12 Ways to Tell a Guy You Like Him

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Admitting that you actually like someone is one thing; telling the person you like is another thing. And it’s really easier said than done. Unfortunately, we live in a society wherein it is embedded in our minds that the guy should always make the first move and that girls just have to wait for it patiently. But as time goes by, more and more women out there are breaking this stigma and actually making the first move and expressing what they feel, and I tell you, there’s nothing wrong with that.

Yes, it’s hard, but with the right advice and encouragement, you’ll definitely have the strength to do these tips.

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How Do You Know You Really Like Him?

1. If you are always thinking about him.

2. If your day is incomplete without talking to him.

3. When he makes you laugh and feel happy all the time.

4. When you can’t stop thinking of ways to spend more time with him.

5. When you feel jealous of other girls who get to hang out with him.

6. When he is the first and last person you text or call.

7. When all the songs on your iPod seem to be about him.

8. You can’t help smiling and in a good mood when you are with him.

9. You would do anything to see him laugh.

10. The thought of being without him makes you feel sick and miserable.

DONT Tell Him You Like Him, Unless …

1. You talk or text with him often

You should try to talk with him more before telling him you like him.

If you are friends with him now, try to get closer.

Make jokes or show that you’re funny and that you like fun.

You can also talk about classes, work or your family without seeming boring.

Do not be too enthusiastic when talking to him; this could scare him away if he doesn’t think of you as a potential love interest before already.

2. You spend a lot of time together, and he enjoys spending time with you

If you spend a lot of time together, this might indicate that he is interested in you as well.  Enjoy their company when they are around or try to plan fun activities together, such as going out to a new restaurant or taking a walk on the beach.

3. You touch each other frequently while talking or hanging out

Touching is one of the best signals that someone could give off about being interested in another person. If you find yourself touching him often, whether it’s playing with his hair or putting your arm over his shoulder whenever you begin laughing at something silly he says, then this is definitely a sign!

Always remember not to go too far if this occurs, or else he might get the wrong idea.

4. You stay near each other when with friends

You should try not to get too close so that he can start thinking about how much fun you two have together whenever everyone is hanging out. Only tell him if you think the time is right; no one wants an over-eager girlfriend!

5. He looks at you in a way that makes you feel special every time he talks to you or sees you

If his eyes light up whenever he sees you, his face lights up with joy and laughter every time he talks to you, or it looks like he wants to get closer when he’s around, this is definitely an indicator that maybe, just maybe; he feels the same way about you!

Try not to seem too eager for him to talk to you or look your way, though, because it might scare him off.

If all of these things are happening and no signs are coming from him saying that he doesn’t find you attractive, then don’t be afraid to tell him what’s on your mind because you’ll never know if he feels the same way until you ask.

You have nothing to lose but possible feelings of embarrassment; although that will only last a few minutes, it’s better than waiting years wondering “what if?”.

6. You both seem to get along really well and have lots in common

This could indicate that he is interested in you or that you might just be really good friends.

If you catch him looking at your eyes for longer than what would usually be comfortable without saying anything, or if he keeps asking questions about you or wanting to talk with you about personal things for no reason; then this means that he has an interest in getting closer and possibly more with your relationship.

Be careful, though, because sometimes people can have many things in common and still not end up together. On the other hand, he shouldn’t try to avoid spending time with you either; if he is more comfortable around you than others, this indicates that he wants to be around you as much as possible.

What to Prepare to Tell Him You Like Him

Make sure you have your heart ready for any possible outcome, whether acceptance or rejection. Don’t be afraid of a possible rejection; instead, feel good about giving yourself this chance no matter the outcome!

Here are some things to consider before you take the plunge:

1. Make sure you look your best when going to talk with him.

You don’t want the first thing he sees as a frizzy-haired mess or someone wearing smelly sweat pants and a dirty t-shirt.

2. Realize that a rejection is not a big deal.

If he says no to you, it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or that you did something wrong.

That does not mean you are a bad person or anything like that.

It just means that he doesn’t feel the same way about you and may not ever in the future. But, if this does happen, try to stay positive because there are plenty of other men out there who would love to date someone as amazing as you!

