7 Ways to Make Your Girlfriend Respect You

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Respect is one of the most important elements your relationship should have. It’s something that should be established even when you just start off as friends. You have to make sure that you and your partner are a team and you are both honest, considerate, compassionate, and of course, be sensitive to each others’ actions. This will give your relationship a stronger bond and will also make it long-lasting.

It’s really important that the both of you respect each other, if not then you might want to assess or ask yourself what’s wrong… or what’s lacking. So, here are 10 ways to make your girlfriend respect you.

1. Respect yourself.

Respect must come from yourself first. You will learn how to believe and not doubt someone if you apply it to your own life. If she sees that you don’t care about yourself, she will eventually not respect you. How can you expect someone to give something that you don’t even give to yourself?

2. Be more independent.

Being independent is one of the really effective ways to make your girlfriend respect you. Standing firm on your decisions in life and not merely relying on the opinion of others is the way to do it. It shows signs of maturity which is good if you are in a relationship. It can also show how committed and serious you are in your relationship.

Men are expected to be strong even when times get hard, so complaining and whining like a kid about how life is tough is a big turn-off to your partner. Don’t get me wrong, it’s okay to vent out your frustrations to her but don’t overdo it. It’s expected that no matter how hard the situation is, men can still keep their composure and find possible solutions to the problem. The stronger you are as a man and a boyfriend to your partner, the more admiration, and respect you’ll receive from your partner.

3. Keep your word.

When you do not keep your promises, she loses her trust in you let alone respect you. If you said that you would do something or promised to take her out, fulfill it. When you always do what you promised it shows your integrity and your worthiness to be respected, your girlfriend will surely respect you for showing that kind of value.

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4. Respect her even when she’s not around.

Respect should not end when you are with the person, it should also be applied even when she’s not around. Talking badly about your girlfriend such as belittling comments without her knowing it shows that you do not respect her. Not only will it show how bad you are as her partner, but it will also show how bad you are as a person in front of other people.

Also, hitting on other girls when your girlfriend is not with you is a big no-no. Flirting is a sign that you don’t respect her and your relationship. If she finds out that you did that, she will not trust you anymore and eventually lose all of her respect for you.

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5. Tell the truth, always.

Honesty is also one of the most important aspects of any kind of relationship. Even when the truth hurts, it is better to tell it anyway rather than your girlfriend hearing it from other people. How can she respect someone who doesn’t tell the truth? Owning up to your mistakes is so much better than denying it.

6. Stand up for yourself- and for your relationship also.

There will always be people who would say bad things about you and your relationship. We can’t please everyone but when they are crossing the line, know how to defend it. You just can’t turn a blind eye on people who can just freely insult and degrade your relationship. Standing up for yourself and defending both of you will let her clearly see how much you care and treasure your relationship no matter who brings it down.

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7. Respect her if you want to be respected.

The golden rule- and this does not only apply to your girlfriend but to other people also. How can she respect you if, in the first place, you do not even treat her well? Anything that we demand or ask our partner, we should also give it to them. It’s a give and takes relationship, it shouldn’t end up like you’re the only one who’s benefiting from it. Remember that respect begets respect.

Having a relationship in today’s world needs a man to really know how to deepen the respect, love, and attraction that a woman feels for him over time. If he can’t do that, the relationship will eventually fall (or very quickly) apart. That is why having your girlfriend respect you just as much as you respect her can help not only understanding each other’s perspective but also making your relationship last longer.

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Emmanuel Agangan
Emmanuel Agangan
June 23, 2020 9:16 pm

I feel u guys not having respect in your relationship should just Walk away from the relationship and start playing hard to get. Girls want u to show your masculine energy that his who dey are . They love heartless men men that puts them in their place over men who just pretend to be nice just to manipulate the girls to like them . Girls want Real Girls they are not foolish but wise So rise up and be the man u truly are

April 4, 2020 1:01 am

Hi all so this is the situation I am in and I need help. So I’ve been with my girlfriend for a year but we aren’t together atm because I had to have a break from it because I was loosing the plot but I am trying to get us back on track and idk how to she is blunt to me, she is hard to have a conversation and easily gets mad at me. (The start of the relationship I didn’t treat her right and was horrible and I was selfish and I didn’t care about the relationship at all and she is seriously hurt from all that and upset deeply) and I realised what I did was wrong completely wrong and now I am trying to make it right but I just don’t know how I just need advice.

February 8, 2020 1:09 am

So I’m taking to my girl and I lost my respect a while ago but we still talk but it’s been hard lately she doesn’t reply she sees it but won’t reply .i asked her what’s wrong she said that I lost the respect she had for me because I said she didn’t care about me no more .now I want to earn all that back but idk what to do I apologize, complement her sometimes she just replies ok and stuff . What should i do

December 17, 2019 5:15 am

2* i believe she know too much

3* Most times i doubt if she has fellings

What can i do to put it in her and command her respect.

December 17, 2019 5:12 am

My girlfriend complains that i am too concerned about her issues,that i am too emotional. I also have an issue with commanding her respect because it seems i neva had a core value from the beginning of the relationship.

