21 Ways to be a Better Wife

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How to be a better wife? How to make your husband, children, yourself, and your whole family happy? If you want to be the best wife for your husband, here are some ways you may consider.

1. Be extraordinary.
Be a rare gem for your husband. You don’t need to have exceptional physical beauty. Just have personal qualities that are hard to find in women or even in all humanity, such as honesty, compassion, humility, loyalty, and consistency. When you have these important traits, you will not only be a better wife but also be the best wife for your husband.

2. Be easier to trust.
Your husband may love you truly and deeply, and he will trust you every day. However, if he always catches you lying and breaking your promises, he will definitely struggle to trust you. Be a better wife by always practicing honesty. Prove to your husband that you can be trusted. Love your husband in return by making it easy for him to trust you.

3. Trust your husband.
Trust your husband and give him some air to breathe. Don’t just let him feel that he is loved but also let him feel that he is trusted.

4. Quit nagging.
According to Proverbs 25:24, it is “better to live on a corner of the roof than sharing a house with a quarrelsome wife.” Hence, if you wish to be a better wife, stop nagging and being a grouchy wife. Instead, be a peacemaker and give your husband and children peace of mind.

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5. Make efforts to make your husband happy.
If you want to be a good wife, always think about making your husband happy. But if you want to be a better wife, do something to make your hubby really glad. Yes, thoughts do count, but actions count much better.

Do your best to satisfy your husband. Cook his favorite food. Surprise him with a gift. Give him a relaxing massage. And when it comes to your bedroom, try to fulfill your husband’s fantasies.

6. Make efforts to make yourself happy.
You may see your husband happy, but if he notices that you’re gloomy, his gladness will be shattered, especially if he loves you. Therefore, also do something to satisfy yourself, not just your husband. But what can you do?

Open your mind and start exploring things that you have not tried yet. For example, if your husband enjoys watching Marvel and DC movies but they’re not your thing, try them. Learn more about the characters. If you are more familiar with the characters and their stories, you will find it more enjoyable to watch them.

Furthermore, don’t let your husband be happy in the bedroom alone. Both of you must enjoy this matrimonial gift. Learn new things. Make efforts to learn sexual positions that will make you more satisfied. If your husband will see that you’re satisfied and you truly enjoy it, it will make him happier and boost his morale.

7. Have self-control.
Self-control gives birth to several good virtues. It helps you break bad habits. It helps you achieve goals in your career, business, and life itself. It prevents you from being rude. It keeps you away from sickness. It protects you from sins. It makes you gentler. It helps you avoid hurting your husband, children, and yourself.

ALSO READ: 10 Ways to Develop Self-control and Discipline

8. Be a generous and gracious wife.
Stop keeping score in your relationship. Quit complaining just because you contribute more than what your husband contributes. Yes, you have the right to protest, but isn’t love about giving without expecting that your partner will also give something in return?

To be a better wife, you have to be generous, which means giving with a cheerful heart. And did you know the difference between blessing and grace? A blessing is something you receive because you work for it and you deserve it. On the other hand, grace is something you receive even if you don’t deserve it.

Be a gracious wife by loving your husband even if sometimes he doesn’t deserve it.

9. Be a better daughter-in-law.
Pay respect and honor to your husband’s parents. Visit and talk with them. Get along with them. Have fun with them. Remember that as the wife of their son, you are already considered as their daughter and a significant part of their family.

10. Be a better sibling-in-law.
Of course, you should not also forget caring for the siblings of your husband. They are your brothers and sisters too now. Be kind and friendly to them. Have conversations with them. Don’t be shy to ask for their help or hesitate to help them if they need you. Take note that you are already having a bigger family.

11. Manage your finances wisely.
Since you will probably be the one who will handle the money, learn how to create a budget, understand your household expenses, find ways to earn more income and make an emergency fund. Don’t just spend your money on unnecessary things. Be financially wise to save your family during the rainy days.

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12. Love yourself.
Be beautiful and healthy inside and out. Pamper yourself at the spa or salon. Buy comfortable clothes. Maintain a healthy diet. Do your best to quit smoking and drunkenness. Join yoga or aerobics classes – or do any physical exercises that will keep your body strong. If you love your husband and children, you should realize that you must always be in great shape for them.

13. Be a supportive wife.
Know your husband’s ultimate goals and support him to reach those goals, especially if they will give your family a brighter future.

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14. Don’t embarrass your husband.
Protect your husband’s honor and dignity. Be a woman whom she can be proud of, not ashamed of. Practice modesty and decency. Avoid scandalous acts. Remember that as husband and wife, you are now sharing the same reputation.