3. Be confident while telling him how you feel.

It is okay if you are a little nervous; everyone gets a bit anxious when talking about their feelings with someone else. Be sure to keep your voice steady, though and don’t stammer or stumble over any words.  Stay calm and good things will come from your newfound courage!

4. Smile!

Make sure that even though you’re nervous, ask him out and force yourself to smile! Don’t back down because of fear; this guy may become a really good friend or maybe even more than that.

5. Think about what will happen if he says “no.”

Will you ignore him from now on?

Will you cry in front of him if he says “no.”?

Will you ignore him from now on? Again, you must know how to deal with the rejection ahead of time so that it doesn’t affect your day-to-day life.

6. Do Practice what you’re going to say.

It’s important to memorize what you want to say before actually saying it.

This way, you don’t go blank and start stuttering or get really nervous. It is also a good idea to write out what you are going to say if possible because this can help release some of the emotions before actually having to speak with him face-to-face.

7. Be sure that he is not dating someone else, be it a friend or otherwise.

Try talking with his friends about this to avoid embarrassing yourself on any more levels than necessary by asking him out when he has a girlfriend or another form of relationship.

8. Do not ask him out in front of a bunch of people.

You don’t want to be embarrassed or put on the spot. Instead, please wait for a private moment and then come up to him and tell him how you feel. Of course, if he says no, it will still sting just as much, but at least there won’t be any witnesses!

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12 Ways to tell a guy you like him

1. Assess your feelings for him.

Distinguishing if what you feel is infatuation or not can be a bit tricky, but it’s better to do it than to act on it immediately. Your feeling for him may change over time, and you might regret admitting your feelings straight away.

2. Start simple conversations with him.

Talk about the things you have in common. For example, ask him about his hobbies, the movies or music he likes, or his stand on certain issues. Communication is not only important in keeping a harmonious relationship, but it is also essential once you confide your feelings to someone. By having these small conversations, you will get to know the person you like even more and eventually him. This will also show how interested you are in him, and not just in his physical appearance.

ALSO READ: 10 Smart Ways to Get Your Crush Notice You

3. Don’t build up the experience in your mind.

Imagining the experience when you tell him that you like him can hurt you. No matter how amazing your crush is, he is still a human being with his own emotions. He might be nervous or hesitant to discuss what he likes about a person. Also, if you think that your crush is perfect, think again. We all have flaws, so don’t get too intimidated by him. Avoid being too emotionally invested in a relationship where it hasn’t even started yet.

4. Show interest in the things he’s passionate about.

Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to force yourself into liking what he does; the act of asking him about it is one thing to do to take an interest in that matter. This will somehow encourage him to do better and would even make him notice you.

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5. Do something thoughtful.

Show that you’re interested in him by doing sweet and thoughtful things. Things like buying his favorite coffee or giving a book that reminds you of him. It doesn’t have to be so expensive or grand; it’s the thought that counts.

6. Ask for help.

Men, most of the time, like to feel needed. Yes I know, you are a “strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man,” but sometimes asking for help is not bad.

7. Just be yourself.

Don’t try to pretend something that you’re not. You want someone who will accept all your flaws and imperfections, and that wouldn’t show if you’re hiding it. This will also help you see if he’s worth the confession or not.

ALSO READ: 13 Ways to Impress Your Crush and Get Them to Like You

8. Open up to him.

I know that this is a bit hard since it’s very hard to trust someone. You can just share your personal experiences that you’re somehow comfortable sharing, or you can talk about your hopes and dreams. He’s not going to take you opening up to him lightly. He will surely feel honored for the opportunity and hopefully reciprocate it with his own vulnerability.

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9. Compliment him.

If you are thinking of something nice to tell him, say it! All of us, at some point, love being complimented, and the person we like is definitely not an exception.

10. Change your mindset.

This is true on many levels. Most of the time, the hardest part about confessing your feelings to someone is worrying that they won’t like you back or that you’ll be exposed because you said it first, and when they don’t reciprocate, you look stupid for it, or you’re somehow worthless. Of course, it never feels good to be rejected. Remember that it doesn’t mean anything other than he wasn’t interested. Don’t let it ruin your life, and remember that you’re still worth it despite such rejection.

