loves me but I cannot see it like I don’t know what to do, what to feel, what to act 🙁

  14. Thanks so much for the advice but I have a problem with loving too much ,I love this guy nd he used to love me a lot nowadays he doesn’t love me at all but I still love him,he does everythn to ignore me but I still love him !what should i do?

  15. It’s happening with me now. I know I started to fall in love with him. I don’t want to fall in love again. I realize I m going to lost my self and will lost him as well. I read what he want me to do more. That I don’t want to do. I keep telling my self leave him sooner before I wipe my tears out again and again 😢

  16. Having the problem of loving this woman too much en am married ,she not married and she having other boyfriend can’t cope and sometimes am having a headache don’t want to loose her

  17. I love someone too much, but these did not happen, instead she broke up with me because of that. I still love her, but she is not sure about the same.
    Still I appreciate the advices. These are smart things, and many people are not even aware of them.

    • She might broke up with you , may Because she was never in love with you in the first place,… And you loving her too much, .. giving your all to her, might just put her in a difficult place.

      Your been too nice put pressure on her .

  18. its very hard to follow that because it seems like the tips were written for me ,,i now believ that am in much lov than him,,thanks alot 4 this for it wil help me to know myself better

    • Most of time… I talk about the passion trap….. We guys most times love the girl that doesn’t pay much attention to us .. … And the more she plays hard to get,..the more we want to prove ourselves to win her heart…in same process, .. we gradually loose ourselves, .. as trauma bounding and all forms of abuse set in ….if we don’t know the way to call ourselves back ..we might be lost before we knew it…… And the end,.. should be lucky to win heart, .. we realize it doesn’t worth it all … It is like the advert was better than the product been purchased. … We would certainly ask ourselves questions like ; where on Earth did it all went wrong? . … Cuz at this stage, we might be struggling to be committed.

      So, my golden rule,.. Don’t prove yourself,..don’t love too much, . If noticed it happening to you,.. call yourself to order……………..to be continued


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