15. Respect him.
Respect his principles and beliefs. Respect your husband as a man. Respect your marriage vows.

16. Have wisdom.
Learn how to make better decisions for your family. Understand how to discern right from wrong. Improve your wisdom and know-how to commit fewer mistakes. If you become wiser, your husband would have fewer problems.

17. Know your husband better.
Just because you have already married him doesn’t mean you already know everything about him. Understand that there are still a lot of things to know about your husband. Be enthusiastic in knowing him further and deeper.

Know what makes him truly happy or sad. Know his ultimate dreams in life. The more you know him, the more you can love him. Remember that knowing is loving. Hence, don’t let your husband be a stranger in your life.

18. Be diligent.
A lazy wife will bring many problems to his husband and children. If you think you are not hardworking enough, do something to get rid of your indolence. Don’t waste your time on unproductive activities, like lurking on social media or playing games on your mobile phones.

Start sleeping early so you can have enough sleep every night and become more energetic to work every day. Establishing your goals as a wife and a mother would also help you motivate to work harder in life.

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19. Be loyal.
Keep your loyalty at all times.

20. Put actions in your faith.
Be faithful to your husband, not only in words, thoughts, and feelings but also in actions. In other words, if you’re hoping and believing to have a happy, healthy, and long-lasting marriage, then always work on something to make it happen.

Put substance in your hope and faith. Keep your promises, don’t lie, don’t cheat, take care of your husband and children, protect your family, don’t be lazy, and do everything you could do to have a successful marriage. In other words, have faith with deeds.

21. Let love bind all your good virtues in perfect unity.
The 20 ways I listed above are somehow difficult to follow. Practicing honesty, loyalty, self-discipline, diligence, faithfulness, et cetera are not easy to do. However, if you truly love your husband, your genuine love will naturally help you practice them.

If you believe in God, and if you will put God at the center of your marriage, you will find it easier for your heart and soul to work harder to be a better wife for your husband. Remember that God is love, and pure love unites all your good virtues in perfect harmony.

Finally, true love doesn’t only transform you into a better wife, but it also helps you reborn as a whole new and a better person.

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Victorino Q. Abrugar
Vic is the founder of InspiringTips.com. He regularly writes for the site and also serves as its digital marketing strategist. Vic likes to talk about true love, meaningful life, quantum physics, spiritual growth, and more.
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Natasha Snyder
Natasha Snyder
March 26, 2021 8:48 pm

Please help me im about to lose my husband

Lou-Ellen Hobbs
Lou-Ellen Hobbs
April 26, 2020 5:20 am

My husband likes Shelly more than me and all of the other wives. He goes to her trailer most often. It’s upsetting. During our last date night he wanted to eat the rice from Baker’s Buckets. I told him I wanted the Bob Evan’s I had been saving in our freezer. He said I was a fat cow. So I lit a cigarette and practiced drunkeness. He told me I would never see Heaven. I told him to go to Hell.

How can I be a wife in the spirit of the Lord under such a tyrant?

Reply to  Lou-Ellen Hobbs
August 1, 2020 8:55 am

I would suggest to go seek a women’s shelter if you have children and get help from there. You’ve been experiencing marital abuse for way too long and it’s hard to see it while you’re in the middle, but your sons will become the man your with and your daughters will learn to hate men all together. Or find a church near by if he’s so connected to the community then find an opposite culture (race) church and mention your situation. Sometimes abusers are the most popular ones in town and loved by everyone so it makes it hard.

March 31, 2020 4:02 am

Good advice

Moreri Alfred Maseko
Moreri Alfred Maseko
March 21, 2020 5:46 pm


I am a married man with a only one kid. My wife does not give too much respect ans sometimes hard to meet as couples.
So what can i do to regain that love we had during our first love. sometimes i think of moving out but then told myself its like i am failing as a husband to take my responsibilities

Reply to  Moreri Alfred Maseko
August 1, 2020 9:04 am

I’m a new mom and now I can see the perspective that possibly my spouse is feeling. We as women are trying our best since becoming a mom. We love y’all (our spouses) we’re just trying to learn to manage a new lifestyle of having a child in the mix. We also feel very alone and not beautiful not having the time to either constantly taking nice clothes to nurse or never having time to put ourselves together the way we used to, getting food stuck in our hair or clothes and then we have to shower even if we styled our hair that day. All I’m saying is that we love our husband we just need a ton of support and love even when we’re acing like a jerk.

January 30, 2020 4:06 am

This is soo sexist lol

Reply to  Taj
March 26, 2020 3:30 pm

I just read this to my husband about the part saying if I got smarter it would make his life easier 😂😂😂😂

Reply to  Taj
August 4, 2020 12:25 pm