How do you make your husband happy? How do you make him feel how blessed or lucky he is to have you as his wife? How do you make him loyal to you so that your marriage will be happier, healthier, and will last longer?
It’s natural for men to need sexual pleasure, but it’s not the only thing that can give us satisfaction. Like other human beings with a heart and soul, we also need things beyond physics and nature that can fill our spirits with joy.
Every marriage is a unique story but here are 12 ways that may help you inspire your husband with joy and happiness.
1. Be abundant with happiness.
Be a blissful wife. If you want to make your husband happy, you have to have a heart full of happiness. He will not be happy if you are always depressed, irritated, and frustrated in life. Thus, be a more positive and cheerful person. Get rid of things that make your heart sad, such as anger, discontentment, and bitterness. Fill it with hope, thankfulness, and joy instead.
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2. Let him lead.
Let your husband take the stirring wheel of your marriage. It will make him feel that you trust and rely on him. It will also give him a sense of responsibility, purpose, and direction in life. However, you have to make sure that while your husband leads your marriage, God is always the center of it. Never let your husband lead your marriage and family in wickedness and destroy all of your happiness.
3. Stop nagging.
If you think nagging will help your husband become a better person and make your marriage grow, you are thinking it wrong. A nagging wife is every husband’s nightmare. If you want your husband to do or change something, stop telling him constantly and forcing him to do it. Your nagging will only make him feel like a hopeless person. It will only make him worse and your efforts will be wasted.
If you want your husband to change, make him happy instead of irritating him. Make him happy by giving him hope. Trust him and let him do his own way. Just continue working on yourself in silence to be a better partner for your husband and hope that you inspire him to do the same.
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4. Respect him.
Treat your husband as a man and the father of your children. Do not belittle him in front of your friends, kids, and other people. Seek his advice when you make a decision. Listen to him when he says something and appreciate his ideas or opinions.
Respect is one of the most important things that will keep your marriage alive and healthy. Hence, don’t let anyone (including yourself) disrespect your husband. Always respect your husband and your marriage vows.
5. Be loyal and faithful.
Make your husband happy by giving him confidence that he is your only one. Do not even think about any act of cheating. Make your husband feel handsome as he also makes you feel beautiful. And no matter what challenges come into your marriage, be faithful and hold on to your marriage. Knowing that you will be with him through thick and thin will surely make him feel blessed with your marriage.
6. Be kind to your husband.
When your husband makes mistakes or falls short of your expectations, do not easily get mad and be harsh to him. Men may be a symbol of strength, but we also have a heart that will be broken when the person we love becomes rude to us.
To make your husband happy, be considerate with him. Be his best friend who knows and understands him the most. Be generous with him, not only with material gifts, but also with patience, love, and understanding.
7. Forgive him.
Forgive him for breaking your heart, especially if he sincerely asks for your forgiveness, and shows that he will never repeat the same mistake again. And for petty offenses he has made, learn to just forgive and forget them even before he asks for your forgiveness.
When you forgive your husband, you do not only make him happy but you also heal your heart and make yourself happy. You prevent yourself from planting hatred in your heart and you keep the relationship in harmony.
8. Don’t let pride comes into your heart.
Do not create walls that will block your husband from communicating with you when you are mad at him. The walls you build will only make both of you suffer and experience misery. If you want your husband to be happy every day, always be open to him and talk to him about your complaints and problems.
Pride is one of the top culprits why relationships fail. Do not be overcome by it. Get rid of pride by embracing humility. Be humble to forgive, admit your own mistakes, and approach your spouse first no matter how hurt you are. Remember that humility comforts everyone who receives it. It also blesses everyone who gives it.
9. Be a responsible wife.
Fulfill your marital duties to your husband. Surrender your body to him. Give him the affection he needs. And above all the physical and sexual things he needs from you, give him the spiritual things he needs, such as love, faith, loyalty, trust, and respect.
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10. Be a responsible mother.
Women are naturally born to be responsible mothers to their own children. However, being a mother is not an easy job. It’s even considered the toughest job in the world by many. Thus, make sacrifices and invest more time and effort to take care of your children. If you want to make your husband happy, see to it that his offspring are being raised and nurtured by the greatest mom in the world, you.
11. Love your parents-in-law.
Avoid conflicts with his parents and siblings. No matter where they are, live in harmony and happiness with them. Your husband will not be happy if you and his parents are always fighting. If you love your husband, you have to accept his parents and siblings for what they are.
12. Love yourself.
Don’t just be responsible for your husband and children but also be responsible for yourself. Take care of yourself. Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself. No matter what you do, if you cannot love yourself, you cannot really love and make your husband happy. Therefore, love yourself as you love your family. Don’t let yourself fall into sadness, ugliness, and sickness.
Be the first to love and produce happiness
Pain and suffering will normally come into your marriage. It is not easy to make someone happy, especially your husband. There will be a lot of challenges. Sometimes, you will feel that he is being unfair and he doesn’t deserve your complete love. Sometimes, you will forget about making him happy since he’s only causing you misery. However, remember that marriage is not about how your spouse makes you happy, but how you make him and yourself happy.
As a wife, you are responsible for your husband’s happiness. And as a soul, you are responsible for your own happiness. Yes, your husband is responsible for making you happy, but it’s not your responsibility to force him to make you happy.
You cannot control him to make you happy, but you can control yourself to make him and yourself happy. Therefore, just focus on giving happiness to your husband, your children, and yourself. That’s what true love meant to be. Love your spouse as you love yourself. Always be the first to love and produce happiness.
If your spouse will not love you back or make you happy in return, at least you have produced enough love and happiness for yourself and for your children.
Love truly and be an infinite fountain of joy and happiness!
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Being loyal is one of the most important aspect of any relationship. Thanks so much for sharing these tips.
I’m such a failure in all these points
I been with my wife almost 15 years, I been thinking about asking for a divorce for years but I don’t want the kids to grow up without a father figure in the house. I feel like that I am hurting myself on staying on a relationship that you feel love or needed no affection from my wife. I am getting more frustrated by day is it fair to stay when I am so unhappy.
You didn’t mention anything about cooking wonderful meals for your husband. In our home this is number one on our list ” the way to a mans heart is through his stomach”