11. Be bold.

When you are finally ready to tell a guy how you feel, take courage. It will still be scary after all the pep talk, but you just have to do it, or you’re back at square one. Sometimes you just have to do it; otherwise, you will always wonder what could have been if you just took the risk.

12. Accept rejection.

With every risk you take, the odds will not always be in your favor. Here, you can’t always get what you want. And when that happens, all that’s left to do is be civil and tell him that you want to keep being friends and really mean it.

Tell him that you feel much better at getting everything off your chest, and you are ready for whatever comes after. Being frank with our feelings is something we’re told to do, but we are never taught how. Even once you are used to it, it’s still not easy. The best you can do is tell how you feel and just hope for the best. And when things don’t work out, then try again next time.

Trying to tell a guy you like him is easier said than done; it will definitely take time, especially if you have little to no experience expressing your feelings to others. We all fear rejection, and that fear always results when you care about someone and putting yourself out there. Always remember that expressing your feelings to someone is a brave thing to do and that you should be proud of taking that risk. Whether or not the odds are in your favor and, take it as a lesson for you to learn in the future.


How to tell a guy you like him without scaring him away?

If you like a guy but have the fear of scaring him away, here are the ways to show him that you’re interested without scaring him off.

1. Be his friend first.

The main thing here is not to scare him away by telling a guy too soon. It’s ok to be friends first and let him get used to you before telling him how you really feel.

It’s important not to scare him away in the beginning by coming on too strong and telling him you like him.

Be his friend first, and let him get used to you while you figure out your feelings towards him. It might take a while for both of your feelings to change into something more, so testing the waters at the beginning is a smart idea.

When you get close to him, the first awkward moments are important for the start of your relationship, so be careful not to ruin it by coming on too strong initially and scaring him away with your feelings for him.

It’s a good idea to find out what he is interested in, his personality, and how he behaves with you as friends.

2. Go out to places where you’ll bump into him

While being friendly, find out which places or activities are his favorite so that you can join in on them together.

It will help make the conversation more interesting when both of you have something in common to talk about, and it’s a good way for the two of you to get closer.

To use this situation as an opportunity for your feelings, remember not to come on too strong!

3. Show your interest by doing what he loves to do.

If there’s something that you know he likes or would like to try, tell him about it! The best way to get around all the uncertainty is simply being yourself through your actions.

While this may mean coming off as awkward sometimes, if something he enjoys, show interest in it and ask him how much you like him about why he likes it so much! This will show that you’re willing to go beyond the surface level of liking someone and personally engage with them.

The best way to express interest is through your actions because they are the most genuine form of communication during a budding relationship.

4. Flirt with him.

It’s a good idea to let your feelings for him show while you’re talking to him, you can try to flirt with him a little if you feel comfortable doing so, but don’t turn it into something scary by overdoing it!

Try making subtle comments that are also funny and give out compliments.

Be subtle when communicating with him and try not to scare him away by moving on him initially. Instead, be as friendly as possible while letting your feelings for him show in subtle ways.

He may have the same feelings towards you as well! It might take time before your feelings for each other change into something more serious, and it’s important not to scare each other off at the beginning of your relationship.

5. Just say hi, don’t stutter!

Something casual like “hi” will do just fine, and make sure not to stumble while trying to get out the words!

If you’re talking with him online, it can be easy for the conversation to get away from what you want it to go towards. So have fun chatting about random things first and see how everything.

6. Practice what you’re going to say before actually telling him.

It’s normal to stutter or blush while trying to get yourself out there, so take your time and think about what you want to say beforehand so that you won’t have any trouble later on.

If you’re really nervous, practice the things you want to say in front of a mirror so that when you’re saying it for real, you won’t be as scared or as stressed about what he might think of your feelings.

The most important thing is to stay confident and not forget to smile! You don’t need to try too hard by constantly coming up with new ways to show him how much you like this guy. Just be who you are and enjoy yourself.

As long as you are confident about sharing how much he means to me, I’m sure this guy is worth taking the risk!

7. Watch for the signs if he likes you too.

It’s not easy to understand if a guy likes you just by looking at how he acts. So it can be a good idea to observe him before working up the courage to tell him how you feel.

