It doesn’t matter if you want to take on a new hobby, relationship, habit, or job, your mindset can make or break your success. There are some common mindset blocks that will keep you from doing anything you want to do, and, if you can’t get yourself to do what you need to do, the chances are you have a least one of them hindering your success at every turn. Which of the 5 mindsets do you have?
5 Mindsets That Will Keep You From Doing Anything You Want To Do
1. Avoidance Mindset
If you find that you often make excuses, then you likely have a mindset of avoidance.
You may say things like:
- I’ll do it tomorrow.
- I need more time to figure out how to do it.
- I want to make sure I got everything ready first.
- Tomorrow would be a better day to start.
We often avoid things because they seem too stressful, but in actual fact, the act of not doing things causes us to be more stressed.
Because of your mindset, you are avoiding taking action and it’s literally keeping you from doing what you want to do.
How To Change The Avoidance Mindset?
Take action and practice self-discipline in those areas that you often avoid doing what you need to do.
Start doing something, anything, every day that moves you towards what you where you want to be.
For instance, if you want to write a book, and you are constantly putting it off, try writing down one sentence per day. Stay disciplined to at least do that. As you do, you will find yourself committing to more and more each day and naturally breaking free from that avoidance mindset.
5 Affirmations That Can Help You Get Out Of The Avoidance Mindset
- I’m great at taking action.
- I take care of tasks as they arise.
- I enjoy getting things done as soon as possible.
- Today is the day to do what I need to do.
- There’s no time like the present to take action.
2. Catastrophizing Mindset
Do you believe the worst is going to happen anyway, so why bother? Then you might have a catastrophizing mindset.
You may say things like:
- Everything is going to go wrong.
- Things will get worse if I try to do something different.
- It will end in disaster anyway, so why take action?
- Life sucks and things always go wrong.
- It never works out in my favor.
With this mindset, we assume the worst is going to happen.
In fact, most people with this mindset see their current situation worse than it really is. They catastrophize everything in the present and future because their imaginations go amuck.
How To Change The Catastrophizing Mindset
Stop focusing on what could go wrong or is going wrong (even if it’s only in your mind!) and start focusing on what could go right.
This will take some practice if you are used to seeing the worst, but if you keep your focus on what’s going right and what could go right, you will be able to switch up your mindset.
When you focus on what could go right, you will be much more eager to try because the most awesome things could happen!
In short, tell a better story.
5 Affirmations That Can Help you Get Out Of The Catastrophizing Mindset
- There are many great possibilities that can come from one action.
- You never know when something amazing is going to happen.
- Things could work out better than I could ever imagine.
- The best is yet to come.
- Something positive can come from every situation.
3. Perfectionist Mindset
Do you demand a lot out of yourself? Are you scared of trying because you think it’s not going to turn out the way you want it to? Then you might have a perfectionist mindset.
You may say things like:
- If things don’t go as planned, I’m going to freak out.
- I can’t fail.
- I don’t want to fail.
- I need to do it perfectly.
- I want other people to see how great I am.
With this mindset, we put unrealistic expectations on ourselves and judge ourselves too harshly.
How To Change The Perfectionist Mindset
Develop the traits of patience, self-forgiveness, and going with the flow.
Be kinder to yourself and adopt a gentle way of speaking to yourself.
Expect failures to arise and view them as tools to help you become better.
These traits are necessary to help you stop demanding perfectionism and beating yourself up when failure happens.
5 Affirmations That Can Help you Get Out Of The Perfectionist Mindset
- Failure and mistakes help me learn and grow, so I value them.
- I forgive myself for not being perfect.
- I love myself for who I am.
- I am strong and can keep going even with failure arises.
- I treat myself with as much compassion, love, and kindness as I can muster.
4. Negative Mindset
If you focus on the negative, then you likely have a negative mindset.
You may say things like:
- There’s not much good in my world.
- Things usually work out poorly.
- Life sucks.
- Why bother? Things are not going to work out anyway.
- Nothing ever goes my way.
This negative mindset can keep you from doing things you want to do. It can create depression and stress and cause you to lose faith in yourself and the world around you.
How To Change The Negative Mindset
Practice gratitude. See the positive things in life and change your filter of how you view it and yourself.
Celebrate your wins. Make sure they stand out and you can clearly see that there is a lot going right in your life. You may want to write down your wins, even small ones such as ‘I had a good lunch’.
The more you focus on the positive, the more you will see it in every situation and look for it in the future.
5 Affirmations That Can Help you Get Out Of The Negative Mindset
- I focus on the positive.
- I enjoy life’s experiences.
- I am grateful for everything.
- Life is full of awesome wins.
- Things can always work out for the best.
5. Victim Mindset
If you feel like you are not good enough or deserving enough, then you likely have a victim mindset.
You may say things like:
- Life is meant to be hard.
- I’m not meant to have good things.
- I’m powerless to change my life.
- I’m not someone who gets what I want.
- Everyone is trying to hold me back from getting what I want.
How To Change The Victim Mindset
Understand the power of your words and pay attention to them.
How you talk to yourself dictates how you feel about yourself. If you are always talking about how hard life is and how everyone is holding you back, you will believe it, act like it, and manifest it into your life.
Changing your self-talk is imperative to get out of the victim mindset.
Pay attention to your thoughts. Decide where in life you want to stop being a victim and then choose better thoughts and affirmations to say to yourself as you begin your journey.
5 Affirmations That Can Help you Get Out Of The Victim Mindset
- I am responsible for my life.
- I can make great things happen in my life.
- I deserve great things in my life.
- Things can go right for me.
- I am strong and capable.
What mindset do you see in yourself? Please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comment section below.