Each Tim i try to caution her she flairds up when i try to speak my opinion to her she tends to get burned with all my talk i try asking her what the reason may be but she has always said my talk do make her sleep but i try my best to make the conversation more interactive and flowing

I am so confused right now because i fill i should quit the relationship but i have a strong fear of loosing her or even replacing her.

1* I don’t have her respect and can not command her.

October 30, 2019 9:56 pm

My two cents … Dude, she is cheating on you and wants to break up so she can have all the sex she wants without you being able to point it as “cheating”.

Reply to  kotko
May 23, 2020 6:59 pm

I love my girlfriend very much , I respect her but she doesn’t respect me. If I bring that up , she just suggest that we should just break up if I feel disrespected then.

July 22, 2019 1:37 pm

I dunno how to put this and i dunno if the site is active anymore but…
I have a girlfriend with whom i am really very close
In fact we are so close that we never had a serious fight in our relation and believe me…we’ve been in relation for a long time

The problem starts when we are apart

At times, we have to spend atleast a month or two due to our vacations( we’re senior highschoolers) and even though we depart on the start of vacations with the happiest lovey dovey note a few weeks into the vacation the she occasionally asks for break up…

She doesn’t entirely dump me…but she asks my permission for break up…See??

The next day…i would go to her house ( which is virtually impossible due to her hitler mother) and ask her what the matter is but she smiles and says nothing

What must be wrong??

P.S i suspect it is due to the society(teachers,neighbors,parents)

P.S Don’t advise me to ask her what the reason is cause i tried that a million times

Enoch Helejose
Enoch Helejose
June 25, 2019 11:14 pm

please am Enoch
my girlfriend broke up with me
because I failed a promise I made to
her, but she came back after four months
because I really love her I accepted her
and we continued the relationship, but
because I do call her often, and text her
everyday, she sometimes complain about
me loving her too much. I think am losing her respect, now is been five months now after she came back, and her behavior has
changed by time… please i need your advice, what should I do to gain her respect in our relationship
thank you

June 13, 2019 5:07 pm

Hi Tim, I must say this question is vague. What sort of advice were you asking her friends? Is it about what she likes? Or you were reporting your disagreements with her friends, and asking for their advice? If it is the latter, too bad, some ladies don’t like that, especially the introverted ones. They love the relationship being private even from their friends.

Sincerely apologize for your actions and promise never to repeat such again. I believe she still love you, and she will find it somewhere in her heart to forgive you.

On a side note, try to reduce your interactions with her friends, this might be what she doesn’t like or jealous of.

May 23, 2019 10:32 am

Hi, my girlfriend gave up on me because I was asking her friends for advice when I didn’t know that I wasn’t allowed to talk to her friends. I’m completely lost and don’t know what to do.
She only wants to be friends with me cause she’s pregnant with her and my baby.
I really don’t want to lose her just cause of me messing up by accident. Please reply back asap as this is urgent.

Ut osas
Ut osas
Reply to  Tim
September 18, 2019 9:54 pm

Hi pls my girlfriend dnt respect me, even when she is doing the wrong thing, I do tell her she won’t even listen to anything I am saying pls help me

Reply to  Tim
July 2, 2020 9:20 am

if she give up on you for the stupidest tiny sh*t, obviously a bigger problem is festering base on many other reasons.

Sam Ayebanate
Sam Ayebanate
November 25, 2018 9:58 am

Please I need your help…my girlfriend has lost complete respect for me, I have turned her off completely, I have let her walk all over me and I noticed I have made those mistakes that turn her off…she no longer responds to my messages in fact she reads them and doesn’t reply to them. She tells me not to touch her and gets disgusted by it, she looks at me with complete disgust and dislike.. she doesn’t want to be around me anymore.. please what should I do to get her respect back and interest… please I will be very grateful if you respond to my message

Reply to  Sam Ayebanate
January 23, 2019 10:20 pm

I am sorry to hear that and that is the fear as most of us men have. At the end of all this surprising or not you should stop all contacts with her temporarily. I know it’s scary but 99.9% of the time this works. I would say about 3 weeks or less but minimum I strongly recommend that time frame of 2 weeks. You’d be surprised how they start to reflect on all the things. During those time try to focus on yourself weather it’s picking up new education, learning new instruments, picking up hobbies to keep you busy. Bettering yourself during that time is the most important thing you can do. It shows you are stable again and also it gives the fear to the significant other how you can live your life positively without her. Most likely she will come back with a whole new view of you.

Hope this will help

Reply to  Dk
May 23, 2019 10:03 am

Hi, my ex split up with me 4 months ago and i begged back massively and letting him away with the mistakes he made that hurt me just so he wouldn’t leave, I now feel I clearly have shown him not to respect me and looked proper weak ass by begging n being relentless to get him back, he came back for a bit but not on a relationship title just cosbhe says he loves me, doesnt like me hurt n hates not bein in my life and wants us to work out in the future but needs to be on his own to get over everything first, is this just an empty promise to give me hope? And what do i do to regain his respect and interest