Happiness requires more than what we think. It is how we feel about ourselves that can either makes us feel better or worse. While a happy life in a relationship is difficult to define, some people view it as a peaceful conflict-free life. But actually, struggles and difficult times are part of it. It is how we constantly overcome those times that we develop happiness in a relationship.
If you want to know how to live a happy life with your partner, here are 25 tips to guide you.
1. Love your partner as you love yourself.
You can only be happy in a relationship if both the people (you and your partner) in that relationship will be happy. Therefore, love your significant other as you love yourself, and make him/her happy as you are happy yourself. Remember that a relationship is a partnership. Hence, love and happiness must be shared and enjoyed by both of you, not only by one of you.
2. Have realistic expectations.
“Unrealistic expectations are potentially damaging because they set us and others up for failure,” said Selena C. Snow. Thus, don’t let your unrealistic expectations hold you back. Remember that your outlook in life shapes your reality.
3. Communicate openly.
With a healthy communication and an open heart, you can deal with conflicts and cut out potential problems in your relationship. You can also create a more honest and happy life for yourself and for the people around you.
Share a good laugh with your special someone. It will strengthen your immune system, boost your mood, and protects you from the damaging effects of stress.
5. Go on a vacation with your partner.
Take your own short vacation and enjoy adventures together to help your relationship become more enjoyable and enthusiastic.
6. Eat together.
When was the last time both of you sat down and enjoy a meal together? Eating together might be a small act but it helps you connect with each other, offers a great opportunity for meaningful discussions, and boosts happiness in your relationship.
7. Spend time together.
Have a movie date together, go on a trip, or play your favorite video game. This will help you build closeness, open communication, boost happiness, and strengthen your relationship.
8. Be honest.
What honesty gives you is a great deal of security and comfort. It also helps both of you trust each other and get rid of negativities, jealousies and insecurities.
9. Respect each other.
Respect brings happiness because it makes people feel accepted and valued no matter how different they are from other people. So, learn to appreciate your partner’s opinions, decisions and views in life no matter how different they are from yours.
10. Be optimistic.
One of the key ingredients to happiness is being optimistic. It can transform a negative situation into a positive one and give hope in times of trouble.
11.Learn to forgive.
Forgiveness is a learned process and once you practice it, it will give you peace of mind and joy of heart. Keep in mind that carrying around old baggage from someone who has wronged you won’t help you maintain that balance in your life.
12. Don’t respond out of anger.
Sometimes, you lose your cool and get mad over something. And when you respond to someone who is already angry in a badly chosen manner, you are likely to shoot up the situation. Better be quite and let things cool down before you respond.
13. Show affection.
Give each other the affection you both deserve, either through hugs, kisses, or small surprises. In this way, you’ll attain happiness and contentment in life because you know you are loved.
14. Show kind gestures.
“If you haven’t any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble.”—Bob Hope
Push kindness as a major part of your daily routine to inspire others and so they will try to inspire other people too.
15. Work on it.
In a relationship, you need to put things at work in order to keep things running smoothly. This means you need to exert extra efforts by showing affection, kindness, or any other acts that will put your love into actions.
A good communication doesn’t only mean talking, but also listening and being fully aware of what is going on without any distractions.
17. Be mindful.
It is important to recognize that in order to be happy, you need to be aware of people’s different beliefs, know what your partner really needs, and how you understand the world that surrounds you.
18. Support each other’s passion.
It’s great to be in a relationship with someone who’ll support your passions in life. When couple support each other’s passions, it helps foster a sense of being loved and adds happiness to their daily life as a couple.
19. Set goals.
Happiness can also come from moving toward what you want as a couple. Create and reach your goals and keep your relationship strong.
20. Celebrate each other’s achievement.
“Who is the happiest of man? He who values the merits of others and in their pleasure takes joy, even though it was his own.” — Goethe
What truly makes a relationship cheerful is when the other person who hears about your success is sincerely happy for you.
21. Fix the problem.
Never let a problem pass by without fixing it, instead, set a time to talk about it before things get worst.
22. Respect each other’s space.
You don’t have to cage yourself from each other’s arms. You also need to have a little space to be alone with yourself, friends, or work. Take time to respect each other’s space to have a healthy and happy life.
23. Spoil each other.
A kind of relationship where you both love, protect, and spoil each other is the best.
24. Exercise together.
Regular fitness is good for the heart and body. It also helps you become happy, especially when you’re exercising with your partner. It will not only help you feel more energized, confident and stress free, but will also make you a healthier and happier person for life.
25. Be willing to sacrifice.
There are things you need to sacrifice in order to be happy. True self-sacrifice involves willingness to let go of your personal pleasures to make your relationship happier, healthier and long-lasting.
We can find happiness in all kinds of places, yet there is perhaps nothing as special as being truly in a relationship with your special someone. Doing these tips to live a happy life in a relationship might not be easy, but with a lot of work, dedication, and maintaining your efforts will likely reap what you sow. I hope as you finish reading this article, you’ll find happiness in your relationship.
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