Here are the signs your crush likes you.

8. Talk to his friends about your feelings yourself to find out if he likes you.

If you’re wondering how to tell a guy you like him, and he doesn’t know, ask his friends about it!

This seems scary at first, but by talking to the people who know him best, you’ll be able to get the information you need.

Ask them if they think he likes you back or just stick with asking if they think it’s okay for a girl to tell a guy she likes him.

When trying not to seem too obsessed (so as not to scare guys off), remember to stay confident in yourself and your feelings so that when you actually do come out with your feelings, don’t seem rushed or irrational.

9. Don’t confess too much.

You want to show that you are confident in yourself without seeming too whacky or desperate.

If you make it obvious how much he means to you and what would happen if you don’t date, the likely result will be that he will back off due to fear of commitment.

It’s important for both of your sakes that this doesn’t turn into something scary so remember not to overdo things and keep your statements simple while still knowing how much he means to you.

Trying to be cute but not pushing it out there will show him that you’re fun and interested without being too embarrassing or overbearing.

Even if he isn’t immediately attracted to you, showing confidence can help him feel at ease and open up more to the possibility of dating.

How to use body language to tell him you like him without words

The best way to show the guy you like is to use body language when talking with him. So, you should learn how to read the signals your body sends out.

1. Eye contact a lot!

Making eye contact will work well because you can look into his eyes to let him know how much you like him.

Make sure you don’t look away a lot and try to maintain an average amount of eye contact not to make it seem forced or awkward on his part. Also, try making eye contact with his eyes rather than looking at other areas of the face or body because this will allow for more connection during the conversation.

2. Smile a lot!

Smiling is a good way to show someone that you’re happy around them and, in general, just having fun being around them. It’s also a subconscious thing that makes people want to spend time with those smiling because they feel happier when they are around others who are smiling.

It also encourages them to let down their guards and have more fun with the situation since they know that they’re doing well with you.

If you smile a lot, your date will feel more comfortable and get to know you better because he or she will be more relaxed in your presence.

3. Touch his arm/hands

Touching hands can really help express how you feel about someone and allow the other person to know that you are serious about spending time with them.

Try lightly touching his or her hand during the conversation not to seem too pushy but also so that he knows that there is something special between the two of you.

4. Sit/stand closer to him.

Sitting or standing closer to him will allow for a more personal and intimate setting.

It’s important that you don’t sit/stand too close, or else it may scare off the other person due to his comfort level. Instead, stand next to each other rather than opposite one another to avoid crossing boundaries by invading the others’ space.

5. Touch your hair/face.

Touching your hair can have multiple meanings, but it usually is a way of flirting.  If you play with your hair while talking to someone, it may be considered more than just an innocent habit because it allows the person to witness it to believe that there could be something going on between you two.

Touching your hair or face is a way to show a guy that you like him.

Try not to touch too much, though, because it may make you look anxious, insecure, etc.

6. Lean in his direction when he’s talking

Leaning toward the person who you are interested in shows that you’re paying attention and trying to get closer to him or her physically.

Also, leaning forward allows for better eye contact rather than leaning back, so try to lean in when talking to him rather than leaning back.

7 Give him a gift.

Giving a guy that you like a gift can be one of the most powerful tools if used correctly. If you give him something small like a movie ticket or candy bar, it shows that he is on your mind and makes it seem like there could be something between you later on.

8. Share your snacks with him.

Sharing a snack with someone you like shows that you want them to be near you and enjoy your company.  It also allows for feelings of togetherness and intimacy. Sharing a bite at the same time indicates that there is a connection between the two of you.

Break your cookie in half, share the same pack of potato chips with him, etc.

9. Wearing his favorite color.

Wearing the color that he likes on you is a great way to show him how much you like him.  If he likes red, wear red. If he likes green, wear green.

It’s a subtle way of letting him know that you care about how he feels.

It also shows that you are trying to get closer to this person by dressing as they might to draw their attention toward you and acknowledge your presence in front of them.


If He Rejects you after Telling Him You Like Him.

If he rejects you, don’t let it get to you on a personal level.

He may have just not been ready for something to happen at the time and might think about you more later when it’s a better idea!

