The moment you realize that you got a crush on someone could be one of those ecstatic feelings. How much more when you find out that the person likes you too? It could indeed bring you on cloud nine.
However, a successful crush life does not always happen. Sadly, it is not guaranteed that the person you like would like you back. There would always be that crush who would eventually pop your bubble and break your heart.
The question is, how will you know that your crush does not like you? What are the signs that it is an unrequited feeling? If you cannot trust your judgment right now because you are still head over heels, then evaluate your chance with these signs:
12 Signs Your Crush Doesn’t Like You
1. Doesn’t stare at you for more than a second
You know that you have a crush on someone if you are always tempted to sneak a glance at the person. Chances are, your crush could have already caught you doing it several times if you meet regularly.
If you have never caught your crush looking at you even for the slightest moment, then there is a big chance that s/he never does.
2. Doesn’t give you a second glance
If you saw your crush coming in, wearing a tuxedo or an evening gown, then it would be inevitable to look twice, right? You could not help but be mesmerized by his/her attractiveness. Yes, it could give you away.
Now, have you ever tried doing your best to glam yourself up because you wanted to attract your crush? If that person did not even bother to look at you for more than a second or glance at you twice, then it means your spell did not affect your crush at all.
3. Can approach you without any hesitation
Admit it; you feel conscious whenever your crush is around. Also, approaching the person could give you butterflies in the stomach. Being hesitant to approach your crush could give your secret away; did you know that?
How about the person you like? If s/he does not seem to mind approaching or talking to you—like s/he is not shy or conscious at all—then there are no butterflies in his/her stomach whenever you are around.
4. Doesn’t initiate or sustain communication with you
Except for non-personal concerns, has your crush ever texted or messaged you out of the blue? Like, did s/he ever asked how you are or what you are doing? If not, then maybe the person is not interested in you.
The same realization is true when s/he does not make any effort to keep your conversation going whenever you initiate. If you notice that your crush’s responses to you are short and limited, like one-word replies such as “okay” and “yes,” then that is it.
5. Is not available for you
When you like someone, you could never be too busy for that person. You would always make a way to find time for him/her. Of course, you want to impress your crush, and you also want him/her to know how much you care.
Whenever you try to ask for some time from your crush, like when you need help, and s/he does not even think twice to decline, then it is over. If your crush likes you, s/he would be hesitant to say ‘no’ to you in an instant. If you want to find out, you can try asking a simple help from him/her.
6. Doesn’t seem impressed by whatever you do
We are easily impressed by the person we admire, right? Like everything s/he does seems perfect. Yes, your crush does not need to do a lot to earn praises from you. That is how infatuation works. Whether you like it or not, a crush is more likely to be a mere infatuation than love.
Now, basing on this reality, do you think your crush is impressed by you at all? Have you ever heard a compliment from him/her? If the person you like does not seem to care about anything you do or even your achievements, then s/he probably does not care about you at all.
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7. Gets irritated by your constant presence
Are you that person who always tries to be around your crush to get attention? Well, if that individual seems to enjoy your presence, then there is a big chance that s/he also likes you.
On the other hand, if your crush seems to be unhappy or annoyed whenever you try to be near him/her, then it means s/he already knows about your admiration—and it is not taken gladly. Therefore, make sure to respect the personal space of your crush.
8. Rejects your offers
Have you ever tried asking your crush to date several times, and s/he would always give excuses? Or worse, s/he would blatantly decline. Or whenever your try to offer some help or assistance, it always ends up rejected.
Your crush would love to go out with you or receive any help from you. It would even exhilarate the person who likes you. Based on this reality, you would know if your crush likes you or not.
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If your crush never opens up to you, especially about anything personal, then s/he probably does not like you. It means s/he is not comfortable sharing with you, and worse, that person does not see the need to involve you in his/her world.
However, if you are originally close friends and s/he does not suspect anything about your feelings, it would be normal for the individual to be open. Please do not immediately assume that your crush likes you if this is the case.
10. Avoids you
The moment your crush finds out about your feelings for him/her, there would be more apparent signs if s/he likes you or not. If the person begins to avoid you after the revelation, then there is a big chance that s/he is not comfortable with the discovery.
The usual reason why a person builds a wall is to prevent someone from being involved in their world. Thus, if your crush avoids you, s/he is sending you a signal to back off because you are not invited to be part of his/her life.
11. Intentionally gets sweet with someone else whenever you are around
If your crush knows that you like him/her and the person feels the same way towards you, then s/he would be considerate of your feelings. Your crush would be careful not to hurt you.
On the other hand, if you see that your crush is not reluctant to flirt with someone else before you, then the answer is obvious. It is an indirect message that says, “I will rather be with this person than with you.”
12. Ignores your messages
Another clear sign that your crush does not like you is if s/he keeps ignoring your messages. Naturally, you would respond to your crush’s messages in a heartbeat, right? If it takes the person forever to open your message, even if s/he is always online, it means your messages are not considered important.
Well, you can try sending messages to your crush several times. There is a possibility that s/he is only busy at one point. However, if the ignoring always happens, then it is confirmed.
It’s Okay, Just Move On
The earlier you find out that your crush does not like you, the better. At least, you would be saved from investing more emotions in someone who would not like you back.
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Chinese Translation: 12种迹象表明你的心上人不喜欢你
Well… I have a crush… but it’s confusing, I don’t know if he likes me or not… he tells people he has a crush on me too… but then yells at me saying he doesn’t like me and I’m weird for thinking so… What should I do?