Do you want to know if your partner is truly in love with you? Do you want to know if you truly love someone? Do you want to learn how to grow your love or inspire other people to purify their love? Do you want to understand what true love really means?
True love is extraordinary. It’s not an easy thing to do. It could even be the hardest thing to do in this world as we know it. We might think that we’re already giving true love, but the truth is… it might not just be enough.
If you want to know and understand what true love really is, here are 21 signs, qualities or characteristics of a genuine love according to the verses in the Holy Bible.
1. Love is patient.
True love can tolerate pain or suffering without complaining or getting angry.
2. Love is kind.
True love has a gentle, caring and compassionate heart. It feels your sorrow; it feels your joy.
3. Love is not envious.
True love is content and thankful of its blessings and current possessions. It doesn’t envy other people.
4. Love is humble.
True love is not proud and boastful. It is humble enough to admit its own mistakes and strive to correct them. It also forgives to get rid of hatred and enjoy peacefulness.
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4
5. Love is respectful.
True love respects and honors you as a person. It doesn’t put you into shame or humiliation.
6. Love is selfless.
True love is always thoughtful and concerned of the welfare of its beloved. It’s not selfish, inconsiderate, and greedy.
7. Love is calm.
True love always maintains clarity of mind and softness of heart. Its heart is deep and its mind is not narrow.
8. Love is righteous.
True love always does the right thing. It disciplines itself to avoid wrongdoings.
“It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.” – 1 Corinthians 13:5
9. Love is honest.
True love is truthful. It’s happy living an honest life. It doesn’t lie and hide in darkness.
“Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.” – 1 Corinthians 13:6
10. Love protects.
True love always protects you and wants you to be safe.
11. Love is trusting.
True love trusts. It relies and depends on you. It recognizes your abilities, talents, skills and the good things in you.
12. Love is hopeful.
True love is optimistic. It includes you in its plans. It sees a bright future with you.
13. Love is persistent.
True love doesn’t easily give up.
“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” – 1 Corinthians 13:7
14. Love banishes fear.
True love eliminates fear, anxieties and insecurities that torment one’s heart, mind, and soul.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” – 1 John 4:18
15. Love loves even those who don’t love it.
True love does good things even to those who hate it. It will love you even though you are treating it as your enemy.
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also. If someone takes your coat, do not withhold your shirt from them. Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back. Do to others as you would have them do to you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even sinners do that.” – Luke 6:27-33
16. Love comes from God.
True love brings you closer to God.
“Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” – 1 John 4:7
17. Love makes great sacrifice.
True love does extraordinary things. It goes out of its comfort zone or sacrifices things important to it just to show its love.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16
18. Love loves thru true actions.
True love is not based on words or hypocritical deeds, but it is based on truthful actions. It doesn’t only believe or hope, but it does actions that will make the things it believes or hopes a reality.
“Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” – 1 John 3:18-19
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” – 1 Corinthians 13:13
19. Love loves itself.
True love takes care of itself, not hurt itself. It develops itself to be stronger, healthier and more capable to continue on loving.
“In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.” – Ephesians 5:28
20. Love binds a person’s good virtues in perfect unity.
True love transforms you into a whole new and better person.
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” – Colossians 3:12-14
21. Love gives you confidence to face even the end of time.
True love keeps you away from sins and cleanses your soul so that you may become confident even on the Day of Judgment.
“In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him.” – 1 John 4:17
True love is indeed powerful and that’s why it’s not an easy thing to do. Giving pure love involves making great sacrifices and enduring a lot of pain. However, it rewards genuine happiness and fulfillment in life and beyond.
Perhaps we cannot make our love perfect in our first try. But love is not only a one-time act – it’s an act that we should practice consistently. Remember that practice makes perfect. Therefore, don’t stop trying to love truly.
I hope this article serves as your guide, not only in identifying if someone is giving you real love, but most importantly in learning how to give it. Take note that true love is more on giving rather than receiving. So start building true love inside you.
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Note: All Bible verses presented in this article are based on the New International Version (NIV).
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