Silent Red Flags in A Relationship: 14 Important Signs you Shouldn’t Ignore

Silent Red Flags in A Relationship: 14 Important Signs you Shouldn't Ignore
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Do you think your relationship is heading the wrong way? Are you sensing that something is not right between you and your partner? To know if you have to leave already, you must discover the silent red flags in a relationship.

Some signs can help you assess the condition of your relationship. If you see some red flags, addressing them immediately to save what you have together is essential. However, if the relationship is toxic and unhealthy anymore, you must think about leaving right away before things get worse.

So, what are the silent red flags in a relationship? Here are some of the important signs that you should not ignore.

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Trust Issues

1. Flirting With Others is Acceptable.

Did your partner tell you that it is okay to flirt with others as long as you know your boundaries? Is flirting considered harmless in your relationship? Whether you agree or not, please know that this is not a healthy mindset right from the start.

Flirting is a sign of disrespect to your partner, and it is a form of cheating already. People in a relationship must be loyal to each other. While getting attracted to others is sometimes inevitable, at least you should not feed your emotion by lingering around the other person and showing apparent interest in them.

2. Privacy is Important Than Transparency.

Does your partner get angry whenever you try to ask for their social media or phone passwords? Is privacy a very sensitive topic between you? If your partner always insists on their privacy to keep you from checking on their whereabouts, activities, and affairs, consider it a red flag.

Transparency is necessary for a relationship. Yes, you should still have your personal space, and partners need to respect that. However, giving each other access to your private worlds is an indication that you are not keeping any secret that may threaten the relationship.

3. Lies are Frequent and Considered Normal.

How many times have you caught your partner lying to you? If they have done it many times and never seemed repentant about them.

How could you trust them to stay faithful if they can easily lie to you about anything? Moreover, it would be easy for them to cheat on you since they are good at fabricating alibis and hiding proofs.

4. There is a Hint of Infidelity.

If you can sense that your partner is cheating on you, it must not be taken for granted. How much more if they have done it several times already?

You cannot have a harmonious relationship with someone who cannot stay faithful to you. If you keep turning a blind eye on your partner’s cheating sprees, they will go on. So, if you think you cannot stop these, you better leave the relationship at once.

Silent Red Flags in A Relationship: 14 Important Signs you Shouldn't Ignore
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Communication Gaps

5. You Argue About Almost Everything.

It is typical for partners to have opposing views sometimes since they come from different backgrounds. Moreover, it is normal for partners to argue from time to time due to conflicting ideas. Nevertheless, constant arguing is not healthy anymore.

If you and your partner cannot compromise to meet halfway, or if you cannot respect each other’s differences, you cannot expect your relationship to last. On the contrary, it will only become more toxic as time goes on.

6. Difficult Discussions are Often Avoided.

How do you deal with conflicts in the relationship? Does your partner despise confrontations? Or do you both avoid talking about relationship concerns? If this is how you keep your relationship peaceful, then it is not peaceful at all. You are only in denial of the issues you face.

Without resolving problems properly, a relationship cannot be healthy. If you cannot talk about problems head-on, it will be difficult to sustain the relationship.

7. You Are Not Comfortable Opening Up to Each Other.

Do you have to keep secrets from your partner because you cannot trust them? Or do you rather talk about your problems with your best friend because your partner will never listen?

Not being able to talk about your heartaches or dreams with your partner is a red flag itself. Staying in a relationship where you cannot get support is pointless. So, if you and your partner are not comfortable opening up about your feelings to each other, better let go.

Less Passion

8. Dates Rarely Happen These Days.

When was the last time you had a date? Last month? Two months ago? Are you rarely seeing each other these days?

Spending quality time together is an important factor in keeping love alive. That is why couples are advised to date regularly, despite their busy schedules. Through constant bonding, a couple can get to know each other better.

9. You Only Call or Message Each Other for Important Matters.

Do you and your partner still greet each other “good morning” or “good night” through text or chat? Are you still enjoying late-night calls? Or do you only contact each other for important things these days?

If you gave up the endearing habits a long time ago, your relationship needs revival. You cannot treat each other like mere colleagues if you wish to stay in love.

10. You Do not Exchange Sweet Messages Anymore.

Do you still express how much you love each other? Or are you still sending each other compliments or caring messages? If not anymore, it is a red flag.

In connection to no. 9, sweet messages can help a couple stay romantic. So, if you cannot remember when the last time you exchanged an “I love you” was, you better start doing it again.

No Security

11. There is No Talk About Marriage or Your Future Together.

How long have you been together? Have you ever talked about your future plans? Like when will you get married or how many children do you want? If these talks have never crossed your mind, you probably never think of spending the rest of your lives together.

If you want security in your relationship, you both need to have practical plans for the future. If you both value your relationship, you will set a direction for it so it will not end up nothing.

Silent Red Flags in A Relationship: 14 Important Signs you Shouldn't Ignore
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12. You Cannot See Your Future with that Person.

Whenever you daydream about the future, can you imagine yourself being with your partner? If not, it is a sign that you wish your relationship would be over.

A healthy relationship would make you want to stay with your partner until the end. Wanting to end up with someone else is a red flag you should not ignore.

13. You Have an Overly Possessive Partner.

Does your partner get angry whenever you hang out with your friends? Are you not allowed to talk to anyone from the opposite sex? Or do you get in trouble for bumping into your ex and saying “hi” to them?

Having a controlling and possessive partner is toxic for anyone. Imagine what would happen if you got married. Forget about having a social life.

14. Threats are Happening.

Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you in any form? Are you afraid of leaving the relationship because of what can happen to you? If this is your case, then your relationship is unhealthy. Therefore, you must get out as soon as possible.

Even if your partner has not hurt you physically yet, threats should be treated as equally dangerous. Do not wait for the time when they will do what they say. If abuse is already happening, may it be physically, verbally, or others, seek help.

Leave As Soon As Possible

If you realize that some or most of these red flags are present in your relationship, you better decide what is best for you. Staying in the relationship longer will only cause you more trouble in the long run. Therefore, if you want freedom from your toxic love story, you better step out now.

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Cyril Abello
Joan is a freelance blogger who loves writing about personal development. She also loves learning and teaching languages. A Communication Arts graduate, she now pursues a masters degree in Language Teaching. She is into mobile photography, writing poems, and reading for leisure.
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