Afraid to fall into temptation while in a long-distance relationship? You are probably looking for tips that can help you avoid that.
Being in an LDR, like during this quarantine period, could be uneasy for many. It is not enough that you miss each other. Some problems may also arise, such as trust issues, communication gaps, and even the temptation to cheat.
In order to protect your relationship from mistakes that can be so disastrous, decide to be faithful. Here are some sensible ways that may help you avoid temptations in an LDR.
1. Remind yourself why you love your partner.
This is one effective way to shut off the temptation to turn to someone else. Keep yourself in love with your partner or spouse by reminiscing about your past together and why you have chosen him/her. Then, ask yourself if you are willing to risk losing this person.
2. Decide not to break your partner’s trust.
Being faithful in a relationship requires commitment. Decide to be a good steward of the trust that has been given to you. If you condition your thoughts this way, it would be easier for your mind to keep from wandering.
3. Practice transparency in the relationship.
Transparency is very helpful in a long-distance relationship. It is not limited to giving your social media account passwords to your partner. It also involves being open about your whereabouts and who you are with.
4. Keep regular communication.
Communication is the key to a successful relationship, whether long-distance or not. If possible, communicate every day. Always give time to talk or video call each other.
5. Limit friendship with the opposite sex.
If you know you get easily attracted and attached to anyone from the opposite sex, then this is a must. Set a boundary in your friendship with the opposite sex, especially those who are nearby. Avoid prolonged talking, coquettish teasing, and going out alone with them.
6. Avoid keeping secrets from your partner.
Along with transparency, honesty and openness are important elements in an LDR. The moment you start keeping secrets from your partner, no matter how small they are, begins your vulnerability to temptations.
7. Resolve conflicts immediately.
Conflicts are more difficult to settle when you are in an LDR. The communication barrier caused by distance and limited time to talk is a factor here. Therefore, whenever you have a lovers’ quarrel, agree to settle the issue as soon as possible.
8. Keep yourself busy.
Idle moments are your most vulnerable moments. For this reason, always find something productive to do or think about. Whenever not-so-good thoughts creep into your mind, shake them off, and distract yourself.
9. Do not engage in light flirting or fling.
As I have mentioned in no. 5, coquettish or flirty teasing with someone else from the opposite sex must be avoided. Moreover, whenever you feel someone is hitting on you, do not entertain it. There is no such thing as harmless flirting.
10. Avoid finding comfort in someone from the opposite sex.
It is not bad to have a best friend from the opposite sex, especially if you go way back before you met your partner or spouse. However, please understand that once you are in a relationship, your partner must become your closest friend and confidante. Avoid sharing secrets and heartaches with someone else from the opposite sex.
11. Minimize unnecessary socializations.
Yes, you can still party and enjoy the nightlife. However, be aware that they could lead you to tempting situations. For instance, you could meet attractive fellows in the bar, or get so drunk at a party, ending up in unsuitable situations with the wrong individuals. You know what I mean.
12. Find recreation.
If you are bored and have a lot of free time, find a hobby. This will lessen your chance of entertaining wild thoughts, such as meeting new guys or gals, just for the sake of the thrill.
13. Be afraid of STIs.
Keep yourself informed about the danger and rampancy of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Hopefully, whenever you are about to give in to the urge of getting sensual with random individuals, you can remember this.
14. Do not be too sweet to others from the opposite sex.
Aside from limiting your friendliness with others from the opposite sex, avoid being too sweet and caring to them. This could result in the other person falling for you—and you might be tempted to respond. Examples would be walking or driving a girl home alone and asking a guy to be your crying shoulder.
15. Cut harmless but prolonged chatting, texting, or calls with someone else.
Some think this is totally harmless, as long as you do not talk anything intimate between you. However, the more time you spend communicating with a person, the more you get attached to him/her. Therefore, avoid having habitual chats, texts, or calls with another person.
16. Ponder about the outcomes if you give in.
Are you ready to lose your partner or spouse? No secret can be hidden forever. Thus, if you think your relationship is a serious deal, then do not engage in non-serious ones. Your partner will surely find out.
17. Keep your relationship passionate.
Another way to keep yourself from cheating is by staying in love with your partner. Therefore, talk with him/her about how you can keep your relationship exciting despite the distance.
18. Pray that you do not fail.
Instead of being overconfident that you will not fail, be humble before God. Ask for His wisdom and strength daily. Admit that you are vulnerable to temptations, so you need His protection and guidance.
It is Worth the Wait
Distance and time are among the testing factors that can prove your love for a person. If you believe that you have found the one, then do not let him/her go. Do not let any temptation destroy everything you have been waiting for all this time.
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