Don’t make everything into an emotional experience by assuming he rejected because of how much you like this guy if that wasn’t even your intention in the first place!

1. Show him your confidence by saying “thank you”

Thank him even if he rejects you. Saying thank you will show him that you are confident about who you are and what you’re worth. And this is the best way to show him you are a mature, charming girl.

If you’re too embarrassed or sad about his rejection, don’t even say anything at all. It would be better to give him some space so that he doesn’t feel pressured by a girl who likes him.

If he can’t figure out how to respond, whether it’s out of awkwardness or fear, he’ll feel more comfortable talking to you next time.

2. Don’t take it personally!

You did nothing wrong by telling a guy that you like him, so don’t be upset when he rejects you.

It may have been too soon for him to start thinking about relationships with other people, but this just means that there isn’t a connection or interest right now. It doesn’t

3. Don’t make him feel sorry.

Don’t be hurt and make him feel sorry for you. Just tell him that he need not worry because you like the way things are between you two.

If he is your friend, do it funnily so that it looks like his response didn’t affect you at all. This will earn further respect from him, which can only mean good things for the future!

If he isn’t interested, don’t give up on being friends with him or assume that this means there’s absolutely no chance of anything happening later on down the road.

Maybe later, when one of you has changed their mind, then maybe it will be time to revisit those feelings from before.

4. Don’t retract your words.

It’s NOT a good idea to say something like, “Oh, haha, I was just kidding.” if he rejects you.

Try to remain genuine and say it the same way you planned on saying it in the first place.

If he is confused about your feelings, reassure him that you are sincere about liking him, but if there isn’t a mutual connection, then it’s best for both of you just to be friends.

It’s possible if he is not ready now, but he may like you back later. He wants to avoid saying so and giving you false hope for future romantic intentions.

5. Move on.

Don’t try to make it seem like you are not bothered by the fact that he rejected you, but also don’t act too happy about it either. Don’t spend time with this guy just yet; if he sees you in a negative mood, he might think I really like this guy more and feel bad for rejecting you. Just wait for the right moment when you see each other again and try your luck again!

No matter how terrified and embarrassed you feel when asking him out and fear rejection, just tell yourself that being rejected by someone does not mean anything other than that this boy/girl is just not interested.

6. If he mocks or even hurts you by words.

In the worst case, he mocks or hurts you by saying hurtful things.

It is important that you remain positive and confident about yourself.

Let him know firmly and politely that this behavior is unacceptable because it only lowers his self-respect.

Think positive, and you should feel lucky that you do not need to waste your time on such a person.

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Bottom line

It is important to prepare yourself mentally before telling a guy you like him because you may not get the response you expected.

The best way to handle rejection is by being confident and mature about it.

If the guy likes you back after coming clean about your feelings, that’s great, but it’s best not to rely on false hope.

In the end, just be yourself!

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11 thoughts on “12 Ways to Tell a Guy You Like Him”

  1. I think I’m in love with my choir master, I look forward to seeing him Everytime. I’m scared of telling him how I feel. What if things don’t work out and I’m longer confident in his presence
    Or what if I loose his Respect

  2. I have this boy in my class and he is really hot and i want to tell him that i like him, but if he doesn’t like me and rejects me it is going to be really award to see him in school, and to start another conversion with him. All i want to know is if i should tell him i like him or should i wait till he shows me signs that he likes me too?

    p.s. if you have any input to my question you can say what you think i should do.

  3. I am like super nervous to tell this guy that I like him. It doesn’t help that every time I tell someone I like them I’m rejected. If I tell this guy I like him and he doesn’t feel the same its gonna get awkward becasuemI have to see him everyday. Im gonna do it though I don’t know when but I am so wish me luck I guess.

    • I have this boy in my class and he is really hot and i want to tell him that i like him, but if he doesn’t like me and rejects me it is going to be really award to see him in school, and to start another conversion with him. All i want to know is if i should tell him i like him or should i wait till he shows me signs that he likes me too?

      p.s. if you have any input to my question you can say what you think i should do.

  4. Well that is not the best option to do ..if you get rejected look at the positive side of life ..like the best times you spend together .it can help


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