To be happy in a relationship, you have to be the source of that happiness that you will share to your partner, the people around you, and back to yourself. Happiness in a relationship is also a choice which you can choose starting from your life when you’re still single. In this article, you will also learn that happiness is not only a choice but also a practice and a habit. Bring happiness in your relationship and make it last through these 8 ways:
1. Learn to be happy while you’re single.
Many people in relationship fail to be happy because they only enter into a relationship for the purpose of becoming happy. The truth is, being in a relationship is not about indulging yourself. It’s not about gaining your own happiness but it’s about sharing your existing happiness to another person.
If you cannot make yourself happy while you’re single, how can you make the two people in your relationship happy? Hence, practice happiness and joy while you are still single. Make sure that when you enter into a relationship, you are not hungry for happiness but you are abundant of it and ready to share it to the one you love.
2. Choose the right partner who will bring happiness in your relationship.
A happy relationship is based on wisdom – the ability to discern what is right and what is wrong to make the right choice. If you’re still single and looking for a partner, don’t rush it. Have knowledge, listen to your parent’s and friends’ advice, learn from the people who made mistakes in the past, and avoid making the same mistakes. Happiness is a choice. Hence, choose the partner who will help you build that happiness in your relationship.
Here are some enlightening articles you may read to guide you in finding the right partners:
- 12 Signs He’s the Guy You Should Marry According to the Bible
- 20 Signs She’s the Woman You Should Marry According to the Bible
3. Be the right partner who’ll inspire happiness in your relationship.
Now, if you’re already in a relationship or married with someone whom you truly love but you think s/he is the culprit of your relationship’s sadness and sufferings, don’t force her/him to change. More importantly, don’t blame or judge her/him.
If you have an ideal partner in mind, show it. Be an example, a role model, and be that ideal partner. Instead of forcing your significant other to change, inspire him to change by becoming that change you wish to see in her/him.
If you will only spend time and energy in forcing your partner to change, you might only end up frustrated. On the other hand, if you will focus on developing yourself to be more inspiring, you will achieve more fulfilment and happiness. Start loving yourself and filling your heart with joy. Then as you love yourself, love also your partner and make her/him happy.
4. Make your relationship inspire happiness to the people around it.
You and your partner would be happier if the people around you will support and bless your relationship. If it will inspire more people, more people will also wish and pray that it will last.
Hence, make your relationship healthier and more mature.
If you’re still in college, let your relationship motivate you to have higher marks so your teachers and classmates will be inspired. If you’re employed, make your relationship motivate you to work harder and be an outstanding employee to inspire your boss and co-workers.
Avoid fighting over petty things and don’t make unreasonable jealousies so the two of you will not experience unnecessary sufferings. Show your friends and family that because of your relationship, you have become more mature and responsible. That way, they will support your relationship instead of opposing it.
5. Forgive each other and move forward.
In a relationship, both lovers make mistakes. One will break the other’s heart, and vice versa. Pain and hurting are inevitable as the relationship embarks into a journey. But to suffer from that pain is not inevitable – it’s an option. It’s an option to forgive or not to forgive if your partner makes mistakes and hurts you. It’s a choice whether you want to hold on to your pride or to be humble enough to forgive the one who broke your heart.
If you want to be happy in your relationship, choose to forgive, especially if your partner has only committed minor mistakes. Without forgiving each other, the relationship will be paralyzed. It will not move forward toward a more colorful journey it deserves. Remember that happiness is the way, not the destination. Thus, forgive, forget and forward to enjoy things that still have to come in your relationship.
6. Stop making the same mistakes.
Forgiveness alone will not bring constant happiness in your relationship, especially if the sins committed are already repetitive. Remember that happiness is not wished but grown. Thus, improvement has to be seen and mistakes have to be eliminated. Forgiveness must be answered with repentance and transformation. Without repentance and growth, forgiveness will only be abused and become futile.
7. Make happiness in your relationship a habit.
Happiness or sadness is not only a choice but also a practice. They can also be a habit. Hence, after you choose to be happy, practice it every day and make it a habit. If you want to be happy in your relationship and make it last, break the habits that are making your relationship sad. Break the habit of lying, short-temperedness, laziness, and others that can destroy your relationship.
8. Have faith and don’t give up.
If there is true love in your relationship, have faith in each other and don’t let challenges overcome it. Don’t let physical things, such as money, time and distance destroy your love. You may experience financial problems, but bear in mind that your relationship is more than money. You might be in a long distance relationship, but remember that love defies time and space.
Those problems and obstacles may cause pain to both of you but on the other side, they can test your faith and love. It is during tests or trials that true love teaches you to be more patient and firm. By not giving up your love for the one you truly love, you can produce more patience and relentlessness that will help your relationship achieve real happiness, fulfillment and completeness.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” – James 1:2-4
For more pieces of advice to becoming happy in love, read these 18 Inspiring Tips to be Happy in a Relationship.
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