What is true love? Can a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship experience a genuine and lasting love? Is real love a strong feeling that we can’t easily describe? Is it something that magically gives us a deep connection with the person we’ve fallen in love?
How would you really find out if it is true or fake love?
Below are 15 signs that may enlighten us with the questions above.
1. There is pure happiness.
You feel that pure happiness just by watching your special someone smile and laugh. You overcome that challenge which has been posed to you, no matter how bad your day went. You also feel satisfied and hassle-free because of the happiness you feel with your partner.
2. Trust is mutual.
You know that there is trust if both of you are open to each other, willing to talk about things, and share intimate details without any hesitation.
3. Hatred doesn’t last.
You can’t stay being mad at him, especially if you see him getting hurt due to your anger. No matter how disgusted you are, all it takes to change your mood is his single smile.
4. You share the burden.
As a partner, it is both your responsibility to share and help each other in whatever troubles you’re going through. It unclogs your heart from any negative emotions and helps you communicate better as a couple.
5. Sacrifices are made.
You are ready to let go of your important things for the sake of another person. You are willing to give up your personal goals to give way to your relationship’s goals.
6. There is respect.
You are able to value each other’s opinion and feelings despite of your differences. You also honor each other’s boundaries and give each other space.
7. You have time for each other.
If both of you truly care and value the relationship you have, then you are willing to free yourself and find time throughout the day and night just to talk to each other.
8. You stand by each other’s side.
True love means standing by you even through the worst of times and being there to cheer you up when everything seems uneasy. Rather than standing behind you, they stand next to you as your equal.
9. It is not difficult to forgive.
You release hatred and bitterness in your heart, you embrace mercy and grace, and you choose to pardon someone who made a mistake to you by letting go of your right to punish them. Forgiveness is something that proves your love towards your significant other.
10. Actions speak louder than words.
You show your love through thoughtful actions, you fulfill your promises with your partner, you speak love, and acknowledge each other’s effort.
11. You accept each other’s flaws.
You know that flaws are going to be there. So you accept that your partner is not always perfect, you learn to accept differences, and love them for who they are.
12. You care each other.
You treat one another with utmost care, you pay attention to each other, you take sincere interest in the things your partner really cares about, you never miss to give any gift, and you include him/her in your future plans.
13. Distance is not a hindrance.
Love knows no distance. It won’t stop you from loving the person but instead, if you truly love each other, distance will strengthen your relationship further.
14. It is no more a single “You” but “We”.
You know that you are no longer the only one in this journey, but you have someone to include with in every decision you make.
15. You celebrate each other’s achievement.
You are happy to celebrate your partner’s victory. You feel good when you see him/her smile with joy without feeling jealous, because you know that it should be a teamwork and not a competition.
16. You support each other.
You cheer each other up during rough times, you offer help when they need it, encourage one another, tell each other what you need, and make things lighter instead of a burden.
17. You are both inseparable.
When you are together time literally seems to fly and you can’t wait until the next time you meet. You are happy with each other’s company and it feels like you don’t want to be away from each other’s arms ever again.
18. You grow together.
You know you grow together as a person when you finally realize that arguing over petty things is not productive. You make time to talk about your relationship in a more mature manner. You recognize your own mistakes and sincerely apologize for them while striving your best not to do the same mistakes again. You plan for the future and set SMART goals for your relationship. And finally, you work hard and become persistent to achieve those goals and attain true happiness in your relationship.
19. You don’t break promises.
You give out promises carefully and then do everything you can just to keep them. And if you have to break a commitment, you tell the person why.
20. There is Give and Take in your relationship.
Love is not a one-way job. There has to be giving and receiving in every relationship. Either you give or take, but you shouldn’t be expecting in return.
Now that you finally know what those signs are, I hope they will help you find the answer to your questions, clarify your confusions about true love, and inspire you to grow your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend to make sure that the love you and your partner enjoy is a real one.
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