Too much — a description that, when used to quantify love, becomes debatable. Can love be measured? Can a person really love someone too much? In a romantic relationship, love can be too much when it is already damaging to the couple. When you engage in improper acts and wallow in blindness, then, you might be loving someone too much. Though it might sound selfless, loving someone too much actually does more harm than good. Here are some of the reasons why it is bad to love someone too much:
1. You might be too blind to see what’s right.
If you love someone too much, your reasoning might be clouded. It will be difficult to see what’s right or wrong. For example, you might come to a point in your relationship where you will find emotional and physical abuse okay just because you love your partner. You might even find it acceptable if your partner gets a third party as long as he or she keeps a relationship with you. Being blind because of excessive love can warp your reasoning.
2. If you love someone too much, you might be pouring too much of yourself, too.
If you do, you might be left empty. Remember that a relationship is composed of two complete individuals. If you become incomplete, you will eventually feel like there’s a hole in your life that you do not know how to fill. It will be difficult to love someone because of that.
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3. You might make that person you love your world.
It might sound sweet when someone declares that you are his or her world, but don’t fall into the trap. Making someone your world will make you lose your identity, and in the end, you will not know yourself anymore. Have you given up on the things you want like traveling because your partner is a home buddy? Have you given up on your social life because you want to spend all your time with your partner? Saying yes to the questions may sound sweet, but you should actually be alarmed if you do. It means you’re losing yourself in your relationship.
4. You might neglect your own self.
Have you stopped pampering yourself because you’re too busy caring for your partner? Have you stopped looking for self-growth because your only focus is your partner? You might lose the opportunities along the way if you get too busy focusing on the one you love. Neglecting yourself because of too much love for your partner might backfire and make you feel you have not made much of your life. It might also make you feel too tired. Who knows? You might wake up one day feeling that you can’t give any more love.
5. You might lose time for your friends.
Ditcher. That’s your friend who ditched you when he or she got into a relationship. That might also be you if you just have abandoned your friends because of too much love for your partner. Friends aren’t just a part of a specific phase in your life, so you shouldn’t really be ditching them just so you can spend all the time you have with your partner. Remember that your friends have been with you through thick and thin before you got to know your partner. Is it really right to just abandon them?
6. You might have no time to spare for your family.
Have you been missing out on important family gatherings? Has it been ages since you last ate dinner with your family? Loving someone too much might take even the time you spend with your family.
7. You might lose track of the reality.
Because you love someone too much, you might have let some important standards and deal breakers go. For example, you two have different religious beliefs. You might also be in a constant fight with each other because of irreconcilable differences. However, because of too much love, you don’t mind them as long as you can keep the relationship. You might have chosen not to see that the relationship isn’t going anywhere because of too much love.
8. You might develop an unhealthy dependency.
Can you still drive yourself home the way you do before? Can you still buy the groceries on your own? Those are simple things that you can do on your own before but might not do now because you have depended too much on your partner. We do not want to think of the worst, but if you lose your partner, can you still live independently or will you be left paralyzed?
9. Your partner might find you smothering.
Loving someone too much may lead you to be excessively clingy. You might not want your partner to be with anyone else but you. You might get jealous of his friends, officemates, or even his parents if he spends time with them. You might have the tendency to force your partner to cut all his ties with other people just so you can be sure he or she is yours and yours alone. The possible result? Your partner being smothered and wanting to run away from you.
10. Your too much love can make your partner complacent.
Or worse, your partner might take you for granted. He or she might be aware that you give too much love and might take advantage of it. He or she knows you’ll forgive him or her if he or she does something wrong, so he or she might not think twice of his or her actions. He might not exert effort in making your relationship work and leave everything on your shoulders.
11. You might feel discontented with your partner.
Because you give too much love, you might expect that your partner will do the same. If you’ve given up your social life for him or her, you might expect him or her to do the same. If you’ve let opportunities pass for him or her, you might expect the same. As a result, you will feel uncontented.
So you see, anything in excess is detrimental. Love isn’t an exception. Loving someone too much is dangerous for you, your partner, and your relationship. Keep things regulated, so you can keep things right.