Keeping your girl in love with you is not that difficult if you really love her in the first place. She only wants to feel loved. She also needs a strong, confident and honest guy to make her feel safe. You have to win her over and keep the flame alive. If you’re worried that the spark might die soon, here are 12 ways to keep your girlfriend in love with you.
1. Make her feel beautiful.
Girls want to feel beautiful and confident about themselves. So, go about setting your girl free into the world. Compliment her soul, look her in the eyes when you tell her how much you love her, hold her hand, and be her beacon. When she wakes up in the morning, tell her she looks great, let her soar, and admire her in flight.
2. Be her hero.
Some girls are independent; they feel as if they don’t need anyone’s help. However, there will be some instances when she will need your help. Let’s just say, she unexpectedly experienced her monthly period while she’s in the classroom and unfortunately, she doesn’t have an extra pad. She’ll probably call you to buy one and that would be a great time for you to show her that you can be the hero she’s always wanted but never knew she needed. Thus, always be willing to be there for her even if it seems like your girl is independent.
3. Make her feel safe.
Girls like having arms wrapped around them, simultaneously holding them close and pushing the world away. The desire to be protected covers feeling physically, emotionally, and spiritually safe. If you can make your girl feel safe she’ll overlook a lot of other faults. So, let her feel comfortable every time you’re together, because helping your girl feel secure empowers her to do the things that her heart tells her they need to be done.
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4. Be willing to take the blame.
Even if it is not your fault, be willing to apologize. A simple “I’m sorry” won’t cut it, it has to be deep and real for her to know you mean it. So be a little creative, you may send her a dozen of roses, buy her favorite food, or leave her sweet notes that she may actually think how sincere you are.
5. Make her laugh.
When life is too serious, the bravest thing you can do is to laugh. Goof around, be playful, have fun, find some grass and do some somersaults. Love will surely sit next to you, it’s head on your shoulder, smiling all the while, for where there is laughter, there is love.
6. Make her feel involved.
If you want her to adore you more, you have to share and make her feel involved in your life. Always ask her opinions on whatever decisions you’re going to make, when asked about “how’s your day” reply with more than just a “fine”, and if you have any problems, don’t hesitate to open up about it.
7. Be nice to her family and friends.
Learn to love those people who have been part of her life. Don’t just brush them off without asking the time to really get to know them. Instead, ask them how they are, share something about yourself, and show that you care about them.
8. Listen to her.
The next time she talks to you, you should really listen to her and absorb every word she says. Put away all the distractions and look into her eyes while she’s talking. Don’t interrupt her, just be there to listen and understand what she’s telling you. This will make her see that you really care about her.
9. Be honest with her.
Honesty is the best policy and it also attracts girls. So, as much as possible, talk openly with her, tell her everything that happens to you, and don’t ever lie.
10. Trust her.
Trust isn’t just given out of nowhere. When you know you can trust your partner, it removes a large potential for worry and also builds your internal security. Open your mind, get rid of your bias, don’t jump to conclusions, be positive, know her deeper, and learn to love her better.
11. Prove to her that she’s your only one.
Girls won’t fall in love with someone who will not catch them when they fall. Hence, be loyal to her. Never ever cheat or do something that will give her a reason not to trust you again. Make her fall in love with you over and over again by proving to her that you will always be there for her, waiting to catch her, and only her.
12. Make sacrifices.
Your big sacrifice will prove how big your love for your girlfriend is, while your series of sacrifices (small or big) will prove how consistent your love is for her. Girls will definitely feel more loved and will certainly fall in love with their boyfriend if they realize that their guy is sacrificing something important just to make them happy. Therefore, be selfless and make sacrifices for her. Sacrifice your big ego, get rid of your hard-to-break bad habits, or even let go of your personal ambitions for the betterment of your relationship with her.
If all you want is to be a guy she falls in love with, try to follow the tips above to make her stay in love with you and happy to stick with you for life.
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